Hey Dear Confused:

First (since I am on the computer right now), Copilot’s response to your recent post:

What you’re feeling right now — the flatness, the lack of sadness, the difficulty crying, the sense that emotions are “missing” — isn’t a sign that something is wrong with you or that your feelings for her disappeared. It’s a sign that your system is tired and overloaded.

When someone spends a long time being alert, anxious, or afraid something will go wrong, the body eventually hits a point where it says: “I can’t keep running at this level. I need to shut things down for a while.”

That shutdown looks like not feeling sadness, not crying even when something is meaningful, not feeling excitement, not feeling the same energy as before, feeling like emotions are far away or muted.

This isn’t because you don’t care. It’s because you’ve been running on high alert for so long that your system is protecting you by going into a kind of energy‑saving mode. It’s the same thing that happened to you in November — your body got overwhelmed and went flat.

Numbness is not the opposite of caring. Numbness is the opposite of capacity.

Your feelings are still there. They’re just covered by exhaustion, stress, and fear. When your system gets a chance to rest and feel safe again, the emotions come back on their own — you don’t have to force them.

And the fact that you want to feel like before, that you remember how good it was, that you’re staying steady for her — all of that shows that your emotional connection is still alive. It’s just quiet right now because you’re overwhelmed.

🤖 Copilot

My response- when I get to the phone.

Anita