“Don’t hide yourself. Stand up, keep your head high, and show them what you got!” ~Joe Mari Fadrigalan
Sometime in high school I started to disappear. If I think back to the source of my disappearance, it was probably in sixth grade, the year all of my girlfriends ostracized me from sleepovers, parties, and general friendliness.… Read More
“We all exist in our own personal reality of craziness.” ~Alejandro Jodorowsky
Most of us have heard stories of “crazy” women (and sometimes men) and psycho exes. They are our friends, boyfriend’s exes, family members, and sometimes they can even be us.
Often people (including ourselves) are quick to judge these people.… Read More
“Perhaps home is not a place, but simply an irrevocable condition.” ~James Baldwin
It’s normal, isn’t it?
Wanting to be accepted. Longing to feel at home. Hoping for that reassuring up-nod from the universe that says, “You’re one of us. And you get to stay.”
So you try to fit in wherever it feels right.… Read More
“Don’t look for someone who will solve all your problems. Look for someone who won’t let you face them alone.” ~Unknown
Depression for me is like constantly walking up a hill.
Most of the time the hill has only a one percent gradient. You can hardly even tell it’s a hill.… Read More
“Some people come into your life as blessings. Others come into your life as lessons.” ~Mother Teresa
Going by experience, I should have been petrified of men and marriage.
Forced into an arranged marriage at twenty, something that is common in India, it took me over a decade to draw up the courage to leave a toxic, abusive situation and to chart my own path in a conservative society, with two little kids to fend for.… Read More
“Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart.” ~Kahlil Gibran
Does a loved one have a favorite photo of you? A photo by their bedside or on their screensaver that reminds them of a special time and place and memory?
Can I also hazard a guess that this isn’t your favorite photo of yourself?… Read More
“Anger is like a storm rising up from the bottom of your consciousness. When you feel it coming, turn your focus to your breath.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh
There is an elderly lady—I’ll call her Ms. A—living in my mum’s village. She regularly shouts at people as they pass by her house walking their dogs.… Read More
“Pain can change you, but that doesn’t mean it has to be a bad change. Take that pain and turn it into wisdom.” ~Unknown
Sometimes other people’s words can stir up very painful emotions in us.
Do you remember when you felt so disempowered by someone’s remarks that you froze on the spot and couldn’t think of anything to say back to them?… Read More
“It hurts to let go, but sometimes it hurts more to hold on.” ~Unknown
When we’re deep into something it’s hard to see clearly and to hear advice from others. It’s hard to focus on a solution when we are consumed with the problem.
It’s the difference between playing and watching a game of chess.… Read More
“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” ~Carl Jung
Often when people want a new relationship, they either look for someone to complete them or they imagine sharing their life with someone just like them. So they try to present themselves in the best possible light for their imagined future partner—either as one perfect half of a whole or as an ideal version of what they believe their future partner will want.… Read More
“The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places.” ~Ernest Hemingway
For years I cursed spring.
During that time my heart woke to the bitterness of life. In the harsh frost of winter my anguish and the season were one, a climate where I felt safe, cocooned in a blanket of grief, a camouflage that ensconced me from the world outside.… Read More
“The less you open your heart to others, the more your heart suffers.” ~Deepak Chopra
The end of my marriage was a life-shattering event that rocked my world and made me question my existence.
My break-up led to a full existential, spiritual, and personal crisis.
After putting the pieces back together, I feel like I’m ready to love again.… Read More
“Once you get used to people giving to you as much as you give to them and receive all of the benefits of a less stressful life, you will not consider putting yourself last.” ~Amanda Owen
Recently a good friend of mine helped me with a workshop project. She formulated spreadsheets, answered multiple emails and questions, provided feedback to my group, and then participated in the actual event by doing a demonstration.… Read More
“We must never be afraid to be a sign of contradiction for the world.” ~Mother Theresa
I’ve felt like I was different ever since I was in elementary school, when my personality started to settle and I came to realize I didn’t look, think, feel, learn, or act like my peers.… Read More
“Be yourself—not your idea of what you think somebody else’s idea of yourself should be.” ~Henry David Thoreau
How many times have people told you to just be yourself? A million times perhaps.
How many times have you felt able to do this?
Until a few months ago, I thought this was frighteningly hollow advice, like “Don’t worry.” And I had no clue how to be myself.… Read More
“We have all known the long loneliness and we have learned that the only solution is love and that love comes with community.” ~Dorothy Day
Throughout my life it’s been really hard to admit when I’ve felt lonely.
I’ve been through intense periods where I have been without others.
I’ve been surrounded by people yet have felt no real connections.… Read More
“How people treat other people is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves.” ~Paul Coelho
By nature, I am a happy, optimistic, idealistic person. I have always been one to look on the bright side and see the good in people. My usual philosophy in life is that the world is full of brightness, love, and possibilities to seize.… Read More
“I’m stronger because of the hard times, wiser because of my mistakes, and happier because I have known sadness.” ~Unknown
We all have people in our lives who unintentionally hurt us. Their words may sound harsh. We may feel judged. And they may question our choices so much that we feel emotionally unsafe around them.… Read More