“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” ~George Bernard Shaw
I still remember this moment vividly, as if it had happened yesterday. My friend Ling and I were walking into a mall. I was dressed in the clothes I had been wearing for four months—baggy sweat pants, an oversized T-shirt, and flip-flops.… Read More
“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh
There I was, reading yet another diet book.
It was the spring of 2013. I was routinely doing intense workouts in my living room at 5AM. Then I would go teach group fitness classes later in the day.… Read More
“Morning is wonderful. Its only drawback is that it comes at such an inconvenient time of day.” ~Glen Cook
Beep! Beep! Beep!
You’ve got twenty minutes to shower, get dressed, eat, and get to work.
Screw it—skip the shower today. And you can wait till lunch to eat.
Go!… Read More
“Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own unguarded thoughts.” ~Buddha
As a kid, I was taught that the Devil tempted us to do evil deeds. When I had the urge to do something naughty, I imagined a pitchfork-totin’ demon whispering into my ear. He’d encourage me to steal that Hershey’s bar from the 7-11, or to lie to my mom when she asked if I’d finished my homework.… Read More
“Stop hating yourself for everything you aren’t. Start loving yourself for everything that you are.” ~Unknown
Picture it: You’re out with friends having dinner, then one of them says, “I shouldn’t be eating this. I skipped the gym today.”
Another one replies, “I’m so bad. I’ve been eating out of control all week.… Read More
“Once you get used to people giving to you as much as you give to them and receive all of the benefits of a less stressful life, you will not consider putting yourself last.” ~Amanda Owen
Recently a good friend of mine helped me with a workshop project. She formulated spreadsheets, answered multiple emails and questions, provided feedback to my group, and then participated in the actual event by doing a demonstration.… Read More
“Your body is precious. It is your vehicle for awakening. Treat it with care.” ~Buddha
It’s interesting how easily we forget to appreciate the simple day-to-day luxuries that we are granted with our body.
We assume that as we exhale, there will always be an inhalation to follow.
We assume that when we lay our head down on our pillow at night, our heart will beat, our blood will flow, and we will open our eyes in the morning.… Read More
“When I had nothing to lose, I had everything. When I stopped being who I am, I found myself.” ~Paulo Coelho
Someone once asked me if I was happy.
The question confused me because it didn’t really seem like something I had a choice in.
I had two parents and wonderful siblings who loved me deeply.… Read More
“The quieter you become the more you can hear.” ~Ram Dass
We live our lives at such a fast pace. We seem to be working more hours and juggling more tasks both at work and home, with no relenting.
As part of the technological age, we are connected 24/7, and we find it difficult to switch off.… Read More
“The danger is not that the soul should doubt whether there is any bread, but that, by a lie, it should persuade itself that it is not hungry.” ~Simone Weil
For most of my life, I was hungry all the time. My belly only ever felt full for a few precious seconds while eating the last few bites on my plate.… Read More
“When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits—anything that kept me small. My judgment called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving.” ~Kim McMillen
Sometimes people ask us questions that change our lives, questions that require us to dig down deep and think about what’s really important.… Read More
“When we run from our feelings, they follow us. Everywhere.” ~Martha Beck, Ph.D
I’ve tried Paleo, The 4-Hour Body, even Body for Life.
I’ve tried intermittent fasting. (That was no fun.)
I’ve tried low-carb, carb-cycling, and carb-binging. (While I don’t think that’s a diet strategy, it was what I experienced.)
Sure, I lost weight temporarily, but I never felt like I “arrived.… Read More
Have you ever noticed that unhealthy food is a lot cheaper and easier to get than healthy food? You can zip through a drive thru and get an entire meal off the dollar menu without losing more than five minutes or five bucks.
Because I was busy and on a budget, I formerly ate a steady diet of processed, packaged food, which did very little for my energy level.… Read More
“See the positive side, the potential, and make an effort.” ~Dalai Lama
I was a perfectionist growing up, always trying to bang my flawed round-shaped self into a perfect square hole that couldn’t possibly contain me.
In my early twenties, I decided to focus on personal development—a positive thing, I assumed.… Read More
“Health is the greatest possession. Contentment is the greatest treasure. Confidence is the greatest friend.” ~Lao Tzu
It’s common among overachiever types: we like to push ourselves.
Sometimes it’s to get from A to B. Sometimes it’s to create the illusion of change when really, you’re just spinning your wheels. Sometimes it’s simply to avoid standing still and accepting the moment as is.… Read More
“It is better to take many small steps in the right direction than to make a great leap forward only to stumble backward.” ~Proverb
You wouldn’t believe it now, but in my college days I did my fair share of crash diets.
The craziest was the one where I tried (and failed) to eat nothing but oranges for nine days.… Read More
“Better to do something imperfectly than to do nothing flawlessly.” ~Robert H Schuller
I have tried for so long to build a meditation habit. Seriously, it’s been one of my biggest goals for more than a decade.
And I’ve tried really hard. I’ve read books, I’ve taken classes, I’ve made accountability charts, I’ve set SMART goals; I’ve done it all.… Read More
“There are times when alone is the best place to be.” ~Unknown
Some people think it’s awful to spend time alone—that it means you’re antisocial or no one needs you.
Some people feel sad and lonely when they don’t have company every evening or weekend.
But being alone doesn’t mean that no one needs you.… Read More
Almost everyone knows someone who has struggled or is struggling with addiction, and many of us are personally affected.
One hundred people die every day from overdoses—but it’s not just drugs or alcohol I’m referring to. We struggle with addictions to food, gambling, pornography, and even technology.
As a former bulimic, I know all too well how easy it is to lose yourself in a compulsive, destructive behavior when you’re lost, depressed, or trying to escape from the seemingly irrepressible ghosts of past trauma.… Read More