Dear Anita,

Oh yes SCC is still there.  There is much time and experience and life to be had before her disappearance.  Perhaps never.

It is just a matter of how much she predominates.

You know sometimes SCC rushes because she simply doesn’t know what else to do! As in, she may not even feel “currently” anxious or worried, she’s just a robot.  Good to be aware of that.

• This reply was modified 5 years ago by Cali Chica.

Dear Anita,

Mindful thoughtful choices each day – and then seeing the difference.  Feeling the difference. And over time, more of those than the intrinsic robot.

In your opinion, what is the most detrimental aspect of SCC? General question but I want to know your natural unfiltered thoughts…

Dear Anita,

yes, yes, and yes

Burnout ensues from all the rushing, especially over long term – making it difficult for me to operate at a good authentic level – feeling overwhelmed with distress at every corner.

This can’t be the way – it won’t be.  With daily work it can be different.

Dear Anita,

Thank you for your last post.  I especially like the portion of adopting another image for myself.

Since we last spoke, my husband and I have had many many follow up talks and research, and back and forth, etc etc -about the jobs.

We are almost certainly leaning towards SD.  For all of the reasons you mentioned, plus the fact that when we were there in person – the team we had dinner with that evening were authentically kind, patient, and family – oriented.

I also interviewed for a position out in the area.  I am waiting to hear back about it.  They will still interview a few candidates and make a decision in December.

Starting last week I was very anxious about this.  Worrying what if I don’t get the job – it is a great job.  Worrying how I can make myself an even better candidate to them.

And then I allowed myself to let it go.  They will choose who they choose.  I know I am a great candidate, and there may be many other excellent candidates.  They will choose the best person for the position they deem.   They may have an internal candidate they want – they may not.  I can not stress over it.

If my husband does take the SD job, he does have a concern of myself also having a job that I feel fulfilled in.  I have reassured him that regardless of my opportunity or not – he should take it for the aforementioned reasons – IF those are what we are heading towards.

I can work per diem or part time until I find something good, sometimes it takes knowing the market a little after moving physically as well.

I am okay with this option as I no longer feel that I have to “do it all” and excel in everything.  Perhaps my career will take a back seat for a bit, or perhaps for a long time.  Perhaps it might be the best thing for me – maybe not.

But it will all work out somehow.

I will keep you posted on any further advancements.

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How are you and how was your weekend?

• This reply was modified 5 years ago by Cali Chica.

Dear Anita,

I have always wanted to visit Seattle.  I have been to Portland which I enjoyed very much, but not Seattle.  Will be easier to do so once we relocate out West!

Yes, how casual and fun this wedding sounds! It sounds like exactly what this particular wants for themselves – and that is splendid!

Will you be going? Sounds so fun! To me, a wedding should be whatever makes the couple happy – glad to hear about one that seems to be this way!

Yes, SD looks like the winner as of now, we still have a few more discussions past Thanksgiving, and will also see what my job possibility has to say.  Hoping for the best!

Dear Anita,

 challenge is to, is for you to endure the distress or discomfort of not knowing for sure

Excellent way to say this.

Here’s the thing – about life – but we will focus on this scenario.  You just never know.

BUT. My husband and I are logical people.

1 – the job will be better than the one here, well – it is hard to be worse! lol

2- SD as a location by nature will have a better patient population.  By this I mean the type of clientele, this is not racist – but just a statement that is true.  I won’t elaborate more – risking it seeming like I am profiling patients.  I don’t intend for it to come off this way.

3- The set up of his practice is very organized, with tons of staff that operate well together it seems.  Sure nothing is perfect.

His current job – not enough staff, and those who have frankly could care less about helping the doctors, common goal – of helping the patient.

4- SD, well it is SD.  We absolutely love it there, and the outdoor lifestyle – and the fact that if and when we have kids, we can expose them to this.  Also with the amount we pay in rent here – we could get a 3 bedroom home near the beach! Can’t beat that.

5- Lastly, nothing once again will be perfect. But we are optimistic, not clueless and naive.  As in, it would be foolish if I said to you: CA is so beautiful – of course life will be better there!

or: the hospital is so nice, and people are so nice, of course we will be happier!

I have been through enough in my life to know that there are always unpredictable factors, people, life events, stressors – but if at least we align ourselves with positive opportunities – and hope for the best – we can set ourselves up for something great!