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  • in reply to: Shamefully self concerned #63798
    popi
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    Fate doesn’t exist.I personally don’t believe in fate.Things happen and we have the power to control them.We actually have to be strong and calm at the same time.Controlling our reactions is the key,and needs patience.Try it!
    Don’t leave your life in anyone’s hands.This is you, you have to try for your happiness.Ok, i don’t have any practical ways to do this,but you have to try everyday.At least you have to have this on your mind.Don’t let the life leave,manage it as best as you can.
    Every choice you make everyday is something that you truly want to do.Don’t regret anything,think more before you act, and do anything you want.

    in reply to: Having trouble moving on from my last relationship. #63797
    popi
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    I feel you R but there no time limits in feelings.You can’t say that in a half year from now i must forget her or i have to move on.Feelings are feelings and are all based in belief systems.You have to persuade yourself not to think about the past and all that did hurt you.I know it’s difficult,i feel the same.I don’t have any specific advice.

    in reply to: tired #63514
    popi
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    ……I posted twice but my answer is not appearing on the screen.Anyways,i wrote a few things i don’t remember
    to re-write but i suggest you to listen this song: petula clark-downtown! Hope this is helpful!
    Best wishes.

    • This reply was modified 8 years, 3 months ago by popi.
    in reply to: How can I get rid of …? #63500
    popi
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    Yes,the reasons were not good enough ……….
    it doesn’t worth it to be angry or unhappy BECAUSE he is nothing to me.
    I don’t appreciate him and I don’t care what he is doing.Enough said for him.
    I want to be on the right path because behind all of these bad actions I did to myself (not appreciating myself,low self-confidence,feeling uncomfortable on the relationship but keeping it alive), …all these doesn’t serve me.I’ve always been wanting a better future/better relationship/feelings/life, for myself but the low self confidence led my to a relationship which showed me that i deserve more than I think.He was a drug addicted person,he was suffering from depression and I was there for him and and he did nothing for me eventually , he wanted to get rid of me. MISSION ACCOMPLISHED ..Im here all alone finding things for myself to be happy.nobody helps me.So today ,finally i must get rid of him.I’ve lost so much time thinking and caring of/about him. Best to you too,Kelsi.Thanks.
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    I’ll do the best for myself despite the fact that time had passed and i did nothing for me.I don’t care,i want to be happy even if time passes in front of my eyes.I want to success in this.
    Today i realised that maybe only pressure works for me…If i let my self to do silly things,i’ll do them.Things that don’t help me move on,be happy, it’s like pushing yourself to the lion’s den.Nothing done for me,all of my powers were there to help him.I have to be more patient and pressure myself to do good things. Ι have to push myself to do things,otherwise non of my goals will come in success.All these things i would appreciate myself in the future and things that will make me feel happy in the present moment.
    I always wanted to be in a taut body and always been jealous of people who were eating healthy all the time(Although i never tried………)!!!I want to love myself so i’ll never be trapped in bad relationships.Loving myself is the key,and doing things for me by pressure 9even if it’s not right) its better than doing nothing for me.I’ve found the reasons to exercise or eat healthy or study etc etc but these reasons don’t push me enough to do things.

    brain-wash and pressure.This maybe the key for me.I have to do things that I don’t like.

    in reply to: How can I get rid of …? #63417
    popi
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    @Kelsi i don’t understand the last paragraph..Could you give a meaning to this?
    He broke up with me with a text message and i was asking him to see me and tell me the reasons and have a conversation..but that never happened.He said that he can’t stand this, the distance between us and he haven’t any goals to achieve in his life and he was feeling pressure and blah blah blah.I don’t mind,I’ve passed through this feeling of total hate. I used to hate him and today I don’t care.He will find revenge anyways..Justice for all ! :p I’m not going to spread evil anymore..i want my life to be peaceful!

    • This reply was modified 8 years, 3 months ago by popi.
    in reply to: How can I get rid of …? #63416
    popi
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    @Kelsi What i’m thinking truly is that i don’t need a psychologist cause i’m not dealing with HUGE problems and i’m not desperate…Sometimes when i feel bad i’ll think that need it,but these thoughts are rare.
    Also i think that solving your problems on your own , it’s a triumph with a crown. Each problem is here for us as a challenge we must face with…….we need to overcome challenges on ourselves.
    No longer happy.The feeling of visiting his profile and the pictures and all that stuff are not healing anymore.When i first discovered his profile (one year almost since then- he didn’t have a profile he created a profile after we broke up and i found it!)
    i was terrified of hurting , (i first found his sister’s profile and months later he created one!) and even if I knew it i was continuing to do that.I think that i’m causing the pain. Yes,me.
    The relationship wans’t fun, at the beginning it was good but this was for 3-4 months most.After these months the relationship was a suffer…..we had problems such as the distance and a very toxic ‘air’ between us.Although, i rarely think of the bad times…OK I DON’T GIVE A SHIT ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP…These was just more infos.(not useful).

