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  • March 29, 2026 at 7:48 pm #456415
    Confused
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    Yes exactly, like being high for months and then suddenly, boom! everything crashed..

    I guess it ends badly 🙁

    March 29, 2026 at 8:13 pm #456417
    anita
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    That’s what drugs’ll do to you. The chase for a high ends with a low, and the more of a high you chase, the more of a low you get.

    .. so, are you.. a drug addict- like.. Confused😕?

    🐇 Anita

    March 29, 2026 at 8:22 pm #456418
    Confused
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    I guess i am but never knew.. 🙁

    March 29, 2026 at 8:34 pm #456419
    anita
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    Well, Confused.. it does look- to me- like a drug addiction, chasing a feeling.

    Chasing a feeling never ends well, as far as I know.

    The feeling you’ve been chasing must have been really GOOD-

    How many drug addicts, millions, are hooked on a once WONDERFUL feeling, living in tents, under 🌉 bridges, homeless?

    🌉 Anita

    March 30, 2026 at 1:54 pm #456458
    Confused
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    Yes it’s the sensation of dopamine and other hormones probably, which i’ve never even thought could drop, that whole thing makes me doubt everything 🙁

    U are right, i should build based not on wonderful passing hormones..

    Damn today my mind made so many contradicting thoughts.

    March 30, 2026 at 2:29 pm #456459
    anita
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    Hey dear Contradictorily Confused, Confused (CCC):

    May the dopamine- fused confusion, contradictions; bewilderment, perplexity and puzzlement be replaced with certainty, clarity, coherence (CCC), focus, and lucidity.

    🌪️ 😵‍💫 🔥 ⚡💥😖 ==> ✨ 🌿 🌙 💡 🕊️ 🌼 Anita

    March 30, 2026 at 3:04 pm #456460
    Confused
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    Haha its like a danger protocol.

    I wish it happens, even though it feels impossible to even imagine it at the moment.

    I feel like a fraud, she is wonderful, sent me a birthday present, wants us to have date night- videocalls and is excited about it. As i would be before all this, but now i feel nothing, no joy, spark, excitement or enjoyment,i feel like i’m taking advantage of her and i should let her go and find someone that can love her, not the mess that i am right now, i cry a lot when i think like that 🙁

    March 30, 2026 at 3:13 pm #456461
    anita
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    Well, Confused, it happened before that you felt nothing before or in the beginning of a videocall but then ended up laughing and having a good time during the call (“We ended up video-calling for 7 hours straight. We laughed a lot”, yesterday).. so?

    March 30, 2026 at 3:39 pm #456462
    Confused
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    I know i know, i just constantly feel that something is “missing” or it’s not “enough” and i can’t think of any reason (incompatible, etc) so it’s either i am shutdown in that department or i am chasing the dopamine hits.

    I’ve watched many videos of Paulien Timmer on healing the FA and some things she describes for her, are spot on to what i am going through.

    March 30, 2026 at 3:51 pm #456463
    Confused
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    Also, i feel so bad that she gets me gifts (almost to the point of me wanting to bolt!) but i am totally fine and enjoy getting her gifts.
    Go figure

    March 30, 2026 at 5:32 pm #456464
    anita
    Participant

    Hey 👋 Confused:

    I will look up Paulin Timmer tomorrow when I have the use of a 🖥

    That feeling that something is missing or is not enough is a classic symptom of OCD. I am beginning to think that you may have what is called “pure OCD”, meaning the compulsions are mental (checing and re- checking what you’re feeling).

    I am far from being a doctor or a professional in mental health, but maybe it’ll help you to look up “pure OCD”. There are online communities of the pure-ocd-ed and you might find commonality there, even answers.

    From all that you shared over the last few months, she sounds like a lovely young woman who really likes 👍 you!

    🍃🤍 Anita

    March 30, 2026 at 7:34 pm #456467
    Confused
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    Hey anita

    Check her out when you have free time, she also has a page on the internet. it’s an interesting channel and she knows what she’s talking about, i resonate with many of her videos and i never knew those were patterns 🙂

    I havent researched into pure ocd but i’ve read a bit about it, will see what the therapist says.

    She is such a sweet soul and i’ve never been treated like that before, consistency, loving actions and reassurance 🙂

    March 30, 2026 at 7:47 pm #456468
    anita
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    Hey Confused:

    I will check her out tomorrow!

    That you were never treated so lovingly before- explains to me why the overwhelm and shutdown happened.. too much of a good thing!

    I mean, if you grow up with too little of a good thing (love, consistency) and too much of a bad thing (violence, chaos), you adjust to it best you can.

    Makes sense?

    🤔 Anita

    March 30, 2026 at 8:21 pm #456470
    Confused
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    Ive read about what youre saying everywhere but my mind still can’t make those connections because we think with our conscious part, so it seems very weird to me.

    March 30, 2026 at 8:35 pm #456471
    anita
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    Oh, if I could only un-weird things for you, I would 🙂

    So, what is it exactly that seems very weird to you?

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