Dear Makingtide,

I understand how you feel. Although you accept that you have caused harm and pain to your wife over 25 years, the pain and hurt that you experience now is real too. With the little experience that I have, I can only advise what could change the situation quickly. You have to start living in gratitude. You have to practice chanting thank-you’s thousands of times a day. The chanting should not be mindless uttering of the words thank-you but you have to see the beauty of every situation, and every thing. You have to see the good in everything that is happening in your life now. Root out hatred from your being and let your heart open.  If practiced correctly this will quickly change you and the change would be palpable to your wife. Gratitude is magic. But you cannot cheat(lie to yourself) while practicing gratitude, doing so will nullify everything. You need patience too. Within sometime compassion will start flowing and you would be in a better place to make her happy and cherish her. God bless.

It is possible! God is guiding you. Have faith and love yourself. Also so what if you fail at something or people misunderstand you? What matters is your character. What good can you do from this? Who will you help? Happiness can be yours in this moment too if you see your worth. Everything’s going to be okay. You survived and will continue to survive. You never truly failed. You are allowed to be human. I had a suicide attempt once too. I get it. Do you think anyone has it all together? Perfect is a myth. It’s a lie. No one is perfect. But you are a beautiful person who can do good with your second chance at life. You’ve made me feel good that I can be useful to someone. I’m a self help writer trying to inspire others and your gratitude towards me made me feel like maybe I am able to do good too. Thank you. It’s 2am here so I’m going to bed. Try some journaling. Let me know what you need.

Dear C. R. Smith:

1. About the place where you live and the topic of physical looks, you wrote today: “it is UGLY here. One of my greatest joys in life has been to simply walk in beautiful places…. I live in Kansas, and it is literally ranked as one of the ugliest states if not the ugliest state in America… I feel like I am living in a dump. I don’t like the grass, I don’t like the dirt, the state is too poor to beautify anything, and it is flat”.

More than 4 years ago, on March 2017, you wrote about the same topic (physical looks) in your reply to a member: “I think about the people I’ve known that I respect.. Their looks have NOTHING to do with why I value them… Again, their value has nothing to do with their looks… LOOKS ARE IRRELEVANT. It is hard for me to remember this. I must remind myself of it 20 times an hour. But, it is true. I would be so much happier if I could truly embrace it… Think about everything that makes life meaningful. Almost all of it is invisible”.

I know that back in March 2017 you referred to the physical look of the human body, and today, you referred to the physical look of a place. But in principle, if “everything that makes life meaningful.. is invisible”- perhaps you can find an invisible meaning to living where you are. Back in 2017, you had to remind yourself of this principle 20 times an hour- maybe you didn’t remind yourself of this principle for a long time (?)

2. About your job, human behavior and loneliness, you wrote today: “My job, which I really don’t like either..  Another issue is people…  there are a lot of uneducated, foul people, as well. I feel in another state I would be around people I can relate to better. And I am lonely beyond belief (though I seem to be lonely no matter where I live)”.

More than 7 years ago, in April 2014, you wrote about the same topic: “I am 48 and am still looking for my right career! However.. We have the power to help others in any job by the way we do our work with pride and honor and by the way we treat our coworkers and customers. Truly giving to others is a matter of who you are, not what you do… No job is going to be 100% perfect! Often we feel that if only I can find the right job, I will be 100% happy! It’s not true! No job will make you totally happy. Shoot for something that feels like at least 60% of the time you will be enjoying your daily tasks. Also, being so obsessed with finding the perfect job is pretty much the opposite of living with acceptance and gratitude”-

– I wonder if you remember to still “work with pride and honor”, if you forgot that “truly giving to others” matters so much. Maybe you forgot to be okay with the 60%. Maybe you need to revive your principle of “living with acceptance and gratitude” (?)

You shared back in 2014, that you earned your master’s degree in counseling, that what drew you to counseling was “more a desire to understand and heal” yourself, that to “really help others”, that you wanted to be a counselor, but “I found out that good counselors make connections with others easily, and that is not me. I only truly connect with a very few people, and the clients I worked with sensed this”-

– I suppose that your loneliness (“I seem to be lonely no matter where I live”) is about often not feeling truly connected with other people. I wish I could read more from you about this topic: connecting with other people. I guess in bringing this up, I am trying to virtually, but truly, connect with you.

anita

 

Dear Blue:

Good to read back from you! I am glad that you are practicing yoga, meditation and gratitude. Remember that if you need to talk to me at any time in the future, you are welcome to post. I hope you are having a good night.

anita

Dear noname:

What if I take two sentence from every month you posted quite randomly, and see what I get?

