Hey Confused:

I see: it’s both.

Yes, we talked about it back in Dec., and a few times since: you were scared about leaving behind what’s comfortable and familiar to you and moving to a new country.

I don’t think that you were “mistakenly” scared: it really is scary for most, if not for everyone to leave behind what’s comfortable and familiar.

No wonder then that you saw her as a “threat”- not because she’s dangerous but because living with her would involve something that felt dangerous (moving).

And understandably, you started seeing her as a burden- because if it wasn’t for her, you wouldn’t be burdened by something that scares you (moving).

I don’t think that it’s you being scared of moving OR depression. It’s both. It’s known that anxiety and depression are related, the first often leads to or the second.

How can you undo it?

Don’t know.

She’s still in 🇩🇪 for studies, right? So, the idea of moving to 🇨🇾 is supposed to be when?

There’s also the timing issue, you feeling that she rushed it.

🤔 Anita