Grove,

I feel your frustration.  I think it is a balance in “letting go and trusting the Universe” and taking action.  You have the ability to be able to hear/intuit/know/feel better than most of us.

It seems that you are getting messages on what to do with your gifts but you wrote you haven’t gotten the response you hoped for. I am curious like anita on what were the responses?

I believe that you will be guided on what to do next and/or it will show up in your life telling you.

I am anxious to hear what your response to our (anita and I) question.

Mark

Lily,

I was thinking more small talk with your flatmate like, “Hi there.  We never really talked and I just wanted to introduce myself.  My name is Lily and I’m from …. and right now I’m looking for something part time for work.  What’s your name?”

8 Steps to Making Smalltalk

Mark

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Congratulations LotusLeaf on having the courage to take care of yourself by cutting Sister 1 out of your life.

How can you deal with Sister 2 being unhappy because there is disharmony between you and Sister 1?  I can only offer that you love Sister 2 and remind her that you need to love yourself first.

Plus you can love Sister 1 at a distance and if you can do that then remind Sister 2 that is what you are doing.

You can educate Sister 2 about boundaries as well.

Mark

Lily,

Good for you for having such self-awareness and goals for yourself.

You may want to just talk with your therapist on the phone before going in to see her to reassure yourself about the appointment.

If nothing else you can get the other form of therapy she was thinking of you to do afterwards.  Perhaps it is time to start that now.

Are you doing anything to support yourself physically, emotionally and spiritually?  I believe it is hard to put things into action if we are not resourceful.   I am a firm believer in exercise, having a circle of close friends, and meditation to support myself in those realms.

You may want to review what you already had discussed with your therapist to help you right now as well.

Any of us cannot really shift if we stay stuck in beating ourselves up.  Changing our language and self-talk is a start in doing that.

Mark

Jen,

I can understand why you are still hung up on this man.  Man oh man, 6 years and only meeting face-to-face 3-4 times?!! I cannot see how anyone can sustain a romantic relationship like that.

It sounds like you are still wanting to be in relationship with him and he is ambivalent because of the logistics.

I think he is ambivalent because of the close emotional bond he has formed with you but is frustrated because of the lack of a physical/sexual bond.  He cannot let go of the emotional closeness but knows that a true romantic relationship is not feasible because of the distance.

Mark

The plus side Romeo is that you recognized that you don’t want to do that anymore.

In addition I would not blame yourself too much for this is human behavior.

See the Xerox study example: http://www.directcreative.com/influence-and-persuasion-how-to-trigger-the-yes-response.html

Next time you can be more psychologically prepared.

Mark

Lucas,

You made the effort to post here asking for help with the posting title, “I Have a Real Big Problem. I’m Not Sure How to Deal With It.”

You told us that you have been diagnosed with persistent mood disorder and have had seen a therapist.  I would think that the therapist would be most qualified to give you help with this issue.  Plus I don’t see you really taking in any suggestions put forth here despite asking for help.

Are you more here to be listened to?  I want to clarify your intention and what you want from us.

Mark