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  • in reply to: Sudden change at work #459005
    Thomas168
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    It is a horrible situation when a person who you thought was good to you becomes a self-righteous A-hole. Yeah, that person may have gone thru something but it is still not an excuse for what that person is doing to the others at work. The toughest part is knowing you are doing what you can and still being berated. The stress you must be feeling is incredible. I have no advice. The only thing aI can think of is to somehow talk with this person to get to the real story. Maybe somehow understand?

    in reply to: Extremely Frustarted With Dating #458962
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    Kris said, “I was talking to Thomas”

    Please reach out if there is more that you want to say to me. I am here to listen and not give anymore advice. If you need someone to hold your hand or give you a hug then I am here. I will not say anymore about you since all my assumptions have been wrong. Love and peace to you.

    in reply to: Why enlightenment is walking backwards for the mind? #458961
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    Even though you can see the sky, you can not touch it.

    Thomas168
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    James said, “What I mean is, body still feels the pain, loss.
    Yet, there is not a person in body to suffer.
    I am just saying or advising this, if you really don’t want to suffer, give body and mind back to it’s owner.”

    No matter what you do, you are still in your body. It is the vessel in which you travel. Wishing to give up ownership does nothing but provide for more hardship. It is only in the quiet that emanates thru out the universe that you will find the peace you preach to others. Thru that experience, it allows for conditions to arise where you will see the truth of your existence. From that, it will allow you to see the choices in front of you which gives you the freedom you speak of.

    The wisdom is not in the books of men spoken about God. The love of God permeates the universe in the living being and not on dead paper. You can only burn the paper to feel any kind of warmth. The love and compassion comes from the living truth.

    Thomas168
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    So, what is your point? Give everything and receive nothing in return? Not many who actually do this. I do believe some parents do this. When food is desperately low, parents will often sacrifice their own health to keep their children fed. Or take the bitter fruit while giving the sweeter one to their child. And the parent will not even think it is a sacrifice.

    So, the question why do you suffer after all these realizations? Because the realizations do not deeply touch upon the truth of one’s existence. The experience of the essential silence of the spirit and not just the mind allows for wisdom and compassion to arise. And with it, the ability to handle joy and suffering in a way that allows for freedom.

    One doesn’t become free from suffering but rather understand it roots and thereby understand how to handle suffering in a manner that allows for choices. One will still feel pain and loss. One will still suffer from the illness that afflicts all people. One is not in constant bliss. Rather it is a life lived with insight and wisdom and compassion to handle life’s incidents and events.

    I wish you well James123. May your beliefs bring you peace.

    in reply to: Feeling Like I Don’t Deserve Love #458930
    Thomas168
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    It is not good to make her feel like she is being attacked. So, I do apologize. She believes I was wrong and I sincerely apologize for my assumptions. I wish her well. That is all I can do.

    in reply to: Extremely Frustarted With Dating #458929
    Thomas168
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    There is no sarcasm in my post. I truly am sorry for making assumptions about Kris. I must have misread her post. And my posts were really over the line. Please accept my apology. I was wrong. You are a good person and very happy with yourself. Open to love and starting conversations. Have a wonderful life.

    in reply to: Feeling Like I Don’t Deserve Love #458925
    Thomas168
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    She is angry with me for making assumptions about her. I have apologized. Hope she is well and everything is okay.

    in reply to: Extremely Frustarted With Dating #458924
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    Kris said, “

      My life hasn’t been great.

    I was fired from my job cuz I missed too many days due to illness. I also got fired from working for my sister. They both happened at the same time in January. I did an externship at a crappy little doctors office from March to May.

      That was a miserable experience.

    My therapist DIED back in April. So it’s been pretty rough. I’m still looking for a job with no luck.

      The only positive thing is that I started esketamine therapy, which treats treat resistant depression.

    Then says, “Who says I’m not happy with myself? I never said I disliked myself. Actually, there’s a lot that I like about myself, like my passion, determination, my empathy, my creativity, ect. You don’t know that I’m not starting conversations or showing interests. I am doing both of those thing. I am open to love. Why do you assume I’m not? I feel like you’re making assumptions about me.”

    If one is happy with oneself then why start a post with “My life hasn’t been great”? Needing a therapist and they died? Okay, sounds like a good life and you are very happy with yourself. My post was a general way to look at things. So great they don’t apply to you. You are so happy with yourself. Starting conversations and being open to love?? Depression therapy? Okay, nothing wrong here.

    I really must apologize for my assumptions. You aren’t the person I thought you were posting about. My bad. I wish you well and have a good life.

    in reply to: Extremely Frustarted With Dating #458915
    Thomas168
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    Before one can be happy with another person in their life, they need to be able to be happy with themselves. Having another person as a romantic interest will not bring happiness unless you can be happy with yourself.

    Find peace and happiness within oneself. Then be open to love. Start conversations. Show interests. It will be a time when you meet a person that you find a connection.

    in reply to: UNLOVED #458878
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    I truly hope your find the freedom and happiness and the love you so richly deserve.

    Thomas168
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    Freedom is not the goal. Experiencing the truth about ourselves is. Then wisdom and compassion arises from that experience. From receiving the wisdom and compassion, the freedom in our lives is allowed to flow from our presence. Joy and suffering is what life presents to us. It is how we manage this joy and suffering that is the freedom you seek.

    in reply to: UNLOVED #458839
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    Breaking free of those chains that bind us to our past is worth it at any age. It reduces the Karma that might follow us into the next life.

    in reply to: The vessel has returned unto its Lord. #458838
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    One father greets another, his neighbor, and asked about his neighbor’s son. “How is he doing?”. The neighbor says he is doing Zen Meditation. The man says, “Well, that beats sitting around all day doing nothing.” LOL.

    in reply to: UNLOVED #458750
    Thomas168
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    Time and shared space makes us who we are inside. So I believe that whoever your mom was, she did love you in her own way. Deep inside feelings that don’t get expressed. She di love you. How could she not? How could you not? But circumstances take their toll on the human spirit. It shades our outlook on life. Our understanding of our lives are taken in episodes. Each re-enforcing the next. So, sometimes things get twisted that we don’t see the truth. Or we just can’t untangle ourselves from the experience to learn who and what we really are. The suffering.

    Personally, I believe you have come thru your experiences that you have become a better person. You bring compassion and love into your posts. You take the time to help each person. And you agonize over the little things to find the truth. I hope that you will overcome your past to find the freedom and happiness that you so righteously deserve.

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