Hi Susy,

It sounds like this boy is used to Drama-Traumas, as I put it.

How do I know this? Well, if I was seeing a married dude and was getting serious with a long distance dude, I would NOT want to hurt my new boyfriend in any way, shape, or form. I would not re-see the married guy, but OK Inky is human, let’s see I see him…

Why would I then let my new love know??? Because, “HONESTY”??? Oh, I will break your heart and kill your soul, but that’s OK, because I couldn’t finish the physical act, and give me a medal because I’m being “Honest”!

I like Peggy’s suggestion of telling him that you two are NOT exclusive.

Tell him that you in fact, won’t sleep with him, at least in this visit. That you really don’t want to catch a sexually transmitted disease, and won’t risk it. I have in fact used this line. It has, in fact, worked. The guy had, in fact, gone to the doctor and got tested, because I was that serious. This will insult him, and by the way, insult her. But, your decision!

Long distance relationships aren’t worth this trouble, but, again, your decision.

Think Hard,

Inky

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Hi October,

You are very ambitious, having all these businesses at a relatively young age! They all failed, though, probably because you weren’t meant to start anything on your own yet.

And even though you kept dropping out of school, I would strongly encourage you to go back and complete your degree. Any degree! It should be easier as a slightly older student. Enjoy school life, not just hustling. If you can live on campus, do it! That will get you away from your mom.

Unfortunately, it might take your mom several years to process your dad’s unfaithfulness. You can support her, but I wouldn’t live there.

Best,

Inky

Hi Paperdoll,

It’s the worst when we want to lose someone but they haven’t done anything technically “wrong”.

One thing that I did accidentally was I hired a gay decorator. We ended up talking all day! My husband came home and he didn’t see a gay decorator. He saw some guy that his wife hung out with in the house alone all day. And oh by the way gave him dinner! After that Himself took me out to dinner, lunch and a movie. Splashed on a humorous amount of cologne. Made mad love to me. Brought me coffee in bed. I was all, “But Babe, he’s gay”… but I digress.

I’m not saying have an affair. I am saying to buy an oldie but goodie book like Kosher Adultery to spice up your marriage.

I would say “Get Out!” but divorce is expensive.

Best,

Inky

Hi coconut,

Just tell him what you told us and that you need a break. He will understand as no one wants to think that they’re suffocating others. After a week or so you should be able to see more clearly see if it’s your feelings for him or anxiety.

Best,

Inky

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Hi Again!

Well, occasionally we have to go on the road for vacation, business, events, etc. I’ve noticed even if you eat “well” on the road, it doesn’t translate to the scale at home. I could eat the rogue bananas at a Dunkin’ Donuts, order a salad at a restaurant, pass on my friend’s dessert, and go on multiple walking tours, but still feel bloated and gross when we get home. At home if I have the Dunkin’ Donuts banana, order a salad for lunch, forgo ice cream after dinner and walk around the block I feel amazing! Go figure!

Inky

Hi Rod,

I believe more and more in reincarnation. I believe in heaven as well. I also believe that part of us lives on in our children. I additionally believe we return to the Earth. There are many soul aspects to us.

May you find peace in several of them!

Blessings,

Inky

Hi K,

I usually prefer to eat three meals.

I try to eat consistently throughout the day. When I do fast, it’s a challenge, I’m not gonna lie.

I hate to be a scale watcher, but I eat a little less when I gain weight or I’m not at my current goal (right now my intention is to lose two pounds a month TOTALLY realistic for me). Then when I am, I’ll loosen up a little.

Traveling is a huge challenge. I eat normally when out, but eat impeccably when at home.

Snacks and calorie drinks are obviously the first things to go. Then it gets tricky. I run and exercise everyday. Then I’ll eat fruit in the morning and vegetarian the rest of the day. OR fruit in the morning and vegetarian for lunch and Paleo at night. Cheese is my beloved downfall. Don’t think I can gracefully go vegan as a lifestyle.

I’ve tried Paleo, Vegan, moderation, raw food, you name it! They all work, but only if you work it. It sounds like you are more into maintenance which is awesome!

Good Luck! Obviously I’ve been thinking a lot about this stuff too.

Inky

Hi G,

Do you know what he looks like? Do you know if he’s really your age? Does he have a real name (that’s attached to him)?

If the looks, age and name check out, why wouldn’t you want to (someday) meet him in person?

You could confess to him without it being “A Confession”.

Just tell him, “If we ever got together IRL, that would either be amazing or ruin everything LOL” and see what he says.

But regardless, give him the chance to miss you. Start talking way less.

Best,

Inky