Now, this is not Copilot, it’s strictly me, using the phone:

I find it strange, or should I say, incongruent that on one hand, she is so important to you that you wouldn’t care about your own healing if she’s not in your life, and on the other hand, you are not ready to commit to her beyond one day at a time.

Actually, it’s strange that you don’t seem to believe that you even need any kind of healing outside the relationship with her. It is as if you believe that you are unaffected by your personal childhood trauma.

Don’t get me wrong: I like you and I think you’re a decent person, and a pleasure to communicate with. But, if I was in her place, assuming she is fully ready to commit to you, I’d be upset that you are not. I would feel that I am on trial, like on a test drive.That would have rained on my love- parade big time!

Anita