Hello Eva,

Sounds like you have a break up story that keeps you locked inside prison walls. Wish I could have done this or that and it would be different now. We could have been together. Or daydreaming about his life with or without you. That is self-destructive and will never stop. Thinking about the past will pull you into that prison again and again. It is the suffering of an event over and over again.

The cure? I don’t have one. I only know that one needs to focus upon this moment. Do and think about now. Spend less time in the past. Let the mind forget and let it go. As you live for the now, with thoughts about the now. The mind will slowly let go of the past. Maybe find another person who holds your attention.

Sorry, I really don’t have any advice or kind words. I too have wasted much time thinking about a person from my past. And even when she past away, I am obsessed with thoughts of her. I know it doesn’t help me and only brings more suffering. So, I move on. Got married. Had a daughter. Lived a life. I spend a lot less time thinking about her. Regrets, we all have one or two? Better to not dwell there too much.

Tommy

My friend ended up quitting his job to go back home to take care of his mother. And for the first six months, he hated his situation. Felt he was trapped and could not see any way to end this problem. Later, he saw his teacher. And thru the few hours he spent with his teacher, his view changed. He was looking upon his situation as a burden. After talking with his teacher, he learned that the time he has to spend with this mom was a blessing. His mind set changed. And he saw his situation as an opportunity to spend time giving of himself. Soon, she passed and he mourned her. And so glad he was able to give the time to help his mom.

Now, your situation is not the same. But, maybe the way you are looking at life is making you suffer more. Buddha said it is the second arrow that causes the suffering. The meaning is a person is hit by an arrow. Instead of taking care of the injury, one spends their time complaining and trying to find the reasons for the pain and suffering. That is the second arrow which causes the suffering more about life.

I don’t know what you need in this life. But, if you see it as a nightmare then maybe time to wake up? Of course one doesn’t just make moves without a plan in order to succeed. Job, savings, rent, and food need to be considered. No matter what one thinks, there are things we can not escape as people. Food, shelter and ways to pay for them. Yes, seeing a light and moving toward the direction.

Whatever caused you to fall into this situation should be thought about to keep from falling back. I wish you well and hope things get better for you.

There is so much that I can say to show what James says is full of contradictions. But, I prefer to just say hello James. Hope life has been treating you well. Or at least treating Him well?? Sorry, easily confused. My bad. Oops, I did it again. Guess I am just not that innocent.

Peter said, “The truth is, the moment I try to label the feeling, it slips into form… and the shadow slumping in the corner starts to get up.”

I have that same reaction when I sit in meditation. I start to think I am doing good in my quiet meditation. Then realizing that I just failed again. Will there actually be a moment of just sitting?

Feels good to be home??

You as a believer in the Quran should know,

Googled, …
The Quran teaches that this life is a temporary test. Upon death, souls enter Barzakh, an intermediate realm of waiting in the grave, until the Day of Judgment. On that day, everyone is physically resurrected, held perfectly accountable for their deeds, and assigned to their eternal home.

That is your belief. Not mine.

For me, the Buddha says that those with a continuing Karma will go thru rebirth. So, maybe this is not the first and last life? Also, it isn’t the mind that keeps one a prisoner. The mind is a tool of the awareness that resides inside of you. It is the experience of the truth of your existence that frees one from suffering and Karma. It allows one the wisdom and compassion to live a life of choices which end the Karmic cycle of birth suffering and rebirth.

Personally, I would never tell someone to “suffer till die”. Those are your words. Better to say, lift yourself from your bonds that chain you to suffering. Do you see the difference? Oh, well, I wish you well and that you live a long and happy life.

So, when you read the words of the Quran, there is no one that reads the words. It is all an illusion? Very good. Now, all you have to do is to say just believe. LOL

Kris said, “I was talking to Thomas”

Please reach out if there is more that you want to say to me. I am here to listen and not give anymore advice. If you need someone to hold your hand or give you a hug then I am here. I will not say anymore about you since all my assumptions have been wrong. Love and peace to you.