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How to Stop Tying Your Worth to Things Outside Yourself
“If you find yourself constantly trying to prove your worth to someone, you have already forgotten your value.” ~Unknown
There’s nothing like being one of the few black kids in your school to make you feel like the odd person out.
Well, that was my experience, anyway. I appreciate my parents’ desire to provide my brother and me with a safe neighborhood to live in and a good education, but growing up in a predominantly white area really affected me. I very rarely felt like I fit in among my peers.
That didn’t stop me from trying, though. I did …
Rethinking Resolutions: One Powerful Intention for the Year Ahead
“When we are mindful, deeply in touch with the present moment, our understanding of what is going on deepens, and we begin to be filled with acceptance, joy, peace, and love.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh
In January, what I desire most is to slow down.
My heart wants to use the New Year as a time to reflect on the year that has passed by—what felt right, what didn’t feel right, and areas of potential growth. And my mind wants to use the New Year as an opportunity to look ahead and discover the ways in which I can improve …
Finding a Job You Love: 5 Things You Need to Do
“Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.” ~Confucius
I once worked for a big international consultancy firm (okay, it’s McKinsey, don’t tell anyone) and hated it.
Everyone told me how lucky I was to have that job. They went on and on about how prestigious it was, how I got to travel the world, work with executives on the big topics, and hang out with brilliant colleagues.
As much as all of that is true, I still hated the job. Not because of McKinsey, but because of me.
It might …
How to Motivate Yourself Instead of Criticizing Yourself
“I define depression as a comparison of your current reality to a fantasy about how you wish your life would be.” ~Dr. John Demartini
I always wanted to do things “right.” I was the little kid at the front of the room, raising her hand for every question. I was great at pushing myself to succeed and please.
My drive to be perfect was an asset through college and law school. I rocked high grades and landed a big firm job right out of school. But that same drive drove me right into a therapist’s office at twenty-five, where I …
An Inspiring Pep Talk from a 5th Grade Girl from Kenya
Need a boost of motivation? Eunice, a fifth grade student at the Kibera School for Girls in Kenya, offers an empowering, encouraging message.
Why Being Real Matters More Than Being the Best
“We have to dare to be ourselves, however frightening or strange that self may prove to be.” ~May Sarton
Have you ever compared yourself to others on social media?
You’re not alone if you have. It’s human nature to compare, compete, and seek value in the opinions of others. To aspire to the heights others seem to have attained.
But how real are those people we compare ourselves to really being? The ones who seem to have it all together? Perfect family, ideal job, loving relationship?
I would venture to guess they’re not being very real at all.…
7 Things to Realize When You Think You Don’t Matter
“I wish I could show you, when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being.” ~Hafiz of Shiraz
Have you ever felt like you didn’t matter?
Were you ever held back from pursuing something because the voice in your head said, “Why bother?”
You’re not alone.
I once felt that way too, but I discovered a way out of that dark time.
In my early twenties, fresh out of college, I had my first professional job interview. I had the blissful optimism and naiveté characteristic of most college grads seeing a world full of infinite …
Review and Giveaway: In the Garden of Happiness
Update: The winners for this giveaway have already been chosen:
Be inspired. Be strong. Be happy.
These words pop from the peaceful imagery on the back cover of Dodinsky’s In the Garden of Happiness, nicely summarizing the benefits of perusing this uplifting illustrated book.
If you’ve read his first book, In the Garden of Thoughts, you know what to expect from this bestselling author: whimsical imagery and powerful wisdom in a deceptively tiny package.
His work provides encouragement when you’re feeling hopeless or helpless; reassurance when you’re feeling insecure or insignificant; and comfort when you’re …
You Don’t Need Other People to Validate Your Feelings
“When you give another person the power to define you, then you also give them the power to control you.” ~Leslie Vernick
It’s coming up on the anniversary of when I left a relationship that was both my unhealthiest and my greatest catalyst for growth.
While I’m able to see that he was a spiritual assignment I needed in order to evolve, I can’t help but feel resentful. But what surprises me isn’t my anger at him; it’s my anger at myself. Let me explain.
