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  • #357194
    Ralphy
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    Hi Daniel. I am new here. I was reading some of your posts in the beginning about D. Do you think she might have liked you and you took too long to do anything? That can be extremely frustrating for women, especially if she timed the kiss with your friend perfectly when you left. Obviously you would have came back and seen. That’s my opinion. Asking for mercy in love kills the whole thing.

    #357582
    Anady
    Participant

    I love my friends so much they are so funny and we love each other so much. We always go to travel and enjoy a lot. They all are a part of my life.

    #359713
    Daniel
    Participant

    Welcome Ralphy !

    I don’t think she might have liked me in a romantic way. It was more like the beginning of a friendship. For once, I don’t think it was a timing issue : taking too long to do anything or rushing things like I used.

    Thinking back, the main issue for me to get in a relationship with D was probably that I didn’t give her “signals” that would tell her what I wanted. Like casually touching her shoulder while having a laugh with her. I was being friendly because I know how to act friendly but I still have things to learn when it comes to flirting.

    Daniel

     

    #360744
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    Hi Anita,

    I’ve been looking for a place to my feelings. I guess I’ll do it here then. It’s about a girl. So I met this girl 7-8 months at the sports academy and we’ve been playing together since then. She’s always been by doubles partner. Slowly our relation went outside the court and we started hanging out fairly often. I really cherish her company and being with her made me understand what the phrase time flies means. Hours pass by and it looks like just a couple of minutes. I really love her with all my heart and I have really never felt the same for anyone else.  But the thing is she is 3 years older to me and her family is looking for a boy for her and apparently they  havef one. When I came to know this my heart just sunk. I felt hollow inside. I’ve been wanting to tell her what i feel since a long time but just don’t what she feels for me. We definitely are very close to each other and she cares a lot about me. I just don’t know whether this is just a friendship or something more. And the age factor confused me more. Just dont know whether I should take a step forward and ask her out. I’m too scared of losing what we have now if things don’t go well.

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    #360745
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    <p style=”text-align: left;”>Hi Anita</p>
    I<span style=”text-align: center;”>’ve been looking for a place to my feelings. I guess I’ll do it here then. It’s about a girl. So I met this girl 7-8 months at the sports academy and we’ve been playing together since then. She’s always been by doubles partner. Slowly our relation went outside the court and we started hanging out fairly often. I really cherish her company and being with her made me understand what the phrase time flies means. Hours pass by and it looks like just a couple of minutes. I really love her with all my heart and I have really never felt the same for anyone else.  But the thing is she is 3 years older to me and her family is looking for a boy for her and apparently they  havef one. When I came to know this my heart just sunk. I felt hollow inside. I’ve been wanting to tell her what i feel since a long time but just don’t what she feels for me. We definitely are very close to each other and she cares a lot about me. I just don’t know whether this is just a friendship or something more. And the age factor confused me more. Just dont know whether I should take a step forward and ask her out. I’m too scared of losing what we have now if things don’t go well.</span>

    #361164
    Tim
    Participant

    Hi Anonymous,

    Be brave, if you don’t reveal your feelings for someone, can you really say you love them with all your heart? Loving wholly requires taking the risk to be vulnerable and risk rejection.

    It may be just a friendship for her but if you don’t ask you’ll regret it. If she has found someone else then if you really do love her you’ll be hurt but ultimately want the best for her and her to be happy.

    Tim

    #361165
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Daniel:

    If it is you who posted less than half an hour ago, addressing me, please let me know. I am confused by the post following “Anonymous, Inactive”.

    anita

    #361193
    Daniel
    Participant

    Dear anita,

    I didn’t write the post you seem to be refering to; the last I wrote is from June 27th.

    By the way, I hope you’re fine.

    I have two bigs news :

    First, I eventually went to see a psychotherapist ! After all this time, I did it ! I have had two appointements for now and he seems fine. I don’t know if keeping on seeing him will eventually help me but at least I’m trying my best.

    Second, I met a new girl. After a gig with my band, I walked towards a group of young people. One of them was struggling with his guitar and I offered my help. After a couple of minutes, I decided to spend the rest of the evening with his group of friends. Among them was a girl, let’s call her Y. I had a sweet evening and night with them. A week later, the guy with the guitar invited me to a party with his group of friends (including Y). I was a bit anxious but I eventually chose to go and met the group again. Y was there. I spend a nice time again with them. When it was time to leave, I left with Y. We talked for a few minutes on the way to the sub. Then we said goodbye and went our own way back home. At this moment, I wanted to send her a message to see her someday but only the two of us. As I was thinking about this, I got a message. From her ! She proposed me to see me again someday but only the two of us. Exactly what I was thinking at the moment ! A few days later, I saw her again. We ended up in a park and after maybe 2 hours sitting next to her, I eventually kissed her. I felt that it was meant to happen. And afterwards, she told me that she has been wondering if I would eventually kiss her haha (she has been waiting for me to do it). A few days later, I saw her again with the group. It was nice again being with them. Y and I ended up going to her flat. We had sex and it was a smooth and nice moment for the both of us. In the morning, we kissed goodbye knowing that the next time we see each other again is in a month due to our respective holidays. It may be for the best actually. I think about her every day but it’s different this time. I’m not crazy about her like I used to with other girls. It’s a feeling much more serene as though a part of my ego was gone. Maybe this time, I have a chance to create love for someone and to give it to her and to accept love from her. I’m not sure. I will let time do its thing.

    Daniel

    #361194
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Daniel:

    It is nothing less than a delight for me to read your recent post! I am so glad to read that you had a positive experience with a young woman (Y), an experience of mutual interest and attraction. I like your attitude of letting “time do its thing”. It is a good thing that there is a month before you see her next. Do let time do its thing and post again anytime.

    *Also, I am fine, thank you for asking, and I am glad to read that you are doing your best for yourself, and started seeing a psychotherapist, I hope this works well for you. Receiving your post today made my day!!!

    anita

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