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June 28, 2026 at 2:37 pm in reply to: Have you ask, after all these realizations and knowledge, why do you suffer? #458960
Thomas168ParticipantJames said, “What I mean is, body still feels the pain, loss.
Yet, there is not a person in body to suffer.
I am just saying or advising this, if you really don’t want to suffer, give body and mind back to it’s owner.”
No matter what you do, you are still in your body. It is the vessel in which you travel. Wishing to give up ownership does nothing but provide for more hardship. It is only in the quiet that emanates thru out the universe that you will find the peace you preach to others. Thru that experience, it allows for conditions to arise where you will see the truth of your existence. From that, it will allow you to see the choices in front of you which gives you the freedom you speak of.
The wisdom is not in the books of men spoken about God. The love of God permeates the universe in the living being and not on dead paper. You can only burn the paper to feel any kind of warmth. The love and compassion comes from the living truth.
June 26, 2026 at 8:21 pm in reply to: Have you ask, after all these realizations and knowledge, why do you suffer? #458931Thomas168ParticipantSo, what is your point? Give everything and receive nothing in return? Not many who actually do this. I do believe some parents do this. When food is desperately low, parents will often sacrifice their own health to keep their children fed. Or take the bitter fruit while giving the sweeter one to their child. And the parent will not even think it is a sacrifice.
So, the question why do you suffer after all these realizations? Because the realizations do not deeply touch upon the truth of one’s existence. The experience of the essential silence of the spirit and not just the mind allows for wisdom and compassion to arise. And with it, the ability to handle joy and suffering in a way that allows for freedom.
One doesn’t become free from suffering but rather understand it roots and thereby understand how to handle suffering in a manner that allows for choices. One will still feel pain and loss. One will still suffer from the illness that afflicts all people. One is not in constant bliss. Rather it is a life lived with insight and wisdom and compassion to handle life’s incidents and events.
I wish you well James123. May your beliefs bring you peace.
Thomas168ParticipantIt is not good to make her feel like she is being attacked. So, I do apologize. She believes I was wrong and I sincerely apologize for my assumptions. I wish her well. That is all I can do.
Thomas168ParticipantThere is no sarcasm in my post. I truly am sorry for making assumptions about Kris. I must have misread her post. And my posts were really over the line. Please accept my apology. I was wrong. You are a good person and very happy with yourself. Open to love and starting conversations. Have a wonderful life.
Thomas168ParticipantShe is angry with me for making assumptions about her. I have apologized. Hope she is well and everything is okay.
Thomas168ParticipantKris said, “
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My life hasn’t been great.
I was fired from my job cuz I missed too many days due to illness. I also got fired from working for my sister. They both happened at the same time in January. I did an externship at a crappy little doctors office from March to May.
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That was a miserable experience.
My therapist DIED back in April. So it’s been pretty rough. I’m still looking for a job with no luck.
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The only positive thing is that I started esketamine therapy, which treats treat resistant depression.
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Then says, “Who says I’m not happy with myself? I never said I disliked myself. Actually, there’s a lot that I like about myself, like my passion, determination, my empathy, my creativity, ect. You don’t know that I’m not starting conversations or showing interests. I am doing both of those thing. I am open to love. Why do you assume I’m not? I feel like you’re making assumptions about me.”
If one is happy with oneself then why start a post with “My life hasn’t been great”? Needing a therapist and they died? Okay, sounds like a good life and you are very happy with yourself. My post was a general way to look at things. So great they don’t apply to you. You are so happy with yourself. Starting conversations and being open to love?? Depression therapy? Okay, nothing wrong here.
I really must apologize for my assumptions. You aren’t the person I thought you were posting about. My bad. I wish you well and have a good life.
Thomas168ParticipantBefore one can be happy with another person in their life, they need to be able to be happy with themselves. Having another person as a romantic interest will not bring happiness unless you can be happy with yourself.
Find peace and happiness within oneself. Then be open to love. Start conversations. Show interests. It will be a time when you meet a person that you find a connection.
Thomas168ParticipantI truly hope your find the freedom and happiness and the love you so richly deserve.
June 23, 2026 at 6:39 am in reply to: Have you ask, after all these realizations and knowledge, why do you suffer? #458840Thomas168ParticipantFreedom is not the goal. Experiencing the truth about ourselves is. Then wisdom and compassion arises from that experience. From receiving the wisdom and compassion, the freedom in our lives is allowed to flow from our presence. Joy and suffering is what life presents to us. It is how we manage this joy and suffering that is the freedom you seek.