“I’m going to be 25 yo next month, I’m attending grad school for counseling and plan on being a therapist.. I have made a decision to stop pursuing women for the rest of 2017 or at least until I feel as if I’m deserving of love” (March 2017),

“I am very lonely, despite having a few good friends. I did not realize how much I was suppressing my loneliness with work, school, and exercise until now” (April 2017),

“I can say with confidence that since I’ve embarked on this journey of falling in love with myself that I am probably happier than I’ve ever been in my 25 years on this planet, I’m excelling in my graduate program, athletically, and have made some good friends in the past year, a complete turn around from having been suicidal for the majority of my life… Attempting to get close to a woman is seriously the scariest thing in my life, it brings up feelings of worthlessness, and quickly makes me feel hopeless with any amount of rejection” (June 2017),

” I oscillate between contentment, apathy, and full blown depression on a monthly basis. So I had recently tried dating again and met an awesome woman” (July 2017),

“I just want to feel as if I’m cared for, but I realize I can’t just ask someone to do this. But the need is immediate, and overwhelming” (August 2017),

“My depression is worsening mostly due to life circumstances largely out of my control, and I cannot access my therapist because my car’s engine just blew last weekend, and utilizing alternate transportation is unrealistic due to my work and school schedule. I have random crying episodes that sneak up on me and I’m afraid it might happen at school or work” (September 2017),

“I hate coming on here with seemingly the same issue time after time, but I just cannot feel whole, or satisfied with myself. I see myself as someone who is scarred and damaged beyond repair” (October 2017),

“I’ve reached a point with myself where no matter how much work I put in, no matter how mindful I am, no matter how motivated I am, I still get chronically depressed.. I get depressed because I’m straight up lonely, especially at night” (June 2018),

“I’m glad to report I had a good week last week, I was able to see my therapist, which lead to very productive sessions with my own clients later in the same day… The ups and downs frustrate me and I struggle to accept that anytime I am having a good feeling that it will pass, because as we’ve talked about the pain feels like it will never end every time” (July 2018),

“I’m very uncomfortable with the idea of being in need of love or another person and I’m not sure why. But I feel the need right now for a connection and don’t know what to do about it” (August 2018),

“Without any particular reason or event, I find myself slipping back into depression. I don’t really have an exact reason why, but I have been feeling disconnected from people again, and as if I’m not getting what I need from the relationships I do have with friends” (September 2018),

“A month or two ago I went through a 2-3 week period of feeling really good about myself, feeling, believing, and acting as if I was a good person. Somehow that feeling faded when I tried to start be more outgoing and dating again, and the belief that I’m bad tries to take over when I’m vulnerable with people” (October 2018),

“I go through these cycles it seems of feeling extroverted and confident wanting to invite everyone I meet to my house to hangout or for a meal. Then like clockwork I get depressed and cut myself off and wont leave my house” (November 2018),

“This feeling of worthlessness is so heavy, I’m beginning to feel more and more hopeless everyday…I think above all else I feel worthless because I feel unimportant and disconnected” (December 2018),

“This judgment of myself as needy, worthless, and unlovable is why I’m still posting here, & still going to group therapy…I’m so lost right now, I want some relief but cant find it anywhere” (January 2019),

“I have been feeling more balanced, grateful, worthy, confident, and self loving for the past couple months. My depression has gotten so much more manageable” (February 2019),

“I have been doing mostly well since my last post with the exception of a recent depression that lasted about 2 weeks and seemed entirely out of my control. I have graduated and will be starting a new job hopefully by the end of the month once I get my license certification” (May 2019),

“The reason I have avoided SSRI’s is mainly because I saw firsthand the effects that they had on my mother growing up, and the few times I have tried them the side effects were too much for me, lastly I’m not doing everything I possibly can to fight depression” (June 2019),

