@christiebell

Belle

I agree the pain is quite immense now so you wont be able to see any blessings. Let this pain and tears flow until you have none left. Then come back on TB in a few days and we can come up with a list of blessings that have emerged out of this event :). I can already see many blessings and assure you that you will see them too but once the acute pain is out of your system.

Jasmine

Howdy @guitardude Steve

You are moving away from your mission, mate. Can you just let things be ? When we become too stuck to the result of an action, life runs away from us and takes us back to where we started.

Can you please have faith in my faith that you will find a lovely partner to share all your happiness with. Just go with the flow and stop getting so attached to the outcomes. Enjoy the journey and leave the rest to the nature as it will only give you the best if you let it.

Enjoy being you NOW and in this moment and when you are able to do that, not many happy and secure women will be able to stay away from you 🙂

Hope you find the patience to enjoy your existence and let life flow as its meant to. All the dots will connect.

Jasmine

Thanks Matt and Inky

Howdy @islandgirl Lorraine

I am sorry that this has happened to you. Please know that this incident is not about you or your character or what you have done wrong or right etc. This action, if you choose to call it a passive aggressive behaviour, is a reflection of who that person is.

People do all sorts of weird things due to their own experiences, wiring of their mind and emotional states. If you were to try and understand each of those, you would go nuts. The best way forward is to accept each person as they are and leave it at that. You move ahead knowing that you have learnt a valuable lesson – “I will not let other people’s actions determine my state of being or happiness; I am who I am and I am working on getting better each day in my own ways (Full Stop)”.

Please know that every person on this planet is as unique as it gets. There is only one Lorraine on this planet and vice versa for others. Everyone has their own journey or path to follow. The only common thing between each of one is us that we can choose to help each other out on the journey or we can make this journey as difficult as possible for self and others. Choice is truly in your hands.

Best wishes and may you emerge stronger and more loving / kind from this incident.

You are worth it 🙂

Jasmine

@anyone

Hey Anyone

It is good to feel grateful 🙂 However, sometimes people are not ready to hear how grateful we are for them. When such a situation occurs, offer your gratitude in your heart and trust me it will reach that person. Once you fill yourself with love and gratitude, you will not feel any resistance from the other person (no matter how much ready she is not to move on).

But please don’t get sucked back into the drama of this relationship when things get better. Because if you do, you will be back to square one lol

Keep moving forward and offer gratitude for everything in your heart. The vibrations of positive energy travel faster than words or actions 🙂 Try it before you buy this.

J

hey Matt @amatt and Inky @inky

Matt, the poem was written on May 25 and we are in August now. It appears that you didnt see it before and thats why the delayed response from your end.

I am sorry for your suffering in the past and can now understand the intention behind each of your posts.

Hey, I think you both may have misunderstood each other. Let it be 🙂

I apologise to you both as it was me who had triggered Inky to write a funny poem.

BIG HUG FOR YOU BOTH. Let the karmic account settle now, pls.

Jasmine

Thanks Danielle and Matt 🙂

Hi Echo @gammatrees

Thanks for your post.

I had to meditate a little after reading your words as I felt conflicted initially.

Despite the autism, ?brain damage, history of significant abuse and trauma and seizures, you come across as a highly intelligent person. If I was to put myself in your situation, I would have probably broken down many years ago and be in as an involuntary patient in a psychiatric institution somewhere. You have done really well !!!! Hearty Congrats 🙂

I think there is nothing in this world, which can break you now. So have no fear. Keep enjoying a happy existence with your BF.

Yes, some people can be very nasty in this world but we often do not know the full story as to why such things happen. I think life is a lot deeper than what it appears to be on the surface.

I have learnt that when life keeps winning at throwing curve balls at us one after the other, there is a huge lesson to be learnt. Until we learn the lesson, the curve balls wont stop coming and often they increase in frequency as we continue to move away from the path. I am not sure as to what you need to learn but you can do some introspection and try to figure it out. There is a pattern to these events and that might give you a clue for where the change needs to occur. You need to be honest with yourself. Many times, we tell the world a different story so as to protect ourselves but then that takes us away from the path even more.

My teacher tells me that when we wish to lessen our suffering, we should start doing selfless service. Any selfless service will do but the most rewarding service is to feed or look after small children (orphaned, homeless, poverty stricken etc) or homeless animals. This activity generates a huge amount of positive karma and has a potential to turn things around quickly. Could you look into doing something like this ? Go and volunteer at the Salvos or some orphanage and give loads of love to these kids. You can volunteer at an animal shelter and care for the animals there.

And consider the suggestions made by Matt about becoming a part of local community, which attracts kinder people.

Give yourself and your BF a big hug.

Jasmine

Thanks Clay. I wanted to share this with Danielle and you have articulated it so well 🙂 This is the inner conflict that I was getting around to. Trying to be positive and happy chappy from outside but a completely different video is running inside with thoughts and feelings. Our thoughts, feelings, emotions and actions have such a significant effect on how we perceive our reality.

Thanks Danielle.

I hear you. I am sorry for the sudden job loss and change. You probably are not able to see the blessing as yet but it will come.

Now coming back to the main issue of being stuck in the rut.

Do you love your partner ? Do you see yourself growing old with him, having a family, being there with him in all of his ups and downs ? Be very honest in your feelings as your answer lies in this relationship. Everything else is just a distractor and keeping you away from finding your inner peace.

Is this relationship uplifting you every day ? Are you becoming a better person since you met this individual or do you realise that despite his good and well intended feelings, he is bringing out the bad in you ?

I am not blaming this guy for your stuck-in-the-rut feeling but your issues stem from here. If you can assist further by being openly honest with yourself, I think you stand a great chance to move forward.

Like Matt wrote, spend more ME time and you will come up with the answer to above questions.

And pls, have faith in yourself. You will see the blessing in your sudden job loss and change / letting go of the condo in the very near future. Things ain’t as bad as they appear to be. Your body and mind are just taking some time to adjust to this new unintended change. I believe (strongly) that everything happens perfectly for our highest good. Sometimes, we can’t see the good as our vision is blurred by other underlying issues that need our attention.

Hang in there.

Jasmine