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I have been keeping track of the number of days I haven’t contacted my ex. Its the almost the same amount of days to when he broke my heart, give or take a few days. I already know that we will never be together because, a) he doesn’t love me, b) he will never move to be with me, which goes hand in hand with (a). even after journaling, hanging out with good, positive friends, getting support from my family and starting to get to know myself, there is this longing to hear from him. there is this hope that he will come back and we can start over. there is this feeling that its not over. Every time, I open my front door, I expect him to be on my couch. He has my house keys. I have already asked him to ship those back to me as they are the first set of keys I got when I bought my place. I already know that he will be sending those back to me and I am ready to face those emotions. I went out yesterday with some of my single girlfriends and they were so wonderful to me. I met guys who wanted to talk to me and I was honest with them about not being ready. when I got home, I still was waiting for my ex to call or be here. its been more than 2 weeks and he has proven to me that he didn’t ever love me the way I loved him. so my question to all the great people on this site is, when? when do I stop torturing myself? he has told me repeatedly when we broke up that there will be no coming back for him. no hope. he just doesn’t love me. he was infatuated with me and that infatuation has fizzled out. He was very brutally honest with me so why am I stupidly hanging on this false hope?
Topic: The letter
I recently began putting my thought and feelings about my relationship with my ex on this website and so far I couldn’t be more thankful for the responses that I have received. Like someone mentioned the other day “a lot of people can tell u what is right and what you need to do to better your situation, but in essence you are really the one that needs to make the decision as to what you are going to do.” It’s so true that sometimes we get so much advice from friends, family, and even individuals we don’t really know that it is hard to see that we are truly the only ones that can decide for ourselves what is the best thing to do. I have also been journaling a lot to help me cope with what I’m feeling. It seems that I have had a lot to say over the last couple of days. I have always felt I was much more expressive on paper vs verbally…even though I always say what I need to when I have to voice my opinion at my workplace, or with friends. What I have learned is that writing things down helps to voice out things that I was too afraid to voice out with the man I fell in love with.
What I’m battling now is whether or not to express my thoughts and feeling in a letter to this individual. Would telling him how I feel after our breakup help have closure? Would putting it all out there make a difference in my accepting what has happened and moving on? I mean this is a letter that will be given to someone who hasn’t contacted me in over two weeks of our breakup. Someone who hasn’t even bothered to express his own feelings about anything to me. A friend of mine told me to write the letter but keep it for myself and read it every time I feel I’m getting sad or want to try to contact him again.Topic: How do you relax?
Hey guys, I was wondering what are some of the simple things everybody does when feeling stressed out and overwhelmed, to recharge and relax?
Some of the things I enjoy doing to release stress and relax are:
– Drinking hot tea* in the shower.
(Ideally any kind of black tea which is proven to lower levels of cortisol in the brain which is directly linked to high-levels of stress)– Sitting and breathing mediation
– Reading a good book
– Writing poetry/journaling
– Any kind of creative activity, using my hands (ex: crocheting, sewing, etc.)
– Going for walks in the woods/nature
Please share any of the little daily things you do to help manage stress and keep peace in yourself and your life. There are always so many things at our disposable that can help us feel okay and achieve peace.. however, when we fall into negative-thinking patterns and find ourselves overwhelmed it easy to become blinded and unable to recognize that we have options.