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  • in reply to: My Kundalini Horror #427660
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    Not all meditationa are the same. Nor is every response to kundalini the same. I would like to point out new studies in meditation which study mindfulness or passive meditation techniques versus tantric or focused meditative practice. the results are very different. i am pointing this out because it goes to the issue of feeling out of control from kundalini. people with tantric training can have entirely different outcomes than those without such training. read this article. skip the technical stuff and consider the results. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2665945X22000262

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    in reply to: I just randomly and suddenly fell out of love #427661
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    [quote quote=82440]I was madly in love with my boyfriend. We’d speak everyday and got on so well. Sexually things are fantastic. I felt so in love and I felt like I was falling more and more in love with him everyday. Everything seemed perfect. Then one evening I suddenly just thought “I’m not in love with him anymore.” That was 3 weeks ago now and the feeling still hasn’t come back. I’ve cried everyday and feel so depressed about the fact. I don’t want anyone else. He’s the most amazing person and so good for me. The day before I felt that way I’d even daydreamed about being engaged to the guy. I’ve fell out of love before but that was for genuine reasons. Breakups, not getting on, not actually being in love in the first place, etc. There’s no reasons here and I’m heartbroken. I don’t believe anyone else could be so good for me. I really want to keep trying because I really feel that we’re worth it but I’m so scared. Any advice?[/quote]

    The feeling of love is itself not love. Love is the result of the effort of making love. Not sex but being kind and caring and true.  True love can only be known after a duration of time. You will only know it is love by the sacrifices you make to retain the quality of the relationship.  A relationship without any sacrifice is not a relationship. A relationship by definition is an ongoing sizing up between or consideration of differences.

    At any rate, and relationship where one will not make any sacrifice to retain the good graces of the other cannot be said to amount to much. It it’s just over for you because you fell out of love then it must not have amounted to much in the beginning. That’s not a criticism. Perhaps you suddenly woke up and found out that the cliche of loving another wasn’t a vital necessity to you. Or maybe you changed. Or you have new goals.

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    in reply to: Truth: The Whisky Talks #427659
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    they always say to serve mankind. but serving and serving are two different things. imagine two people cooking for others. one just makes things but doesn’t care, while the other cares alot about what they make. is there a difference?

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    in reply to: I’ve been scared my whole life, now I’m angry. #427658
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    most everybody goes through intense experiences as a youth. part of this is individuation. but part also is to set ones path.  it’s good to realize tat even if the most intense thing one ever encountered was someone stealing their gumballs a person would remember tat as a low moment for themselves, and seek a different future. that’s not a good example but basically it doesn’t matter exactly what one experiences as a youth, some of it will be the worst that one has even known and that will set ones path for the future. as one grows older things make less of an impression for high or low. the early highs and lows though will set ones feet on their path. it happens to everyone, and is a necessity. imagine never experiencing highs or lows and then trying to be motivated to follow a specific course. it would be mere drudgery.

     

    plus, someone once said, nobody cares about happy people. it’s only the damaged who are interesting. i would further say that only the damaged have something of depth to contribute. happy people got nothing to contribute less it be dope

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    in reply to: How to Socialize as a Loner… help #427657
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    take community college classes

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    in reply to: What is your favourite pastime? #427655
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    cooking with my parrots

     

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    in reply to: What was your favorite country to visit? #427654
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    Bali – outdoor rooms and showers. The stars are different! Beautiful Hindu temples. Nice people.

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    in reply to: Low self-esteem & constant need to be wanted…help! #427635
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    PS. The pleasure that we get from sex strokes out catecholamines (dopamine, serotonin, norephinephrine, etc).  We can mistake the pleasure of another’s sexual company for something going on in our soul, when in reality it’s just something going on in our brain.  If one feels deficient in regular life but especially wonderful from another’s attention then that’s probably what it is. Finding a balance to ones own brain chemistry would be a healthier means to accomplish a sustainable lifestyle. Nothing is more unpredictable that another person and relying upon someone else to feel good is the sure way to not feel good. A couple great drugs that don’t fuck up ones sex life include buspirone and selegiline. Proper use of them can increase serotonin and dopamine levels without the lows of other drugs. Check them out. Self work first.

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    in reply to: Low self-esteem & constant need to be wanted…help! #427634
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    I’ll never forget my first love. Of course. Or how she crushed my very soul. It took me a year to get over her. And I’ll never forget the lesson that I learned during that year – that what I loved about her was all a product of my own mind. She wasn’t who I loved at all. Now did we ever think alike, or communicate in truth. I was in love with love.

    My later relationships were more true. Actual communication. Consideration. I looked outside of my own mind. I stopped romanticizing the whole male female thing. While yes I did realize I need a partner in my life to feel complete, I never again made the mistake of thinking that another person is as simple as to be there just for me, or to satisfy my own romantic needs. The other is a partner with whom one can enjoy some comfort when time permits. With my present partner we have always been on odd schedules and never see each other. But we’re happier around each other than around anyone else.

    Sacrifices. I sacrifice easy dating to spend time with the one I care most about. Sacrifices. She and I are nothing alike. We have to discuss things. Sacrifices. There’s no such thing as a soul mate, unless you make one. But don’t bet on such a thing. If your souls mate then that’s it. You will know the truth of it by how much you both are willing to sacrifice to remain together.

    Thanks for reading.

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    in reply to: Is Life Itself Divine? #427581
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    [quote quote=421765]Do you think life itself is divine? If so, how do you know? How would you define divinity?[/quote]

    if it isn’t then nothing is

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    in reply to: Unable to find a spiritual community that fulfills me #427580
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    i prefer to have no spiritual community, also have no people contesting my beliefs. i don’t share them in daily life, and thus i get the best of both worlds, the material, and my own peace of mind. it’s very nice doing tantric practices that for thousands of years would have gotten one killed as a sorceror for the chanting and so on. so much nicer to not have to explain.  also even among a close community everyone interprets the teachings differently. better to grow at ones own pace. also feel no envy at those who seem more evolved.

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    in reply to: Spiritual awakening and pain #427579
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    maybe it’s not the experiences but anxiety which accompanies them which is the problem?  if so then a simple adjustment would be to try buspirone which is a 5thA1 agonist, and can clear up anxiety quite simply.

    on the other hand, wanting to follow a spiritual path and be free of engagements like family and job has always been a conundrum of seekers.  some must give everything up. others may find a half step which works to solve their paradox. a half step like transcendental meditation. one needn’t quit their life to do tm.

    perhaps nowadays there’s a tibetan buddhist center nearby and they could recommend a useful mental tantra. tibetan buddhists have tantras for everything.

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    buddhism is not a religion that can be easily explained. it’s best to let people find out about it themselves and not talk about what means much to oneself. enjoy the silence, and the non-answers

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    in reply to: How do I meditate? #427577
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    sit tall

    and relax

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