Hi Whitfield

Thank you for clarifying some things and providing additional context.

You explained that love kept you going through the hard times as well as responsibilities.

You experience a lack of affection in your relationship.

You are looking for answers but not externally.

Has this lack of affection been constant throughout the relationship or is this a more recent development over the years?

What I’m trying to understand is how this idea of love that once kept you going has changed in your relationship.

I believe that affection is really important in relationships and I’m sorry your partner isn’t sharing that with you. No wonder you feel a lack of hope regarding the situation.

Please feel free to share any thoughts or feelings that you have.

Hi Eric

I trust that you make good decisions, ones that are right for you.

It’s good that you are developing the instinct that something is going on with your anxiety.

I have a couple of quick questions before I share my thoughts, because I’d like a little more context. How was the business trip for you? Do you travel for work often? Did you experience any anxiety related to work or travelling to / or being in a big city?

I’m just trying to understand whether or not that experience triggered anxiety for you.

Hi Dave

I’m sorry to hear that you’ve been sleeping on the couch for two weeks and that it’s gotten the stage of one last try before separation. I can understand feeling worried about the couples counselling. Please let me know how you find it.

The text was beautiful, I can see the love behind it. You’re truly doing the best you can to heal the relationship.

Good luck with the couples counselling session.

Wishing you all the best 🙏

That’s a shame. She’s a valued member of the community and will be missed.

Hi EvFran

I’m sorry to hear about your partner passing, that your friend kicked you out and that you are having difficulty maintaining friendships as you travel abroad.

Sadly, I think that is the nature of things with international travel. Unless you are communicating with a very specific type of person who enjoys International communication you’re going to keep running into those issues. Most people prefer to focus on their in person relationships.

It sounds like the person you were staying with had some issues and they were being quite rude. It shouldn’t be hard for people to speak about eating honey or communicate issues. It’s always interesting living with someone because until you live with them you don’t really get to see what they’re truly like. It’s relatively easy for people to get along from a certain distance.

I’ve learned that people come and go in life and that’s okay. It’s understandable to crave companionship too. You’re a very kind, polite and outgoing person. I’m sure that when you are settle down geographically it will become much easier to build and maintain relationships. Or you could search for someone with a similar lifestyle?

Hi Lorn

It sounds like you might have learning anxiety. Do you have any thoughts that pop up while you study?

I used to be a tutor and my advice is to study for less time. Even if it’s only 5 minutes, study for however long you feel comfortable. Do your best to make it a pleasant experience for yourself. Some people like music or snack. When you get upset, take a break and come back to it later.

Some people don’t get on well with studying for 1 hour in a go. Studying for 30 minutes is usually more achievable. My own concentration tend to dive after 30 mins.

You’re putting a lot of pressure on yourself. It’s time to take the pressure off. You don’t have to achieve this goal immediately. It takes as long as it takes and that’s okay. I have faith that you will get there in the end. Please be gentle with yourself.

School isn’t everyone’s cup of tea and that’s okay. I know plenty of amazing people that didn’t do well in the academic system. Yet they created wonderful lives for themselves. One gentleman is a plumber, an electrician and a construction worker. Another is a dog walker and a successful musician. Everyone has their own unique skillset. No one is good at everything.

I’m curious about what your interests are and what you think you’re good at?

Hi Lori

You talked to her about it in private. She’s still behaving in the same way.

Calling me, the person she abused a stalker for giving her an opportunity to talk about her feelings and clear the air.

She hasn’t even apologised after the last time she was abusive.  I’ve had to leave this community twice because of the abuse.

The only person who has heard about any of this publicly is me. I’ve been asked to never contact her. Publicly anita had zero repercussions. I’ve been left to deal with this situation myself.

Hi Eric

What do you think the pros and cons are of announcing your relationship on social media?

Sometimes I find that this can be helpful for making decisions.

That depends, do you have anything else that you’d like to share about your small house trauma?