“Since I last posted I have been doing in general a lot better than the past couple years… To your point of people living out their childhood experience as an adult, I see this all the time in my work as a therapist and my own experience with it is what makes me a good therapist myself, I have received countless compliments from people how they feel understood for the first time and like things are starting to make sense” (November 2019),

“I’m overwhelmed by hopelessness and loneliness. This feeling of hopelessness leads to a lot of thoughts of death” (December 2019),

“My goal for this year is to work on my mental/emotional health and learn peace…I can’t believe how far I’ve come already and I can only imagine how great life can be if I keep working at healing and take care of those wounded parts of myself” (January 2020),

“I have been somewhat apathetic towards life and unmotivated. I’m still sticking to my routine of meditation, journaling, and exercise regardless” (February 2020),

“I have been up and down this past week… My sister text me last weekend pleading to unblock my mom and talk with her” (March 2020),

“Because of my non-communication my mom began going to therapy and is still in it… Since March I have reached an acceptance on an emotional level I haven’t before that for the rest of my life my parents will never be what I need them to be (December 2020),

“In the past, I was a able to see or feel some glimmer of hope for my future, whether it was being in school, a friendship, or romance. However, right now I see nothing but isolation and it feels terrible to think that is my future, and is keeping me from getting out of bed in the mornings right now” (January 2021),

“I haven’t been great since I last posted…  was seeing a woman last month and it only lasted a couple dates because at one point when she asked if I was doing okay I unexpectedly broke down in tears” (April 2021),

“My mind oscillates between feeling cocky, and more frequently feeling worthless…This inner criticism vs. inner flattery is really an interesting dichotomy that I’m trying to solve within myself” (May 2021),

“I’m still stuck in the cycle of functioning for a few days and crashing into self-hatred, self-harm binges, existential crisis, and hopelessness… My therapist has pointed out to me many times that I need to be in relationship with the ‘I’m not good enough” part of me through the part that feels good enough” (June 2021)

My thoughts today, July 5, 2021:

1) You did not post only when you were feeling depressed, but also when you were feeling better. You often expressed gratitude to me, always gracious to me. I appreciate all this.

2) It may be a good idea for you to get a current professional diagnosis of your mood disorder: it may be depression alone or a bi-polar condition: “I oscillate between contentment, apathy, and full blown depression on a monthly basis… The ups and downs frustrate me… I go through these cycles it seems of feeling extroverted and confident.. Then like clockwork I get depressed.. I’m still stuck in the cycle of functioning for a few days and crashing into self-hatred”).

3) Following getting a correct, current diagnosis, I think that it’s a good idea for you to re-consider SSRIs or other psychiatric medications because of the following reasons: (a) The therapy you received, your education and experience as a therapist, and all other work that you have done so far- did not lead to experience less depression on an ongoing basis: “No matter how much work I put in, no matter how mindful I am, no matter how motivated I am, I still get chronically depressed”,

(b) When you feel emotional pain, you feel it too acutely, too intensely (“the pain feels like it will never end every time”), and that intensity overwhelms you (“I’m overwhelmed by hopelessness and loneliness”). I think that every time you feel overwhelmed by acute emotional pain, the progress and healing done before getting overwhelmed- is lost.

If you took psychiatric medications that will tune down the acuteness of your emotional pain, that is, balance your mood- you will be able to hold on to the healing and progress that you make, and continue the healing process. Instead of the Go! (hopeful, confident, cocky) and Stop! (hopeless, depressed) dynamic of your go-and-stop experience.

Such medications will probably take away from you the emotional ups that you rarely enjoy (“feeling extroverted and confident.. cocky”), but those ups never led you to ongoing healing, only to sprints of healing followed by stops/ standstills/ reversals.

anita

 

Hello my friend,

My name is Wind in Vietnam. I would like to gently share some ideas and questions with you. Everything I share is only to invite your curious quiet contemplation within yourself. If you choose to. After share, everything depends on you to choose this or that.

Sometimes the door to escape all troubles and suffering is so close my friend, but what blocks each people from walking through it? Because though they may say, They Know. They understand. They can not give up their story that binds them inside to an illusionary self created prison to practice everything.

I share..

When was the last time you sat down face to face with yourself and everything in your life before you ran to old habits for an imagined temporary feeling of safety?

