Hey anita, thank you 🙁

I mean, i think i’m the one responsible since breaking her trust in september and then creating this insecurity for her which scarred her i think..idk

I also tried sleeping, i would open my eyes every once in a while thinking that i lost her and i lied to her so much in front of her eyes..it all haunts me.. i have a text ready to send her, begging her to reconsider but i am not sending it, i think it’s too soon and im trying to respect her wish.. I saw that a big portion of our chat yesterday is gone, idk how she deleted even my messages. It’s from the part that we argued and when i was straight lying to her face..

Hey anita

Damn, reading it makes me not feel so nice.. (i hope its a pause), i did send her begging texts but i stopped yesterday, i tried..
Today she posted a story with a song and the lyrics were “i believed in all the lies” and she wrote “life goes on”, this bothered me.. I texted her (not because of that) and i told her “i have no right to know how u are doing, just wanna tell u not to throw what we have in the trash” She said “i feel disgusted from all the lies yesterday and u are the one that threw it in the trash, not me”. I explained once again why i reacted this way and she said that she feels like she can’t trust me now at all, she overthinks everything. I told her thats okay, i will keep telling u that i never lied to u and that this was only a stupid decision out of panic and fear.. She said whatever and she’s very exhausted, didnt sleep at all last night, then told me “fine u want another chance? did u go out with her?” (a girl that she saw i removed my likes in september) and i thought she was mentioning another one with the same name so there was a misunderstanding there which i cleared up. She then said ok fine whatever. But she did sent me a highlight of this girl (that i havent seen since 2020) with a video of hers and a male voice being heard in the background for 1 second and she said “pls dont tell me thats not ur voice”, LOL, she searched this girl’s highlights and matched another dude’s voice with mine, what a detective. I laughed and told her that this was funny and it’s definitely not my voice. She then asked me ok maybe i was wrong, but what do u want anyway? I told her i want YOU in my life. She said idk if i can trust u right now, i asked her “u cant or u dont want?” she said maybe it’s both at the moment. I told her its alright, i can’t change ur mind if i u dont want but i refuse to let u go.. She said “u are not well” (she meant in the mind, its a phrase we use here).

Yeah, for her trust is very fragile and since i broke it in september we were trying hard to rebuild it..

Now, i was feeling very anxious/crying before we talked, after we talked i felt indifference.. now anxiety and sadness are creeping back in..

I am not well anita, i just miss her and i still feel broken, angry at myself for telling such a stupid lie..

It feels so empty and lonely, i wanna text her and tell her how much i want her and love her.. 🙁

Yeah probably but i thought she was done with my ex, like i am that i sometimes forget about her existence..

I hope she’s not done with me, i know i lied a lot and that hurt her.. She said i know why u did it but it still doesn’t cancel my feelings or how im feeling..

I never mentioned my ex in this case tho, just her aunt’s apartments but i should have thought it better.. im dumb

The breakup/ex thing.. doesnt make me feel good.

She needs to calm down before you can talk with her, is what I’m thinking. I’ll be away from the computer for a little while. Please try to calm down yourself.

Hey anita

I couldn’t hold it in and i texted her again. I went out for a walk and i saw the moon (its one of our first shared things of communication back in 2025), i wanted to cry a lot but i was at a public place so i didnt, and as soon as i was pouring my heart out to her and telling her “the moon is getting fuller but my soul is getting emptier, i would usually send u a picture but i hope u are seeing it and thinking of us perhaps”, she posted a story with the moon, then she hid me so i can’t see her stories anymore. She was angry (hurt basically) and short-answered but we talked for 4-5 hours, i told her i am willing to rebuild and try my best with her because i choose her over and over again and im not giving up. She said that she’s not sure if her feelings can return after this, right now she feels like it’s impossible, she’s numb and feels detached, derealization, said she feels like she doesn’t know me, sees my name in her DMs and feels disgust. I straight up asked her if she wants me to cut contact altogether then, because i can’t be the only one rowing the boat or having false hopes and let her heal in peace. I think she never answered this message of mine but i am not sure, we were talking about many things. She said she feels like she doesn’t wanna come now and she doesn’t trust me, even fears that i would be violent against her or mistreat her! She can’t trust anything anymore.. I felt so sad reading this but i understand 🙁
She said that all the people around her were telling her to dump me and im not good and she was saying “he is different” but i proved her wrong. I told her that i am indeed different than the rest, because i’ve seen what most men are and that even tho my socks and underwear are ripped apart with holes, needing new shorts for the summer, i would always prioritize her over those needs of mine when i was about to get her a gift/flowers/etc and i wouldn’t even think about it, just seeing her happy was making me happy, like a kid 🙂
I told her those among other things, are some of the qualities that make me “not like most”, i believe, and i would do them all over again for her. She said that she never asked for anything (i was expecting this reply) and that those things are, for her, the basics of a relationship, like the bare minimum, because she does that too. I told her she’s mistaken but it’s alright, also i never did those things for anyone else, let alone write poems and letters, compose such creative gifts, imagine marriage with her spontaneously while listening to a song.. she said “well u will be ready for the next one now haha”, i told her that maybe she doesn’t know me after all and left it at that.

We said goodnight, she said that she can’t handle any more crying and her autoimmune got so much worse because of me, i told her i am sorry and i miss her and that my chest feels heavy from her absence.

Now anita, i am questioning myself.. is this love or is it an attempt to win her over and then i will shutdown/lose interest again? Is it all a ploy that my fear of abandonment uses?

Wait, wait, wait, Confused, “She bluffed”, as in.. lied?