Disastrous relationships are nothing new for me. My past is riddled with complicated, codependent, and …
How to Tell When Someone Needs a Friend
“Don’t wait for people to be friendly. Show them how.” ~Unknown
When I was in high school I was shy, to say the least. I guess a more accurate description would be to say that I was insecure. Painfully insecure.
Looking back, I don’t know why I cared so much. But I did. I was too insecure to ever say hi to anyone in any of my classes, or to try to sit with anyone new at lunch.
There were even some days when I went through the entire school day without speaking a word. I felt utterly alone …
4 Tips to Live a Balanced, Happy Life with Fewer Regrets
“Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance and order and rhythm and harmony.” ~Thomas Merton
Balance has become an ever-elusive thing these days. The onslaught of technological breakthroughs, aimed at making life easier, has given way to a societal expectation that we are available around the clock.
This has bled into our careers, where our employers have ever increasing expectations that we can do more in less time. We have 168 hours in our week to sleep, work, rest, be with our loved ones, and pursue personal interests.
Unfortunately, the majority of people in the world today …
How to Change Your Life by Changing the Stories You Tell Yourself
“Change your thoughts and you change your world.” ~Norman Vincent Peale
I used to watch people on the streets and in restaurants and think that their boisterous conversations and broad smiles were evidence that they lived a life much better than mine.
I assumed that they were happier than me, smarter than me, and worth more than me. All around me was evidence that this was true: my meager bank account, my junky car, my thrift store clothes.
I would sit in my apartment and try to imagine what it would be like to be someone else.
I wondered what …
How to Intentionally Embrace Change in the New Year
“Change is inevitable. Growth is intentional.” ~Glenda Cloud
What do you do when you come to the end of a calendar year as it approaches the start of another one? Do you get caught up in the festive season hype and then, as you roll into the new year, find it all a bit anticlimactic? Or, are you a bit like me and prefer to keep it a quieter, reflective time?
We know that calendar time is really artificial, for true time is simply an infinite and continuous cycle of day and night, seasons, birth and death, and change.…
Why We Feel Stuck in Life and the Secret to Dealing with It
“It is the way we react to circumstances that determines our feelings.” ~Dale Carnegie
We’ve all felt like we’re drowning in mud.
You feel stuck, worthless, and confused.
You want to move. You should. You have to. But you can’t.
And then it evolves into anxiety, fear, and overwhelm.
But what if—just what if—being stuck isn’t the problem, but how we perceive it?
The Truth About Being Stuck
Every year, I have periods where I feel “stuck.”
Yet when I look closer, I see that “being stuck” is a label I give to a natural part of …
Your Worth Is Not Dependent on What You Do or Accomplish
“A life’s worth, in the end, isn’t measured in hours or money. It’s measured by the amount of love exchanged along the way.” ~Unknown
I’ve had a go-go-go personality for as long as I can remember. I think I was born with it.
Both of my parents were small business owners who truly believed that with enough hard work and heart-and-soul dedication, you can accomplish anything.
By the age of three, I was a gymnast; by early elementary school, a competitive one, with a coach who was constantly (and sometimes aggressively) pushing me to the next level.
Therein began the …
4 Simple Ways to Slow Down So You Don’t Rush Through Life
“If you surrender completely to the moments as they pass, you live more richly those moments.” ~Anne Morrow Lindbergh
Throughout my life, a deep voice within has constantly asked me to slow down.
Don’t get me wrong; I thrive when I have deadlines, when I have to push myself to get somewhere. I love being quick in what I do.
However, over the last ten years of living like a workaholic and then having to find a semblance of quiet after the birth of two adorable babies, I have begun to realize that being quick in what we do …
You Are My Sunshine – 66 Years of Love
Colleen Pinnegar spent three months by her husband’s side after he broke his hip (helping a ninety-year old neighbor who’d fallen) and then contracted an infection in the hospital.
In this touching video, taken at a time when James suspected the end was near, they sing “You Are My Sunshine,” their theme song for over sixty years of marriage.
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