I will add that I do think interacting with this seller of mooncakes is a good step for you. It is very good practice communicating with someone that you are attracted to. Doing so in person, in a structured way, at your leisure. It gives you plenty of time to plan ahead and work around some of the issues that you have been experiencing in unplanned meetings with women. As I said before, you are full of good ideas. Well done!

I think taking this step is worthy of praise. I’m curious what you would like to say to her?

Personally, I am imagining purchasing the mooncake. Thanking her, maybe some small talk about mooncakes or celebration plans. Asking how she is?

Hi Alecsee

Sadly, non committed sexual relationships are very common these days. Many people have multiple partners. I don’t think it indicates that they don’t care about anyone but themselves. Simply that they are exploring their options. She has a right to explore her options.

That being said, being on the receiving end of this when you are ready to commit is a very hurtful place to be in. You must do what is right for you to protect yourself.

Personally, I don’t think much of the absence makes the heart grow fonder strategy. Your relationship has been fairly short and experienced difficulties. I don’t think there will be much for her to miss and absence would lead to forgetting.

Hi W

As I see it, you aren’t dating you’re just friends.It sounds like you may have feelings that you haven’t discussed with your coworker.

As you are both just friends, she is free to see whoever she chooses whenever she chooses. She can’t wait around after you who hasn’t made a move forever. She has made her feelings known to you, you have repeatedly rejected her and set a boundary of friendship.

I would suggest actually dating her since you have developed some feelings for her. If you stop messing around with her feelings and show some commitment, she could be a great partner.

Don’t many religions including Christianity, Judaism and Islam condemn homosexuality?

It’s not particularly unusual. Whilst personally, I disagree with that. I feel like it’s inappropriate to attempt to discredit anyones spiritual practices or religion.

Hi Eric

I don’t see a problem with asking if a mooncake is homemade or what flavour it is. I expect that those questions would be asked all the time.

This seems much worse to you because of your anxiety and fear of judgement. So the problem isn’t really what happened. It is important to understand that your anxiety is the cause of your fears and take steps to reduce your anxiety. I would suggest going to the gym. Try not to worry and when you are feeling better make some plans for what to say when you pick up the moon cake.

Hi Ivygrl!

You made a mistake but learning from it is the most important thing that you can do. Please do not stress yourself about it.

I understand what it is like to be poor. There are alternatives to stealing though. You could go to a library and borrow books for free legally or download e-books to read.

If you have an impulse and know that it is wrong but you don’t know how to figure out a solution yourself I would recommend asking an adult about it.

From a moral perspective, I wonder what was the donated money for? What was the school planning on spending it on?

Thinking that you would be happy and that no one would notice is where you misunderstood the consequence.  When money is stolen, it will always generally be noticed.

The following potential consequences of stealing $60 are not to scare you. They are just to help you understand.

For children, if committed on school grounds it is up to the school if they wish to press charges. There is a prison for children that commit crimes called juvenile detention. But I think most schools would probably opt for a longer suspension. Repeating this behaviour may face expulsion or prosecution.

For adults in America, they can be jailed for up to a year and potentially fined for $1000 as well. Another impact of this crime, is that it can be hard to find a job afterwards.

If you work hard to understand consequences for various issues you face by asking lots of questions. I think you will find that as you learn you start to make better choices and people will not feel the need to remind you of previous mistakes.

Wishing you all the best! 🙏

Hi Madalina

I can tell that you are trying really hard to manage your diet in a healthy way.

I tried various diets, it’s been a bit of a journey lol. I totally empathise with how difficult it is.

Low fodmap, GERD, low glycemic index, dairy free and gluten free are all diets that I’ve tried. I think it has been helpful to find out which foods don’t seem to get on well with me.

I don’t seem to have problems with meat. I tend to err on the low fat side, avoiding fried foods etc. Like you I don’t get on well with dairy. Cauliflower and acidic foods don’t sit well either. I found that I have difficulty digesting very dry foods. So if I do eat a little of them I have to drink tea to help digest it. The hot and warm liquid helps to rehydrate it.

The western diet can include a ridiculous amount of wheat. I found that I’m able to tolerate it in smaller amounts. I try and vary the carbohydrate source in a day. Rice, oats, quinoa that type of thing.

I don’t get on well with artificial sweeteners either. Dark chocolate and fruit have become my new best friends. Water intake has been important too. I had a habit of not drinking enough especially when anxious.

Mental health drugs can impact digestion and food cravings too. It is challenging to manage.