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Posts by Lisa Ingrassia

Lisa Ingrassia is a former HuffPost blogger and Belief Net writer. She is a monthly contributor for Family Christian with work has also appearing in Her View from Home and The Mighty. She is currently working on her memoir, After the Amen, and shares reflections on life, grief, and love through her social media page, A Daughter’s Love. When she’s not writing, Lisa is a devoted wife and obsessed with her puppy, Nitro.

Why I Gossiped and What I Now Do Instead

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“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss people.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt

I stopped gossiping when life humbled me. I didn’t realize at the time, but what I thought was just innocent girl talk with my friends was really a way to escape my own shame and insecurity.

I had this quiet, ongoing sense that I wasn’t measuring up personally or emotionally. Gossiping about someone else gave me a fleeting escape, since it allowed me to shift my focus to someone else’s behavior. Every time I did it, I felt a sense of guilt and shame after, but I never thought too …