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  • #229517
    risha
    Participant

    Yes Anita,

    I do agree with all what you have stated #1,2,3 & 4. Maybe I feel worthless because I have been taken for granted and been a fool.

    I really appreciate the way you have illustrates as how one should value your ownself . And yes your value doesn’t decrease by a relationship and by a man.

    “you didn’t have enough experience in relationships to know how to evaluate a man and how to proceed in a relationship so that it is likely to end in marriage” – Yes I couldn’t evaluate and identify as what kind of a person he is. I always thought he loved me deeply and he was helpless. That’s because he gave me so much attention and made me believe that I am the only person for him.

    So this is a good lesson indeed thank you for guiding me to realize the truth Anitha…You are indeed a angel for me. Hugs

    Risha

     

    #229519
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Risha:

    You are welcome and a hug back to you!

    anita

    #229643
    risha
    Participant

    Hi Anita,

    I had to connect my messenger yesterday because I had to contact a friend of mine so when I got connected I saw my ex online but he quickly went offline in few min after one hour I got a message from him asking me to check my viber msg Ignored then he called me on messenger I didn’t pick. after that he sent me messages accusing me by saying ‘I have been contacting a friend of his and that I have been communicating with that person for some time and all of you are same but I never thought u will do like this’ one after the other he was messaging me. So I did not let him go further instead straight away I blocked him.

    Actually I have deactivated my fb account and messenger since I had to contact my friend who just came from overseas I connected yesterday because I didn’t have a contact number to call. at that point I never realized my ex was there.

    I really don’t understand this man. He couldn’t tolerate to see me online and wanted to blame me and come up with a conversation. I think he wants me to shut myself from everything totally. But if he left me why r these things bothering him and even if I did communicate with that boy what is his problem.

    What on earth does he want from me. On Friday he sends me a polite email asking to forgive him and marry someone else and he’s waiting to see my happiness etc. Then yesterday he’s messaging me blaming me.

    Sometimes I am very worried for his behavior. I have anyway blocked him from everything after I spoke to him on Friday but I forgot about the messenger since it was deactivated. So he would have realized he cant reach me at all so when he saw me online he quickly wanted to chat.

    If he has a another woman why is he still trying to have contacts with me even on Friday he was very clear of his decision and he made me believe that he does not  want me and that he’s going out of my life.

    He left me that’s fine now when I’m trying to move on he’s again trying to reach me by accusing me for unwanted things. I never contacted any of his friends I’m just been to myself.

    Couple of month back he told me that he’s going mad and he feel like consulting a doctor a phycologist. I think he needs some kind of help to clear his mess which is in his head.

    Risha

     

     

    #229685
    HoneyBlossom
    Participant

    Dear Risha,

    He sounds to me as though he is behaving like a control freak,  and saying these things to try to manipulate you into contacting him.  He has been thrown offbalance because he feels he can no longer control you.  He is not your responsibility.  That is more appropriately left to his parents and fiance.

     

    Please do not give into his attempts to manipulate you.

    • This reply was modified 5 years, 7 months ago by HoneyBlossom.
    #229693
    risha
    Participant

    Thanks Honeyblossom. Yesterday evening I discarded all his cards, gifts etc and I wanted to move on and here he goes again sending me a message and blaming me.

    Yes I will not let him manipulate me coz I have wasted my time for him and still he’s trying to play with my life.

    Thanks again Honey blossom. Hugs

    #229755
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Risha:

    Now that you do  understand better who he is, most recently asking you to forgive him (there is a suggestion there that he did  some wrong to you), and then proceeding to blame you (making his forgiveness request…void for reasons of dishonesty/ obvious lack of sincerity)-

    tell me what you feel for him now, is it love, and if it is love, what is the nature of your love for him?

    anita

    #229861
    risha
    Participant

    Hi Anita,

    My emotions keeps changing sometimes I am Angry, sad, frustrated, hurt, and most of the times I am totally Blank like a zombie.  No matter what I feel and how bad he has treated me deep down my heart I feel I still love him. I don’t know why I feel this way I just feel I will never be able to love someone else. Its so hard to live this way.

    Risha

    #229889
    HoneyBlossom
    Participant

    Hugs Risha,

    I understand.  I believe you will love sgain.  You havent met that person yet.

    #229917
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Risha:

    “No matter what I feel and how bad he has treated me deep down my heart I feel I still love him”- this is because deep down in your heart you see him the way you wish he was, the way you need him to be, not the way he really is.

    anita

     

    #230059
    risha
    Participant

    I am so sad Anita, Yes maybe I wish him to be that way and that’s how he was. But at the latter part I see a different picture of him I mean he turned out to be totally different. He’s not the person whom I knew and that hurts a lot.

