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5 Ways to Find Your People (The Ones Who Really Get You)

By Melissa Kirk in Blog, love & relationships

“Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.” ~Unknown

For probably over thirty years—since I was old enough to know I needed them—I’ve been looking for my people.

You know the ones—the people who get you, somehow; who are on the same wavelength. Some might even say the people who share the same brand of quirky, crazy, or oddness that you do. The ones who understand why you do what you do, or if they don’t understand, they either ask or they just accept, and either way is …

The Person You Are Destined to Become

By Lori Deschene in Fun & Inspiring

Source: Simple Reminders

Imagine a World Without Hate

By Lori Deschene in Fun & Inspiring

Imagine a world without bigotry. Imagine a world where inspiring individuals like Martin Luther King Jr., Anne Frank, and Harvey Milk, all victims of hate crimes, lived on to contribute even more to society.

Dealing with Life’s Inevitable Pain: 4 Lessons to Help Reduce Your Suffering

By Sarah Needles in Blog, change & challenges, mindfulness & peace

“Suffering is not caused by pain but by resisting pain.” ~Unknown

Pain is everywhere. Whether through heartbreak or a broken bone, we all struggle with unavoidable hurt at some point in our lives. Often, even the suggestion of suffering is enough to send us running for cover.

One of our most basic instincts is to avoid being hurt, and for good reason. The world is full of sharp objects and hot frying pans. While our instinctive wiring is helpful when it comes to cooking, it only contributes to our suffering when applied to the pain of relationships and physical discomfort …

8 Solutions for Loneliness That Don’t Require a Romantic Relationship

By Sue Ellson in Blog, love & relationships

“People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges.” ~Joseph F. Newton

The epiphany has finally occurred. Why on earth has it taken so long? I ask myself this as I look back on the last nine years, which I have spent trying to cover up my real issue. Loneliness.

After getting married at twenty and then leaving nineteen years later, it took another two years before I met another man that I fell in love with almost instantly. He told me from the very beginning it would never be a relationship, and yet I have persevered with our …

Buddha Doodles: After Letting Go

By Molly Hahn in Fun & Inspiring

Source: Buddha Doodles

Release Your Anger by Choosing to Lose

By Gaël Blanchemain in Blog, change & challenges, letting go, mindfulness & peace

“Genuine forgiveness does not deny anger but faces it head-on.” ~Alice Miller

I was quietly watching a documentary with my wife when the phone rang. An icy voice informed me that I was supposed to be at work at 6:00; it was already 7:00 PM. It was my boss.

Great, that’s all I needed—an unexpected night shift with a resented supervisor.

In my worst mood, I jumped in my pants at quantum speed and then ran toward the train station on the other side of the street.

Although the road seemed clear, a car was approaching and the driver didn’t …

Stop Over-Depending on Others and Seeking Their Approval: How to Set Yourself Free

By Jessica King in Blog, letting go, love & relationships

“Some people think it’s holding tight that makes one strong, but sometimes, it’s letting go.” ~Unknown

I got a week off of work recently to spend with myself, which is always a wonderfully centering experience for me. I’m an introvert, so I love my alone time. But as I took the time to introspect about some relationships in my life, my Zen-like vacation mindset disappeared.

It had happened again, and my mood alternated between mad and depressed all weekend. You see, sometimes I turn into a puppet.

You probably know the feeling, even if you’re not sure what I’m …

Things We Forget: Relax

By Lori Deschene in Fun & Inspiring

Source: Things We Forget

How to Find Your Path When Life Suddenly Changes

By Cloris Kylie Stock in Blog, change & challenges

“Never fear shadows. They simply mean there’s a light shining somewhere nearby.” ~Ruth E. Renkel

As an ocean lover, I frequently visit the shore, even during the winter. Encouraged by a day with blue skies and forecasted temperatures above freezing, I hopped in the car and headed for the coast.

