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Hi Sassypants,
I love how guys can practically cheat on you, and then are genuinely surprised when you find another guy.
Of course he suddenly brings up a potential proposal! Add his injured bird status, and you have two reasons to stay!
Maybe if he were loyal in his heart, had already proposed I could see why you’d feel guilty. But please don’t stay because you feel sorry for him (injured on the job) and for some future carrot and stick proposal.
I say, the lad had his chance.
Move On!
Best,
Inky
Hi drinkmorewater,
Sometimes the solutions are simple. For your backyard I would put in a motion sensor sprinkler system. They have it for the deer, but you can have them for the humans! For your house, get a young dark protective German Shepherd (dark for its teeth to stand out more LOL). For your car, put on some bumper stickers that will make them think twice (think biker, gun enthusiast, patriot, MMA fighter). For your front door put some mud encrusted size 13 work boots with a note on the door that says “Uncle Paulie, don’t let the pitt bulls out again, Merle is going to the skeet shoot and will be back in fifteen.”
They worked for me!
Best,
Inky
Hi Lucy,
I’m just part of an old married couple, but I’m all “Here’s my password, whatever”. But when guys suddenly get possessive of their phones and change the password it makes me nervous.
One time my kid was all, “What’s your password, dad?” to look something up and he was all, “Give the phone to me” and I immediately said, “It’s *****.” He was all shell-shocked, as you perfectly described. Now, I never went through his stuff, but I did give him That Look (arched eyebrow with a smirk), like, “I know more than you think, but I’m too cool to say so, and you think you are so cute with your password protected phone.” It’s what you DON’T say!
What you could do is contact her and write (bonus points if it’s from his phone), “You know we don’t keep anything from each other, right?” with a wink emoji so she knows it’s you, or thinks it’s coming from both of you.
Now, she will either lay off him, and scuttle away, embarrassed, or confront him or tease him about it, in which case he’ll be put on the spot either way. (GOOD!)
If this blows up your relationship, GOOD. So be it.
For what it’s worth, I think he just likes the attention.
Good Luck,
Inky
Hi Kelsey,
Women simply do not do well in threes! I honestly only have women over who either already know each other or I WANT them to become friends as I am not attached to them.
In the future if you see your other friends getting along like a house on fire, I would just quietly drop them. They can’t help having a great chemistry between them. I’m sorry that they made it so obvious though.
Another thing with us women: We don’t ask if anything is wrong. And if we do dare ask if anything is wrong, the correct response is “I’m fine”. Once a woman says to another woman, “Well, actually, I have a grievance…”, even if you talk it out… The relationship is NEVER GOING TO BE THE SAME. It’s maddening, but that’s how it is!!
You have to accept people for who they are. People stink. They are rude, imperfect, and won’t live up to the roles you put them in. I’m sorry they broke their “my two best friends” roles and cast themselves as “Team Emily/Shannon BFFs 4-evah!” but they did.
And it’s totally normal to be bothered by this two years later. You lost two BFFs, after all.
Blessings,
Inky
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