    Today I’ll try to accomplish all of my 4 goals,and I know i’ll feel bad when I’m not doing the same as the other days ,it will hurt but i have to do it in order to live happy. Getting out of the habit feels very uncomfortable and I maybe afraid of the uncomfortable zone.BUT no change will happen if i’m doing the same and the same each day!
    I wish you all have a great day!

    in reply to: How can I get rid of …? #63389
    popi
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    @kelsi Thanks Kelsi…I know all the practical ways,i know what makes me feel bad,what harms me BUT i don’t do it.I don’t know why.
    And it seems i can’t get out of this.I mean,it’s easy to say it but difficult to do it.And i don’t believe in my powers,unfortunately.All i have to do is stop checking the profile,go outside and be thankfull for the life i’m living,the nature,my home,my family and the fact i’m healthy.Although i don’t move,i’m stuck in the past, not the past especially but i’m feeling lonely and afraid of he could move on. (and not me).
    I’m not thinking of the past and what have done, neither the relationship.These were past thoughts,not anymore.I’ve accepted the fact that we broke up, long ago. Although i’m not okay with myself, do I need a psychologist? I want to be free and released from myself,not an expert.
    I realized that it’s more difficult to me not look the page, than do exercise or eat healthy.All are so much easier than this…
    I don’t know what to say,…thanks for the response.

    @Big blue..I know it will fade but my life passes day by day and I know , it doesn’t worth the pain.I know all the things i have to do to improve my life,but as I said,i don’t do it.Maybe i don’t want it so much….subconsciously.
    I can exercise when i’ll have a bad thought, but thoughts are so many that i’ll be tired to run..and run and run…my mind needs control.And not only this,it needs a big change.Eventually,all that matters is doing things with yourself improving yourself…..but,honestly,sometimes exercising and eating healthy and not looking at ex’s profile..it’s boring , hahaha!

    • This reply was modified 8 years, 3 months ago by popi.
    in reply to: Back at square one #63388
    popi
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    Hey,Terry.
    If I was Terry i will be working as a dentist for a time until i find a job to replace this.
    Having a family requires money and job obviously,so, i will have worked as a dentist to be ok with my obligations.
    Stop working as a dentist if this doesn’t make you happy,but find another job also.
    Furthermore,don’t give up on your dreams and hobbies ,it’s never to late to study if you want a degree for your dreamy job.
    Do the best to touch your goals your dreams and your life.You don’t want to regret in the future for actions you didn’t try.
    It seems you have passion,and that passion you should turn into actions.Do the best and forget about everything.
    Eventually,save some money (from the job you’re doing now) to spend it for the degree, you’re future job.
    I don’t think it’s illusion, i think that you have to fight for your dreams even if it’s hard.
    Good luck!

    in reply to: Can't move on from the past. #63378
    popi
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    It’s a hard road to find confidence.I’m dealing with it.
    I suggest to give a break to yourself from relationships…a little time to be alone and find yourself ,gather your thoughts and create actions.

    in reply to: How can I get rid of …? #63377
    popi
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    0 of 4,today it’s fail..I hope tommorow will be better.

    in reply to: How can I get rid of …? #63308
    popi
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    So….I’m gonna play. 😉
    And thanks again.whatever you gave me.

    • This reply was modified 8 years, 3 months ago by popi.
    in reply to: How can I get rid of …? #63304
    popi
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    Thank you for your kind words.
    You gave me so much strength and I forgot to thank you before. I loved the metaphors with the crown and the princess… even if it’s not true, its very kind to hear. it warms up your soul.

    Thanks to all of you guys for the support.
    I’ll keep trying everyday.

    in reply to: How can I get rid of …? #63302
    popi
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    Steps * *.
    It doesn’t allow me to edit twice.
    Cause I made a mistake before and I didn’t see the other one.

    in reply to: How can I get rid of …? #63300
    popi
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    I’m happier than before but not excited.
    I achieved 2 of 4 goals today ,exercising and eat healthy.
    Although I visited his profile and I hadn’t study (only a couple of pages).
    Yes baby stapes are better than nothing.
    But I need support! I guess from myself!?

    • This reply was modified 8 years, 3 months ago by popi.
    in reply to: How can I get rid of …? #63274
    popi
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    HAHA..Matt i understand what you’re saying…..this is lost self-confidence,or never found.
    maybe i never had that.It’s time to find confidence.

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