The beautiful view of the ocean is the best part of the six-mile walk I intended to do. However, as I neared the coast, I noticed a thickening layer of fog. By the time I parked, the fog had completely blocked my view of the sun and everything at a …

Finding Contentment in the Rhythms of an Everyday Life

By Heidi Barr in Blog, happiness & fun

“The simple things are also the most extraordinary things, and only the wise can see them.” ~Paulo Coelho

As the day of my daughter’s second birthday approaches, I have found myself reflecting more and more on the first few months of her life.

She arrived on a Sunday morning as winter gave way to spring, full of life and ready to embrace her humanness as only a brand new human can. There was snow lingering on the ground, and the sunrise that day was full of anticipation and the unknowing that comes along with waiting for something that is impossible …

Life’s Strong Winds

By Lori Deschene in Fun & Inspiring

Source: NotSalmon.com

Man Teaches Amputees in South Sudan to Make Arms

By Lori Deschene in Fun & Inspiring

“When you look at a picture of a boy with bandaged stump arms, what do you do? Do you just, ‘Aw that’s too bad,” and close the computer and go to bed?”

Not Mick Ebeling. What an amazing man. What an inspiring mission. What a powerful reminder of what we can do when we care.

Addicted to Approval: Reclaim Your Self-Esteem

By Katherine Reseburg in Blog, love & relationships

“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh

The past few years have been full of hard but necessary lessons that I needed to learn about my relationships with others—their limits, boundaries, what healthy relationships are and are not.

I realized that the foundation for some of my relationships (the unhealthy ones) was my need for attention and approval. This, of course, was futile, because we can only truly feel good about ourselves despite outside opinions.

Because I felt inadequate and overly self-critical due …

Transform Your Relationship by Assuming the Best Intentions

By Betsy Talbot in Blog, love & relationships

“Happiness is a conscious choice, not an automatic response.” ~Mildred Barthel

I used to think he was out to get me. The man of my dreams was continually plotting to undermine my happiness in countless ways, all for some mysterious reason I couldn’t comprehend.

“Can you give me a ride to work today?” He missed his shuttle on the morning I had my first speech, a forty-five-minute drive in the opposite direction. He obviously didn’t want me to succeed in my career.

“Are you wearing that tonight?” Oh great, just before we go out to meet …

Leave the Past Behind

By Lori Deschene in Fun & Inspiring

From In the Garden of Thoughts, by Dodinsky

How to Use Comparisons for Growth Instead of Feeling Inferior

By Hannah Braime in Blog, change & challenges, love & relationships

“The heart is like a garden: it can grow compassion or fear, resentment or love. What seeds will you plant there?” ~Jack Kornfield

Comparison is something we all struggle with at one point or another. Although it’s something that conventional self-help wisdom urges us to avoid, it’s also a way of gauging where we fit in the world.

Usually, when we engage in comparison, we do so from an ego-based perspective and find ourselves (or others) lacking. This approach doesn’t benefit anyone involved, but, until recently, this was my predominant experience of comparison.

I also had the belief that healthy …

You Don’t Have to Believe Your Negative Thoughts About Yourself

By Melinda Csikos in Blog, happiness & fun, letting go

“The outer conditions of a person’s life will always be found to reflect their inner beliefs.” ~ James Allen

We all have a picture of ourselves in our minds. A picture of what we believe we are like. A picture we choose to believe no matter what.

We can cling to this idea about ourselves all we want, but that will not make it true. This is not as easy to realize and even harder to accept, but it’s an important step toward a conscious life.

I believe we all go through dark phases when our image of ourselves breaks …

If You Want to Fly

By Lori Deschene in Fun & Inspiring

Source: Life Canvas

The Most Important Thing to Do Before a Difficult Conversation

By Annika Martins in Blog, love & relationships

“You are your choices.” ~Seneca

After four years of radio silence, a former flame appeared in my inbox.

We set up a time to talk later that week. And when the day came, right on time, he called.

We talked. I had many questions. He explained the best he could. The conversation eased into Taoism and Twitter. Totally comfortable.

But for the twenty-four hours beforehand, I was bracing myself.

I was expecting long, awkward silences, angry words, and maybe even a premature hanging up of the phone. In case it’s not clear, things hadn’t ended so well with us.

And …