Hi Mae

I’m sorry to hear about your struggles.

The reason your boyfriend stated sound like a cop out. I can’t imagine why anyone would leave over their partner taking their medication? I don’t really understand the reading deadlines either. It sucks, but it sounds like you dodged a bullet with that one.

It’s awful that you were rejected from your PhD program and are experiencing difficulty gaining employment in your field. I’m not sure what the field is or how many job are available in that area.

Job hunting does suck though. It took me a year to get a suitable entry level job. I’ve even seen experienced people have similar difficulties. Certain industries are being hit hard at the moment.

I found it really depressing how many candidates were applying for each role. Applying felt like a lottery ticket with a small chance of getting a job at the end. Targeting my resume to roles helped. Some only needed small changes. I also volunteered to gain relevant work experience related to my field.

Are you getting any interviews as a result of your applications? If you are it’s a good sign. If you’re not there might be issues with your resume.

You’ve been through so much in the past year! I hope that things change for you and something good comes your way soon. Hang in there! Unfortunately, job hunting is a numbers game.

How are you feeling emotionally? And how are you coping with your limited budget? I hope you’re getting enough to eat and such.

Wishing you all the best! 🙏

Hi Tom!

It’s good to hear that your family are supportive in giving you your space when you need it. It’s lovely to her that your wife is a good honest person with a kind heart.

The thing about people in general is that they tend to take on traits of people that they spend time with. We’re all kind of a mish mash of experiences we’ve shared with other people.

The good thing is that values change over time and what is important to someone who is younger can be dramatically different when they get older. Simply by remembering the lessons you teach them, watching you being responsible, hardworking and caring for others. One day they may understand the importance of it even though they might not understand it now.

It sounds like you are worried about them. The good qualities that you have are important for survival in this world. Perhaps it’s not so much not seeing the good, but concern and a touch of frustration at times? Which is understandable!

Hi Tim

Not eating and sleeping does a real number on your ability to regulate emotion. It makes sense why the breakdown happened. It’s a very human reaction to intense stress. It sounds like you were already under a lot of stress before the break up happened. It tipped you over the edge as it were. You were not your usual self. I think you can safely say that.

You’ve got a good head on your shoulders and great attitude. I think your instincts that holding onto hope isn’t healthy for you shows a lot of self-awareness.

I hope things continue to get a little easier day by day.

Hi Sammie

I’m so sorry to hear about your miscarriage as well as the ex boyfriend who treat you so badly. You didn’t deserve any of his treatment. You deserve so much better!

It sounds like you’re doing all of the right things dating. Bear in mind that these things do take time.

I can understand how much it sucks to be alone while he is potentially seeing other people. It might be important for you to take some time to heal from this situation because there are a lot of not so good guys out there and if you can’t set boundaries and protect yourself  you could end up in a bad situation again.

Wishing you all the best! 🙏

Hi Tim

You need to forgive yourself for that. What happened was so unexpected and sudden. You were in shock and not in a good place. People do make mistakes when they’re under huge amounts of stress. You sound like an incredibly caring guy. I’m sure she remembers that is who you are.

I hope that like you, she can see the good that you had in your relationship and not define what you both had by the end of it. Like you said, she was hurting. It sounds like she was struggling more than you realised at the time.

Perhaps this is the answer to what happened? Simply that she couldn’t cope with all of the stress and whatever was going on internally?

Hi Tim

I’m sorry to hear about the break up. It sounds like you were both under a lot of pressure then with mental health, withdrawal, financial, custody, physical health issues and menopause going on.

Do you think that all of the stress caused some issues to develop in the relationship? My husband and I for example tend to argue more frequently when we’re stressed. You mentioned being more needy, when you were usually both independent. This is one thing you noticed? Was there anything else you can think of?

It’s honestly hard to say what will happen in the future. It hasn’t been that long since the break up. Since she has requested no contact, it’s for the best to respect her wishes. Especially with the break down at the end. It’s really up to her to get back in contact if she chooses.

It’s good to hear that you’ve managed to form lots of positive habits even though understandably you’re still hurting from the break up. It’s very hard when you loved someone deeply. I hope that every day gets a little easier for you.

Wishing you all the best! 🙏

Hi Emma

It’s good to hear that you’re doing the right thing for your peace and making room for something genuine.

Your ex is on a very long journey. It’s really not easy to get through that type of trauma. It’s good to hear that he is working on it for himself and any future partners.

Wishing you all the best! 🙏

Hi Doremi

I’m sorry to hear about the situation with your clearly jealous new manager trying to sabotage your work.

The plus side, he has revealed his hand and you are in a better position to protect yourself now.

It’s understandable to be hurt and upset by his actions. I do think that your results speak for themselves though. Keep on doing what you do best and try to protect yourself.

See how you feel in a few days when it isn’t as raw. Also, I don’t know if your company has this policy. But if you aren’t happy with a review and don’t feel it accurately reflects your work don’t sign it and speak to HR.