Menu

bad timing or patterns?

HomeForumsRelationshipsbad timing or patterns?

New Reply
Viewing 6 posts - 91 through 96 (of 96 total)
  • Author
    Posts
  • #387124
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Peace:

    I am sorry to read that you are not doing well.

    You wrote that you were prescribed “anxiety tablets  (escitalopram)” – escitalopram, known in the US as Lexapro is not an anxiety tablet but an antidepressant of the most commonly prescribed SSRI group. It is considered way preferable and safer than anti-anxiety medications.

    You should contact the doctor who prescribed it to you and let him/ her know of you feeling sick and more anxious as a result. The doctor may lower the dosage or prescribe you another SSRI anti-depressant, or not prescribe you anything at all. You are the one to decide if and what kind of psychiatric medication you want to take.

    Please let me know if you make this call, what happens next and how you feel!

    anita

    #387134
    TeaK
    Participant

    Dear Peace,

    I am sorry you aren’t feeling well. Are you still in India? Are you actually experiencing anxiety symptoms? I am asking because you went to a doctor for sore throat, and he prescribed you antidepressants:

    i was having sore throat and feeling low and went to a good specialist .. and he asked me if i have Anxiety out of nowwhere ??

    Did you complain to him about some other symptoms as well?

    As for your sister, she is very selfish. She is worried that your family will be mocked, because earlier they spoke badly about your boyfriend’s caste, and now you are getting married to this caste… She is trying to talk you out of it, just so they wouldn’t be mocked and humiliated:

    “ people will laugh at us and talk bad about us that “ see which kind of person she married to “ and also that we ( my family ) always talked about other family about this caste thing and now we are marrying them its disgrace etc . I then asked her “ why did you talk or critized about other people caste “ why did you guys discriminate and who told you to do ???”
    she had no answer and then she said bcz we dint know one day we will be marrying this caste ..

    It’s pure selfishness on her part. And of course, prejudice and racism. It’s good that you are aware of it, and don’t want to give in to her requests. At least, on the rational level, you don’t. But on the emotional level, it seems you are struggling, and this might be causing you anxiety? The fear of being a disappointment to your family is very strong in you… It’s the little girl in you, who needs your family’s approval.

    Try to be aware of that inner battle, and that it’s your inner child that is scared of being discarded by those she loves and seeks validation from. Let me know if seeing things like that helps you at all… or your anxiety is still very strong?

     

    #387237
    Peace
    Participant

    Dear Anita and Teak,

    i m flying tomorrow to Germany ..i just checked the forum and found recents threads ..

    i stopped taking that medications( without consulting with doctor) , just because i wasnt able to handle the side effects during this busy schedule here and alot of responsibility along with online classes ) ..and i dint showed any symptoms of Anxiety infront of doctor but maybe he recognised me as i was very reserved ?? I have no idea ..

    The fear of being a disappointment to your family is very strong in you… It’s the little girl in you, who needs your family’s approval.

    <p style=”text-align: left;”>thats true .. i seek validation And when i dont get it sometimes i start to doubt my decision , i m scarEd of disappointing other ,which i m aware that is not  good thing at all ..</p>

    @ teak :

    Let me know if seeing things like that helps you at all… or your anxiety is still very strong?

    i dint really get your question here .. seeing which kind of things ??

    peace

     

     
    <p style=”text-align: left;”></p>

    #387238
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Peace:

    Instead of looking for your elder sister/ family members for validation (family members who value injustice, inequality, etc.), look for validation from your own values of Justice, Equality and Love.

    When figuring out what is the right thing for you to do- look for your highest values to guide you.

    I wish you a safe travels back to Germany tomorrow and hope to read from you soon!

    anita

    #387244
    TeaK
    Participant

    Dear Peace,

    i dint showed any symptoms of Anxiety infront of doctor but maybe he recognised me as i was very reserved ?? I have no idea ..

    Probably he noticed your anxiety… anyway, I think it’s good that you stopped taking the medicine if it made you feel sick.

    i dint really get your question here .. seeing which kind of things ??

    I meant if you see the situation like I was suggesting: that a part of you wants to follow your own heart and desires and wants to marry your boyfriend. But another part (your inner child) is seeking validation from your family and this is what causes you internal conflict and anxiety. I thought if simply seeing that there is an internal conflict, and then trying to soothe your inner child, might help you deal with the situation better.

    I wish you a safe trip to Germany!

    #387324
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Peace:

    I hoped y0u arrived to Germany safely, that you are rested.. how are you???

    anita

Viewing 6 posts - 91 through 96 (of 96 total)

You must be logged in to reply to this topic. Please log in OR register.