Do you think that when the Death appears, it will care about all your study, wanting, hoping, needing, anxiety, depression, worry, your dreams… and show compassion and time with you?..

Do you think ‘the time’ is beside you like the friend, waiting with you in all your suffering and wanting?

Suddenly the Death appear, do you think you can hold and bring all your PhD, doctorates, dreams, worry, anxiety, tablets, wishes and wants through the door?..

The Death care about your study? You are important with the time and Death?

My friend… questions are for you to patiently face and contemplate if you choose to. Why the difficult question has value? Because from the question creates occasion for everything to open.

Now you are the man of 42. Can you answer, what is the law that controls each and every Soul that comes to the life? Why at 42 you are still here but many did not even get past one hour of life?.. What law controls?

A story..

One day the man plants a fruit tree in the ground.. A special tree he chose. He like so much. He dreamed of the tree becoming so big and beautiful and many fruit. Each day he water, take care.. Always checking every day its height. The leaves.. Everyday he watching, wanting it to grow. He begins impatiently. Inside him he sees the imaginary tree so big. He begin praying to make it grow and everything will be ok. Inside, he begin all sorts of suffering in the wanting. He can not sleep, always checking, worry something wrong.. He think, why not growing? Is it sick? Too slow, too slow….

My friend… In this small example story.. Did you see you?

What is the mistake of the man?

His mistake is he did not see that the tree must follow the law of tree. That everything takes place according to the Law and on the time, with enough details and conditions, everything appears. Not early or late, but on the time.

What is the cause of the suffering? From grasping in imaginary outcomes.

In each imaginary outcome from grasping at what is or not and what if… Each person did become like the man running through the desert trying to keep a piece of ice in their hand.

The door to escape is to drop all grasping in the wanting. Have you ever tried to catch the space around you in your hand? You will only most certainly tire yourself out.

From imagine, everyone did invite the appearance of all kinds of illusionary trouble and sickness.

Now you are the man of 42.. You good mind, study.. do everything for your life.. But you did not understand anything about yourself. And the purpose of the life. Means, in the grasping, you mistake with you.

What is the nature and root purpose of any job, from a President to a Beggar? Only to earn for ones life. Everything else is only the appearance. And so.. when we lose ourselves to the appearance of the life, we begin to lost ourselves inside.

Whether the man is happy with the tree growing or angry with the tree not growing does not change the Law of tree. So what happens inside the effect or grasping and wanting? You lose yourself to your emotions that become like strings controlling a puppet. From your dominating emotions attached to the grasping, you volunteer your Soul into slavery. You lost the time becoming attached to the prison of KEEPING. Keeping false ideas, thoughts, opinions, fears.. That develop into all kinds of different names..

My friend..

Each persons life is like the fruit tree. And the name of the law that controls each tree is the cause and effect law. No one can know what fruit will or will not appear until it appears. Fruits equal effects.

Behavior is the most important detail. Behavior with yourself in each moment. As each idea, thought, action becomes the seeds for effects tomorrow or another time. But no matter what.. effects always come right without discrimination.

So from your grasping, your wanting of this and that… What will be your effect you invite?

Stay in the purpose of your purpose and cut the habit of grasping. And……….. Everything will take place.

Relax with your life. The life. How is too relax? Relax means to see everything as it is and accept everything as it is now. You see that like the tree, the life is always moving and changing on the law. That all possibilities appear on the time. You either begin wake up and practice to create space inside by removing all false obstructions, for these possibilities to have the right conditions to grow and develop..

Or… from your grasping in fears, desires of imagine.. of wanting.. you grow weeds that suffocate the space inside.

My friend.. No one can imagine that all they need is the courage to NOT KEEP.

KEEP, may have many different appearances but the effect is always the same. As, what you keep, keeps you. Now at 42… You must (must means if you choose to) begin wake up and see the limit of all things and the deeper value of the life.

Even if I wrap my body around the tree in fear or happiness.. Does not change the Law of tree.

I borrow an example from early in my life to describe idea… As my Father died.. when he knew he was going to die at 26.. He said, ‘It’s ok’

Inside Its ok, has the big lesson my friend past the appearance. Means, inside the nature of Its ok, is a complete acceptance of ones life. Its ok mean, we are not against the circumstances of our life. We accept everything that is or is not and peace and balance in any situation that comes or not come.