Thomas168ParticipantBreaking free of those chains that bind us to our past is worth it at any age. It reduces the Karma that might follow us into the next life.
Thomas168ParticipantOne father greets another, his neighbor, and asked about his neighbor’s son. “How is he doing?”. The neighbor says he is doing Zen Meditation. The man says, “Well, that beats sitting around all day doing nothing.” LOL.
Thomas168ParticipantTime and shared space makes us who we are inside. So I believe that whoever your mom was, she did love you in her own way. Deep inside feelings that don’t get expressed. She di love you. How could she not? How could you not? But circumstances take their toll on the human spirit. It shades our outlook on life. Our understanding of our lives are taken in episodes. Each re-enforcing the next. So, sometimes things get twisted that we don’t see the truth. Or we just can’t untangle ourselves from the experience to learn who and what we really are. The suffering.
Personally, I believe you have come thru your experiences that you have become a better person. You bring compassion and love into your posts. You take the time to help each person. And you agonize over the little things to find the truth. I hope that you will overcome your past to find the freedom and happiness that you so righteously deserve.
Thomas168ParticipantWhat to do? Try harder to do what you need to do?
I use to work at Walmart on the over night shift. Maintenance. When we had a white manager, I would be assigned the job of driving the cleaning machine around the floors. The machine would need to be filled with cleaning solution and water. It would clean the floor and squeeze the cleaning solution and then vacuum the fluids. When I had a Hispanic manager (I worked mostly with Hispanics workers), I would be assigned to clean the bathrooms. No one wanted to do the bathrooms. I didn’t like it but, it was the job and I needed the money for pay for the mortgage and food and etc. Kept my mouth shut and head down. Did the work. To me, it was about knowing what I had to do to keep my family happy (sheltered and fed). I did that job for about five years. Staying up after my shift to take my child to school and then waking up after a few hours to pick her up from school and then feeding her. Finally quit because I just couldn’t handle the effects the job was having on my health. Over worked and not enough sleep. I once fell asleep while I was driving to school to pick up my child.. It felt like a lifetime but was only about 5 to 10 seconds. Luckily I did not have an accident and everything was okay. So, I needed a change. Found a job at a supermarket. Lower pay but during the day. So, experience tough times? Yeah, I guess we all do. Hopefully things get better. Wish you well.
Thomas168ParticipantHello,
To me. when there is a place which holds a draw, it is usually because there were feelings attached to a person who resided there. Could have been parents or siblings or even a lost love. Now, looking for advice from others about where you should be is not going to fix this feeling of belonging. No other person can give you the right answer without knowing a whole lot more about you. And it is doubtful that a forum full of strangers will get to know you well enough in a short period of time.
So, what should you do? Make a list of what holds you to each place such as friends, work, opportunities and anything special. Put numbers next to the items on the list. The more draw the higher the number. What brings more happiness, the higher the number. Add it up and see where it leads. Then remember that the past is gone and only the present matters. It is hard to let go of the past. Memories and such do take its toll. What the list will do is help you see what is available to you.
If you have friends then talk with them also. For some, settling in a place called home helps the soul. For others, leaving the past behind frees the soul from bonds that hold them back. It is good to have choices. As for signs from the Universe, it becomes all a matter of how you interpret the signs. Some people like the rain and others like sunshine. Then there are the others who bask in the sunshine and rink the rain water.
Thomas168ParticipantHello Kris,
You are not broken and do not need to be fixed. But can always take time to improve yourself. Believe in yourself. If you do get angry then try to learn to let it go as soon as you start to feel it. Anger only seems to separate people. But, everyone gets angry sometimes. That is just being human. But also being human means to learn from our mistakes. No one is perfect unless you are Jesus. In over 2000 years there has only been one of Jesus. I guess there may have been more Buddha type people.
Looking for a boyfriend? Just be open hearted. You can either wait for an approach or do the approaching. Doing the approaching takes courage. One doesn’t ask for the moon. Only to start a conversation. The rest comes from being friendly and showing interest. Now, being pretty helps. But, The internet doesn’t show pretty faces on forums. So, no comment about that.
I don’t think you are helping anyone by chasing them away. Being afraid to get hurt by hurting others first is no way to live a happy life. take a chance. Someone once said it is better to live and loved then to never have loved at all. Or something to that effect? So, go live your life and be happy with yourself.
Note: I am no expert and I really shouldn’t give advice since I don’t know what I am talking about. However, I like to look at the brighter side of life and when it rains, to drink the water.
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