Jasmine is right! I also encourage you, as above, to:

1. Imagine the worst thing that could happen. That would be annihilation or being eaten. It is statistically almost impossible to be annihilated or eaten, especially by someone who loves you. 🙂 That is how I have dealt with social anxiety.

2. Tell your boyfriend that you have anxiety and are actively treating it. That could be through a doctor, a psychologist, hypnotism, diet (believe it or not), yoga (helped me), meditation, clergy, and/or a mentor.

I think if you break up with him and wait until you’re “ready” to be in a relationship, you might never be! Who knows?? Why not stick with the one that obviously loves you? Your issues will only get better if you work on them. Don’t get hung up on the old student/teacher dynamic. He is only six years older which isn’t a lot, so that part’s OK.

Good Luck!!

• This reply was modified 11 years, 1 month ago by Inky.

Well if he said he didn’t have time for a girlfriend, maybe he’s second guessing his decision, and is testing the waters ~ very unskillfully! But you don’t need a guy who’s a Waffler. Keep him in The Friend Zone.

Hi Isabella,

That is a red flag, unless he truly views her as a sister, meaning no chemistry. Did you pick up on any chemistry between them or are you naturally jealous? Most people would feel uncomfortable too, so don’t apologize to him about feeling this way. Him wanting to see her alone is admitting that you would be the third wheel. Perhaps ask him why they never got together?? So that is my view, and good luck with this situation!

Hi,

Do you have any idea who put the curse on you? If you are Christian, there are books on reversing the curse, getting rid of demons, etc. If you are more magically minded, go to The Lucky Mojo website or a similar one and do a ritual to get rid of the curse. Or get a Hand of Hamsa or Hand of Hamesh necklace.

Can you get your parents to help pay for college? Would they have anyway, ten years earlier? It’s time to begin. Take community college courses, get a second part time job to pay for those. I hate aspects of “the system” too. Living in it is hard. Living outside of it is hard too. Pick your hard.

Weight loss ~ I put fruits and/or veggies in a blender. You can go for a week just eating fruits and veggies and loose a pound a day. If you live in your parents house maybe you can cook for them so they are eating whatever diet you’re on. But don’t tell them you’re on a diet! 😉

Now you should/could meet someone. Life can be so great with the right person beside you! Make a list of places where eligible bachelors are most likely to be and go there.

Good Luck!!

• This reply was modified 11 years, 2 months ago by Inky.

The best way to make him jealous is to go off Face Book altogether and have a Friend Share a photo on your Wall of you at a party with new people he hasn’t met yet, having a great time!

That said, he may not come back no matter how jealous he feels. He did just get through a divorce and has a son, if I remember correctly.

Let him heal and regroup.

So if you’re engaged already, this is not a problem, silly goose! 🙂

In a perfect world you will break off the engagement with Stephen who doesn’t have time for you and leave Dwane hanging ~ time for you to start over!! Being in love with someone else (who doesn’t seem interested) while being engaged is not a good harbinger for a long happy marriage!

Most people won’t do that, so cool it with your guy friend and heat it up with your fiancé!

You don’t have to get over him. But this is a maturity thing. He is still half-baked, immature, crazy. If he’s in HS, wait until he’s in College. College, then wait until out of school. 20s? Wait until he’s 30.

And the way to put his ego in check is to act like you’re above it all. (And you are!) Say, “I love you, Little Buddy, but I’m not IN love with you!” and give him a head noogie. If three girls are hanging all over him say, “Are you trying to make me jealous again?” with a wink and a smile. And date other guys. Wait a day before texting/calling him back. Write a one line text or only talk for five minutes on the phone (You are busy, after all, with your awesome life!). Act happy, light and fun when he’s with you, (no one likes a downer, and it will keep him wondering!) Wear makeup, change your hair style/color, get new fun clothes, get new bling (it will perk interest and keep you feeling new and beautiful! Shallow, but it works!)

And most importantly, Jedi-mind trick yourself into believing that you ARE All That, that you are his (or anyone’s!) It Girl. What will happen is all these other people will be congregating around you, that he’ll have trouble getting through!

So that’s all I’ve got. Good Luck!

I wrote whole posts here on FB drama ~ Basically my message to you is you can’t escape.

The best you can do is make them “Acquaintances” so you don’t see every move of theirs, either. Out of sight, out of mind. The good news is that if you or they do something Epic, it WILL show up on everyone’s NewsFeed. Then Likes all around!

I only Follow my kids and a handful of other people because otherwise scrolling through my Feed becomes a part time job. It doesn’t help that FB litters your Feed with ads. I’m sure (and know!) I’ve offended people, like my FB Lists fiasco a year ago. I also got Blocked/Hid/whatever FB wizardry from one clinically UnBalanced Friend who thought I didn’t Like or Comment on her Wall enough. Now that’s passive aggressive. Merely UnFollowing, Hiding or Acquantancing is practicing practical Sanity. FB in general is just all too much.

I’m actually waiting to be accepted to Ello so I can start over, and meanwhile keep my FB account open as a foil. But see? Now I’m talking crazy again. Oh, FB!!