My friend.. from 2 small words you can see the great value if you can quietly inside and put the idea beside your life. Whether the job appears now, or a year.. Its ok my friend.  You only stay in good purpose, good behavior with yourself in each moment. You do everything good in prepare and courage and confidence in each step… Then you will see, that everything will take place.

Must courage to get of the wheel of habit like the mouse run and run.. But did never go anywhere. The wheel of always a slave to emotions. And begin see everything from another corner. The space of awareness. Awareness burns the dark inner clouds of emotions. The life has many appearances.. but all suffering regardless of the appearances come back to the emotional attachment to grasping in the life.

Not one tablet, not one worry, not one moment of lost sleep, not one imagined outcome… can add one second to your life my friend. I have… I am.. I want… are all small prisons for the Soul.

All attached to emotions…that run deep like the roots of a tree.

Begin to overcome yourself by opening your hands with the life. Begin practice gratitude in each action. as gratitude creates the space for balance in the acceptance of your life. The value only appears in the positive action.

All your fears, are the effect from your View. As by the view you use, so it exists exactly. Grasping in the appearance of imagine, dominated by emotions we become like a person searching for keys in a dark room.

Where is the light my fiend? The light is your awareness. Awareness needs energy. You have awareness but not the energy because your so busy with your emotions, which are like a thief that continuously robbed you in broad daylight  but you did not see.

These words can not save you. Do not attach to the words but focus on the content inside.

As……Only you can save you or destroy you.

So I share..

You must courage to begin drop all grasping. Drop all grasping does not mean we lost purpose. But inside the purpose we see the limit of the life. Of all things. The movement of the life.

We see at the same time, that the purpose of the life is to pay and receive equal with our cause and effect. To practice to grow up our Soul and awareness and overcome everything. To release the grasp on illusionary objects and outcomes that become our false idea of real and continue to lead the soul deeper into confusion.

My friend.. Now at 42… If you can quietly with ideas. You have the great occasion before you. The life always has 2 faces…  That is the law of the physical space we live. When everyone stands in happy, means sad waits. Everyone says, I love, means hate waits. Everything feels so good, means the face of bad waits.. All from emotions attached to a discriminative View.

When you have the courage my friend to face to face with YOU. You life. Not an imagined life from, WHAT IF. And begin fresh steps towards putting everything down inside. Letting go of all grasping attached to false thinking and ideas.

Put down the inner discriminations and judgements of everything is either good or bad and just see everything as it is.. And practice inside the idea of ITS OK.

You can not imagine… the possibilities that will begin to appear inside. They were always there… just like the Sun is always bright.. even when obstructed by dark clouds.

Now is the good time for you to begin forget an imaginary past and bring your eyes back into your own eyes to see everything that is right now. To awake in each step.

I share from sincere experience. You must choose. You continue to push up your story of difficult to be your illusionary prison of real. Lost in the circle of talking and repeat.

Or… you begin focus on clearing and cleaning everything inside and put down your attachments to wanting. Begin the courage to break up everything. Like a fire burns a forest of all dead wood and creates the fresh occasion for the new to appear.

Everything wait for you my friend. The life wait for you. Your possibilities wait for you. All you need to practice is to release your strangle hold on all your grasping and wanting and needing and imagined outcomes and come back to yourself in sincere acceptance of NOW.

Once there was this Lion. She had a cub. She was starving and the cub too. Each day she was hunting but kept missing. After miss, she just rested quietly under the shade.. wait for tomorrow.. days passed.. she kept missing.. starving.. But, after miss.. always relax in shade. Save energy. On the time, when everything connected.. She caught they prey. Her situation change.

Like you my friend.. Do not scare…

Must courage to peace in the unknown. peace in the uncertainty. Courage in the not knowing. Drop all grasping.

So.. on the time when all the right right conditions and details appear.. You are ready with the energy you need to do everything equal with the occasion. Confident. Balanced. Faith from your positive actions.

Its ok. Everything will take place. It is your duty to overcome you. That is the duty of the man to overcome everything.

