Dear Sarah – Stop waiting for him to text , put your phone down and go out meet friends hang out with other people. If he does not show interest its his loss.

Do not get played by these mind games. He may be a nice guy and if he is he will contact you and make plans if not then it was just not meant to be meanwhile have fun.

Samantha – It takes longer than a year to really know someone. Do not base your decision on your emotions like all emotions Love is fleeting. When you need to pay bills and do laundry or take care of grown up stuff will this frat boy stand up to it?

You need to ask yourself how much more are you willing to invest time wise. Give your self a deadline and if you see no change run do not walk.

 I decided to join a political cause, help adults finish their GED to work towards a better life, build homes for Habitat for Humanity, and help immigrants and refugees learn how to speak the English language as well as  how to use modern computer programs, as well as work serving food in homeless shelters. I figured that if I couldn’t finish my education, I would at least find value in helping people finish theirs.

Lucas – Do you get happiness in what you do? If yes then continue to do it. If not then there are a ton of other options you can look into to. I am not sure where you reside but there are so many classes to learn knew skills.

Parents will always question you (hoping there was no abuse at home) that is how parenting works. Probably they are concerned about your well being.

When I was younger, I was often bullied and even beaten by my peers. 

Asshole like your peers have existed from the dawn of time. The thing about these pricks are that they pick on others to make themselves feel important and good. I believe in Karma and Karma has no set Menu and it never forgets an address.

Never ever give up on your self, knock on doors if you need help finding your passion. You will be surprised how many people will be ready to help you. Get out and make friends and start seeking coz you will find it some day.

Never complain living is a lesson and some lessons are worth enduring.

Dear Roxy – You should have left yesterday. He has a lot going on but what really surprises me is that you are allowing him to treat you like a choice remove yourself from this equation. He thinks its alright to keep you a secret partly you are to be blamed cause you are allowing it.

Will you invite a dick or douche bag into your home???? then why are you letting one into your mind and heart? If you are waiting for him to come around  after all this time you will be waiting a long time.

Most importantly address your fears why do you want him if clearly is unsure of you ? Are you scared you wont meet someone else? If you had a daughter and she told you this story with a man she is involved  with what advice would you give her?

DO NOT LET HIM TREAT YOU LIKE A CHOICE.

Yes we ended it face to face. I broke down in front of her while telling her everything. She broke down as well but it was quite a bad break up because she was very angry and she said I could have done it earlier but I know it’s now or never. Sometimes I am very tempted to text to tell her I’m sorry. Should I text her?

Please do not text right now coz it can send mixed signals. She is hurt and mad for now keep all communication to need be, you have to do right by her if you truly do not want her and ended it for good do not give signs of vulnerability at the same time pls be respectful of her. If she needs closure then yes I would say answer questions and do the best you can ( I think closure is something no one can give but even so).

Gaurav first off stop texting her, I know you love her but this is not healthy. I know this seems harsh but sometimes no matter how much you want someone or something it just is not meant to be. You can angry that is valid emotion given the circumstance. Delete her number block her from Social Media and do not meet common friends and ask about her.

Make an effort to upkeep your self meet friends hang out, take a class, join the gym, read a book or join a book club the list is never ending, India is beautiful go off grid if you can afford it and travel north to south you can do countless things. I know you cant forget her you guys have been thru a lot but you also have a choice not to harp on it forever, write to her if you want one last massage and let her go for both your sake and then take her contact out.

Love  means different things to different people one such thing is respect not just the other person but your feelings too …

Henny – Here is the truth long distance rarely works but lets say it does work for some it requires two things trust in each other and most importantly you need to be confident.

My suggestion he may be fantastic as a human but until you are ready to deal with your insecurities no matter who he is wont make a difference.Take this break and see how you feel. I know you are anxious but trust me like all emotions this will pass too dealing with your emotions is the first of many things a human being should do.  DO NOT MAKE THIS MISTAKE OF THINKING A GUY IS END ALL AND BE ALL OF YOUR LIFE. No one should have this much control over you ( I say this with experience).

Finding someone who loves you the way you love them is an amazing feeling but all that means nothing if you are anxious and fearful. For now you may think he is everything I can guarantee you he is not. Get back up …do your thing, live your life do not wait for anyone.

Hope you broke up in person rather than a text or email. Secondly its best if you end a relationship that you cannot commit to 100% because its unfair for you and the other person being a woman I can tell you its all about how you deliver.

If you told her honestly how you felt (I am not saying it wont hurt her it very much will) and ended it with dignity then ya that is the right thing to do. For now no matter how hard it is pls keep communications to minimal. She and you both are vulnerable do not slip and let her back into your life until you both agree to be friends (many people think they can be friends but I dont think its possible if the other person truly loves you).