Hi Cali Chica,

Anita is no longer in the forums here at Tiny Buddha. I am not sure exactly why but either way her presence is missed. Anyways I hope you can get in touch with her, and if you do please pass along a warm hello from zeeza?

Best regards,

zeeza

Dear Dee,

Maybe you could ask your doctor about birth control that lets you skip your period? like seasonique gives you 4 periods a year. I think they are some that offer longer but I am not sure if that’s good on the body but that’s my opinion.

Or if they are mising I find eating more red meat or things that are easy on the tummy to keep down then the periods can come back after more stable eating for awhile.

Hope you find relief and feel better!

I did tell him that but I don’t know if I trust him he said he wanted to take him on a hike when I am working and meet his friends older dogs who are calm but I don’t know how much I trust him honestly.

Dear Anita,

Yes I completely agree that Mango needs positive direction. When that incident happened I was more sad and I said Mango no in not much of a difference way but out of concern way and I picked him up and the lady and I talked about what was his trigger and she said she thought I was because last time Mango saw her she had a big dog. I picked him up to try to help him feel safe and contain.

I am not the best at being calm. The place I called was a rescue rehab center for animals. They told me he is young and can learn he is in a good window for exposure. She also said matlese are prone to nipping which I did not know.

I was considering what is best forango and a c owner is what is best. He has a really good memory. Today when we walked he sit so I can walk through entrances first as the leader. He is staying close to me. I think I was treating him lol he was Casper so having a loose leash.

Anyways last night I danced with Mango like I use to with Casper. And he followed me cue if I jumped he jumped and he followes me around.

Just now some coffee was accidentally spilt bevausesngo knocked into it I said oh no in a calm way and went to get something to clean it.ango was sitting kind of timid and I just said to him it isn’t your fault it was an accidental and it’s all good.

I do remember he was very afraid of rolled up poster paper that I was trying to hang up on my wall. I don’t know what occured previously but I know he grew up with some kids.

I am thinking that maybe the dog park is a bit too ambitious to start with and want to ask my neighbor to have her meet us outside and I will give her treats and I will have treats and so we can practice confidently meeting. and if it is too much we will stay at a distance. It is confusing because mango has met people well before.

I don’t know exactly how his life was before but I know he was in a crate for training purposes I never did crate training unless Casper was I’ll he didn’t want to or have to go in his kennel.

I need to find some expert help for sure but I don’t think he needs obedience training because he listens very well when valm. he needs emotional training I think?

It is hard because I have a hard time being called but I slept well and I think the gabapentin is working but it is like how do a train a dog well knowing I have PTSD and these issues.ayne I should of adopted a service dog.

I guess my big question is if I. Goo enough of calm enough to give Mango what he needs to become a well adjusted dog. I had a grooming appt scheduled but now I am nervous for him . I have trimmed hair around his paws and he lets me bathe him butaybe I could consider auzzle or sothing I don’t know something to reduce the risk. But I also worry maybe that would make him more anxious. I schedule the appt in the morning when there aren’t that many dogs or people in the morning.

I am trying my best but I also myself where do I draw the line and say hey I am not doing right by mango maybe he needs to have something different in his life but he has such bad separation anxiety I have only left him alone twice because he gets distressed so I wonder if he is so protective because of that and that he was rehomed. It’s a lot to adjust to a new place.  The neighbor lady said she also has PTSD and when isn’t feeling calm she doesn’t meet people with her dog or get together with her dog because she knows he will become defensive.

Best wishes

Zeeza

Dear Jo,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. It is really hard when losing a dear friend. My dog crossed over to the other side one month ago and I still keep expecting to see him or hear him. One poem that has really helped me and I hope could help you in your grief:

MY FOREVER PET

There’s something missing in my home,
I feel it day and night,
I know it will take time and strength
before things feel quite right.

But just for now, I need to mourn,
My heart — it needs to mend.
Though some may say, “It’s just a pet,”
I know I’ve lost a friend.

You’ve brought such laughter to my home,
and richness to my days.
A constant friend through joy or loss
with gentle, loving ways.

Companion, friend, and confidante,
A friend I won’t forget.
You’ll live forever in my heart,
My sweet, forever pet.

— Susanne Taylor

Dear Aiyana,

I hope it is alright if I respond to what you responded with previously here?

As a writer there is so much inspiration you can write that is a beautiful dream and thats really cool that you have a mentor who inspires you as well.

” Pisces Season has really gotten the best of my emotions. In a way, it’s a blessing. Pisces is the twelfth and final sign of the astrology cycle.” I wonder if astrological signs also help indicate how the cycle of the earth; weather alters our modes and moods. I find that winter is usually a time of reflection for me and by the spring I am ready to apply what I learn and sprout 🙂

May I ask what is your most favorite to write? Poetry? journalism? One of my favorite words is sehnsucht. It is a german word. I noticed that each language has unique words that can’t be translated. Sehnsucht is one of them. So I am not sure if I understand it deeply but it means an inconsolable ache/yearning. I have felt this way sometimes and having a word for it feels empowering. Do you have a favorite word?

Best wishes,

zeeza

• This reply was modified 3 years, 8 months ago by Zeeza.

Lisa,

Please feel free to respond anytime no worries about when 🙂

May I ask and if there is particular music that is helpful? Glad you have a chance to be around animals. In my town we have cat cafés where you can pet all the kitties. I don’t know if you have something like this but wouldn’t it be lovely if we could all hang out at a kitty café and talk about choosing love.

When I think of choosing love I think of authenticity. Sometimes being optimistic is hard so I try my best to be as neutral as possible and honest. It’s okay to not be ok. I try my best in these moments to tell myself I trust that it will be okay even if it isn’t right now.

So if I feel sad or frustrated I will say to myself I noticed I am feeling sad. What can I do to help and comfort myself?

Thank you for starting this thread I love being able to brainstorm ways of choosing love in a supportive environment and hearing your ideas.

I collect heart shaped rocks and give them away. They are like worry stones to hold and calm oneself. I wish I could give you one 🙂

Best,

Zeeza