My friend.. These ideas should only be seen like strange rocks on the path of your life. To curious, to see, pick up, understand and practice is always your free choice.

As each life, depending each person courage to self perfect = each destination.

I wish you good luck.

Thank you so much,

Wind.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hello my friend, My name is Wind. In Vietnam. I would like to put some ideas and questions for you. You do not need answer me. I invite you to quietly contemplate within yourself. I do not say my ideas are right or wrong.. I only share..

Example.. One day.. You wake up normally. peaceful in your life.

Then, I suddenly bring a brand new car to your house. You did not have a car.. Now I bring for you. After you see the object, you begin full emotions with object.. love, like, excited etc…

Then suddenly after some weeks or months you wake up and it is gone. I take it from you.

You begin all sorts of suffering about it.. worry, stress, wanting, look for, anger etc…

My friend..

Only example.. But, your behavior with yourself about the man or that man, is no different from your behavior with the example.. Only different appearance of an object but inside FULL EMOTIONS with object.

Meaning, all suffering is the cause of attachment to any object outside of us. Object meaning, car, money, friends, man.. etc..

Why you lost yourself and volunteer to become the like the beggar and slave of your own emotions to the unbalanced behavior of another?

Where are you? You lost you.

Careful my friend. As each person carries the seed of their cause and effect. Emotion, possesses emotion. From can not overcome the emotion of possess, of keep, or controlling and wanting.. You begin invite many troubles that will appear on the time.

Emotions are often used like the knife my friend. To control and possess. You are the woman of 33. You are not teenager.

Suddenly you whole life, now become depended upon the this object? This person. You are the slave of the object my friend. Is that the purpose of your life? What is the purpose of your life?

I share.. You can not know what waits in another to appear on the time. We can share, be compassionate.. But we must careful not to lost ourselves in the process. otherwise, you only mistake with you.

Covid is like the big light that open everything within everyone from always needing and wanting the attachment to objects outside of them and can not balance in alone. Covid is only the occasion for everything to appear in each person.

Come back my friend.. Come back to yourself. You must respect your life and Soul. Or, you continue to chase the object like a mouse running on a wheel. You slowly destroy yourself.

We must courage to see the cause and effect law in each person. Means, you must use awareness to see what will be your effect if you can not overcome your emotions of attachment. The life gave you a door to exit from the situation but.. from your needing and wanting you missed and keep going deeper into suffering.

Now the man fall on the floor, do this and that.. control you like the puppet on the string. I do not judge him but, you must wake up my friend. Or.. you must ready for everything that will come and appear on the time. And.. TOO LATE, did become the name everyone.

Peace inside is very simple if you have the courage to cut everything within and drop it.

The basic law in the life is that when something begins, means it must end. This man come, means on the time he go and another appear = Of Course!

Must courage inside. TO STOP. Only you can save you. Come back.. come back to yourself. Come back to gratitude and balance from seeing where the real value of the life is. Come back and clear and clean everything inside and maybe you can begin curious and discover some meditation. 33 is good time for you. Begin discover something new. Begin come back to the house of awareness and confidence to stand straight before yourself. Not like a beggar before another.

I see this situation is very dirty my friend. Of course, it is your effect from your behavior. Meaning, only your behavior with yourself can open the door for you to escape and overcome yourself. Win YOU.

You think you have the time… But you can not imagine.. As the time never cares anyone. But inside the self created prison of suffering you invited to appear.. My friend.. You lost the time.

Must see the limit in all things. Now is a wonderful occasion for you to begin to meet yourself again and get to know you. I share sincerely and straight… My friend.. must courage to stop.

Respect that the purpose of your life is to grow up your soul and discover your life. This IS YOUR DUTY.

Your purpose is not to become an emotional slave to yourself or the delusional behavior of another.

Come back… Come back.. it is ok. Courage.. confidence. The life always moves and changes. Understand when it is ENOUGH.

When your emotions attack you.. You practice to only observe but not follow. Like storms that appear in the night.. We only sit and wait for everything to pass. Of course, emotions, like the weather all follow the time. Begin and end.

look for your purpose. Find a purpose for you life NOW. And take positive action. ACTION. The value only appears in the action. Cut, put down, clear and clean everything inside and forget everything.

otherwise, your life will become like that of a person running through the desert trying to keep a piece of ice in their hand.

