Hey Dear Confused:

You mentioned friends before. I’m glad you have a close friend (or more than one) and a female friend.

Your female friend was indeed fast on picking up on you sabotaging your own happiness with those worries, and that it may be a defense mechanism.

But of course, it’s happening without you choosing it consciously.

It’s a mental loop you’re caught in, a habit of the mind (which is in part chemical)

So, today, you saw a photo of her in the 🪞 and you thought: “She’s gorgeous”.

Now, I imagine a voice in your 🧠 saying quickly, before you can hear it something like ‘She’s too gorgeous 4 U!’, ‘some guy will take her away from U”, ‘You better prepare for it by not caring when it happens’.

And the defense: ‘I don’t want her… I don’t really want her”-

If you don’t want her, losing her won’t hurt.

You ended your post with “Crazy stuff!”- I think you’re crazy 🤪 about the gorgeous woman in the 🪞.

🤍🐉🐇 Anita