    Day by day my situation is becoming worst and I m feeling depressed. My mom has brought few proposals and she wants me to have a look at it. I am even more frustrated because when I see the other men I’m very irritated. I just cant even think of considering anything coz its too early for me. I don’t find anyone attractive nor do I want to associate anyone. I just want to shut myself from everything and be on my own.

    I will keep you posted in couple of days. until then take care Anita.

    #230061
    risha
    Participant

    Honeyblossom – ‘I understand.  I believe you will love sgain.  You havent met that person yet’ – Thanks but  I am not sure if I am able to move on I am just frustrated with everything.

    I don’t know what to do but I will keep posted for any updates. Take care until then !

    #230063
    Allen shira
    Participant

    I have always believed in love, trust and honesty, so I treat people the way I want to be treated, my ex in this case broke my heart and I honestly don’t think I can ever love again. We started dating a few years ago, I told her about how I love loyalty and that I would never do anything to hurt her or ever cheat on her, of course she said the same things too and I decided to trust her, last month I was supposed to go on a business trip , but due to bad weather my flight was cancelled, I came back home to find man clothes on my bed but my girlfriend was not home, all I saw were man clothes only, I waited for her to come home and she claimed they belonged to her brother who came visiting, I began to wonder why her brother will leave his clothes on our bed , but I never further pressed the issue, soon enough my friends started seeing her in clubs with other guys and hotels, I couldn’t face her because I never had enough proof , so I spoke to my friend who introduced me to a guy from google (Ziyev, his contact is Ziyevhack AT geemail Dot com, you can contact him if you need help hacking or cloning a cheating spouse phone, he’s very picky so tell him Allen referred you), the guy helped me clone her phone and in just an hour I could read all her mails, texts , call logs and I could also get her location,

    I soon found out she was cheating on me with this dude from the next house, and it had been going on for months, to cut the story short , she’s out of my life now and I feel free, but I am not sure I can ever love again.

    #230125
    risha
    Participant

    Hi Allen,

    I am so sad to hear your story I know how it feels when someone breaks your trust. That’s the most hardest part to get along with. In ur case she has not been honest to you at all to get her secret lover no sooner you left. Even I trusted my ex more than myself that’s also because he made me believe him so much. That’s why I am still suffering.

    Anyway he’s out of my life too and yes I too feel the same way – I can never trust or love ever again.

    #230143
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Risha:

    “I can never trust or love ever again”- that is one solution to the problem, but there is another solution: get to know a man over time and decide if he is trustworthy before getting emotionally involved. That way you will see the man the way he is before emotion clouds your vision.

    You’ve been feeling poorly for too long… I hope you feel better soon!

    anita

    #231019
    risha
    Participant

    Hi Anita,

    Yes Its been one month for today since we broke up and unfortunately I still feel the same. Last week he tried to reach me via my  office number but I didn’t pick the phone. on Friday he kept calling continuously more than 100 miss calls I guess (nobody would believe this) coz that’s the only way he can reach then in the evening he walked into my office and was standing right in front of me smiling  and he said he came to give me something.  but i never saw anything with him.

    I didn’t know what to say or do so I reacted very harshly and told him why on earth is he coming after me if he has another woman and I told him to leave from my cabin then he told me ‘ok I’m going forever’ then I told that’s what you did already and I told him arnt you shame to even come over here after all what you did, then he said I didn’t come after u I came to ask why are u calling my friends and he walked out.

    So it was time to leave office and on my way I got a call from a different number and when I answered it was him he told me not to keep the phone and was accusing me saying ‘stop contacting my friends and the way he spoke to me was very rude with no respect I was so sad and hurt to hear him shout at me. He did the worst thing for me and yet trying to blame me. Then I told him you have already hurt me and is this how you talk to me and whatever I do in my life is non of your business. then he again shouted saying ‘ohh ok so u did call my friend will see’ and he kind of threatened me and cut the line.

    I was out of words shattered as for what happened.

    But Anita now why do I feel  whether he came to see me because he change his mind and he wanted me back ? but since I was harsh to him did he also react in a harsh and walked out without telling me what’s in his mind. Now this is bothering me a lot did I mess it up not that I want him back but I think I could have just listened to him at least. But why i reacted that way is because i was scared if he would hurt me again if he just came to see me since he was feeling sorry for me.

    What do u think?

    Risha

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