Many, many possibilities wait you. Clean possibilities. Wait you. Ready with you. Take some time my friend to discover YOU again.. and I tell you sincerely.. like a flower.. on the time with enough details and conditions.. Everything will open.

The life life always takes place from within.

By the view you use, so it exists exactly.

Courage in each step. No one ever climbed a mountain walking backwards look down.

Thank you so much.

Wind.

 

 

 

 

Hello my friend..

 

My name is Wind. I live in Vietnam.

 

I share some ideas with you.. Ideas are only for your quiet contemplation.

 

The nature of comparing yourself, your life..

Comes from a discriminatory View.

 

And what is the effect from your comparing?

Only suffering.

 

My friend..

 

What is the root purpose of any job in the life from a President to a Beggar?

Only to earn for one’s life.

 

The cause of your suffering is your emotions attached to the appearance of the life.

 

Have you ever seen a flower compare itself with another?

The nature of the flower is to grow up, look for the light, open and share unconditionally.

 

Become like the flower my friend.

 

Your life and everything within it is the appearance of your effect. Each life follows the Law of cause and effect.

 

For example..

 

Suddenly tomorrow your brother becomes sick and must die.. Do you still think his life was wonderful ?..

 

Keep your eyes in your own eyes my friend.

 

Come back to the simplicity of seeing the purpose of your life.

 

That is.. To grow up your Soul and awareness and pay everything equal with the Law of your cause and effect.

Remove the comparison. Replace it with gratitude. Accept everything.

 

From imagination of what you think your life is or is not.. You destroy your own possibilities that are always waiting inside to be discovered.

 

When we lose the purpose of our life. Meaning.. When we don’t see that without the body the Soul did not have any occasion to practice grow up and develop. This is a common cause of all suffering and delusion.

 

My friend.. It’s ok.

Its ok means.. You sincerely accept yourself and your circumstances. Once you accept everything that is or is not..

You can peace inside. From peace inside you balance. From balance you come back to clarity. From clarity you can begin curious and touch fresh ideas and begin discovering your life and new possibilities.

 

You are lucky. But you don’t see it.

Because your habit is to look out. You mistake with yourself and do not see yourself clearly.

 

Husband.. Brother.. Dogs.. Are all objects outside of you. Meaning.. They are not you.

 

Your duty is to discover everything that waits inside. Following the appearance of the life is like running through the desert of your life trying to keep a piece of ice in your hand.

 

Come back to the space of gratitude. The, you will begin seeing fresh paths appearing.

 

Must confidence. Courage. To keep moving with the life.

What happened to stagnant water?

It becomes polluted over time..

So too the Soul when we begin keeping ideas and opinions from false seeing.

 

Everything is OK my friend. Don’t keep.

 

My friend..

 

Nobody ever has anything. Having is an illusion. Everything in the life is only a temporary condition.

 

When was the last time you woke up and said good morning with yourself?

 

When was the last time you said good night with yourself?

 

You are here. In your life. Now.

Put down the comparing and you will come back to yourself. Clear and clean everything inside like you clean the mirror in your house.

 

Clean means.. Put down your emotions attached to an imaginary life that is not yours. You are here. Because your Soul chose everything.

 

You practice to grow up your life and Soul or you practice to grow down always depends on you.

 

Where you put your energy is where you will go. Energy is important detail. To overcome everything.

 

Behaviour with yourself in each moment are the seeds of tomorrow.

 

Become your own best friend. Patience. Acceptance. Compassion. Listen inside. Confidence. Courage.

 

I share sincerely..

 

Grow weeds or flowers inside depends on your View.

 

Must courage to discover your life. When we just exist.. We live with one foot in the grave.

 

Living requires great courage to face to face with everything that is or is not.

 

Keep going. The life always moves and changes. Don’t judge yourself or discrimination with yourself.

 

Peace my friend. Rekax with the life. Yourself.

Everything will take place.

 

In quiet and stillness everything Opens.

 

Come back to yourself is the journey of each life. To become awake inside. Discover.

 

Each life equals each destinatio

My friend..

 

Its ok. Keep going. No right. No Wrong.

 

Curious is a special garden.

The life takes place from within.

Wind.