Hi Dreaming715,

I was just checking on you and seeing how you are doing, and if you are feeling any better. Please post again if you would like.

Hi Neo,

I say, just give it some time. In the meantime, try to stay busy, be with friends, enjoy life, you never know, you may see her again. People tend to come back in our lives when we are at our happiest. Stay strong.

Hi Nobody,

If you are being left out of things, create your own things. What do you like to do? What are your hobbies, interests, passions? Start a group. Maybe at first it will be a small group, but you won’t be ignored, you will fit in, because you created it, you will be with like minded people who will enjoy your company. You may be hanging around toxic people or cliques. You don’t need that. Go where the sunshine is. Find positive people. You can find this at church, volunteering, self help groups, book clubs, etc. Lonliness is a passing feeling and this too shall pass.

Try to gain knowledge about interesting topics. Read alot of book’s. When you are around other people, don’t let them ignore you! Share your wealth of interesting facts you have learned. Tell funny jokes, start a discussion, make people look you in the eye when you speak. Start slow. Start speaking to one person, then move on top crowds. Be around people who are happy with life, themselves, and they will not ignore you, but will enjoy your uniqueness and the pleasure of your company.

Hi Rishabh,

I’m sorry to hear you are going through a difficult time. I agree, with social media, smartphones, etc..it seems we have lost “the human touch”. Making people feel even more isolated, lonely and sad. I too suffer from this. I wish Facebook, social media has never been invented. I’m probably quite a bit older than you, but I miss the 70’s and 80’s where there was actually people who would come over. We would all sit out on the back porch, singing songs, someone would play the guitar, we would have cookouts, or have smores. Then we would all go inside and play card or board games..this was several nights a week. Usually at a different persons house. No one “texted, e-mailed, or even called” back then..we would just show up at a neighbor’s house. Everything was an open invitstion. Children would play outside all day. I don’t remember hearing alot about drugs, guns, violence. Back then people left their car doors unlocked. Times were so much simpler, more communication and interaction, fun, laughter, happiness etc. Now, everything is different. It’s a different world. How I miss those decades.

I would not put too much pressure on yourself and worry about the future, because that robs you of enjoying the things of “now”. Try to enjoy the “little” things, take in a nice sunset, go for a walk, bring your mind back from negative thoughts and worry back to the present. You have no control over the future. Live your life for you, not your parents, father. You have no one to please but yourself, it’s your life, not theirs.

Are there any hobbies you enjoy? Any way you can start a small group who share the same interests and passions as you, to make new friends? Try to find some purpose in your life that will give you fulfillment. Friends and things are only temporary. They can’t make us happy. They come and go out of our lives. We have to find our inner peace and happiness. Happiness is not something we “always” have to have. We can just enjoy beauty, nature, following our passion, hobbies, what did you like doing as a child? Painting? Drawing? Playing board games? Sometimes when we get our inner child back and do things we once enjoyed doing will bring us purpose and fulfillment. Please post again with your thoughts.

Hi Dreaming715,

I was just thinking of you, and your brother and seeing how he is doing and how you are doing. I hope things are getting better. My thoughts are with you. Let us know how you are if you would like. x