“For a seed to achieve its greatest expression, it must come completely undone. The shell cracks, its insides come out and everything changes. To someone who doesn’t understand growth, it would look like complete destruction.” ~Cynthia Occelli
There are no …
“We judge ourselves by our intentions and others by their behavior.” ~Stephen Covey
It happened again! A different place, a different person. But again, I was outraged! How could I let it go this time?
I was driving home from …
“Relationships are about two individuals who maintain their own lives and create another one together.” ~Unknown
When I am in relationship I put all of myself into it, and can sometimes neglect my own needs as a result.
I’ve recognized …
“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.” ~Ann Landers
I fell in love …
“Forgiveness has nothing to do with absolving a criminal of his crime. It has everything to do with relieving oneself of the burden of being a victim.” ~C.R. Strahan
It’s not fair, is it?
Getting hurt. All over again.
It …
“Love yourself—accept yourself—forgive yourself—and be good to yourself, because without you the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things.” ~Leo F. Buscaglia
In 2009 I traveled to Perth, Western Australia, to further my education. Little did …
“You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don’t trust enough.” ~Frank Crane
“Ah, it is difficult to trust people nowadays!” Heard that one lately?
The implication is that trust …
“Self-love, self-respect, self-worth: There’s a reason they all start with ‘self.’ You can’t find them in anyone else.” ~Unknown
One day, somewhere around the age of twenty-seven, with a rich background of long-term relationships, dating, alone time, and searching for …
“Jealousy is nothing more than a fear of abandonment.” ~Unknown
My biggest relationship fear used to be getting dumped for another woman.
If it actually happened, it was going to be the ultimate proof of my worthlessness.
It wasn’t easy …
“Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough.” ~Josh Billings
Have you ever encountered a situation where you found yourself agreeing to do something that you had …
“Doubt yourself and you doubt everything you see. Judge yourself and you see judges everywhere. But if you listen to the sound of your own voice, you can rise above doubt and judgment. And you can see forever.” ~Nancy Lopez…
“Embrace each challenge in your life as an opportunity for self-transformation.” ~Bernie S. Siegel
I’d been having mild pain for about a week—a consistent, dull ache in the center of my chest.
I’m thirty-nine years old with no personal history …
“Never be ashamed of a scar. It simply means you were stronger than whatever tried to hurt you.” ~Unknown
Heartbreak. I have never felt anything as torturous.
It’s been just over a year since my first real heartbreak, and finally, …
“Tart words make no friends; a spoonful of honey will catch more flies than a gallon of vinegar.” ~Ben Franklin
While I was pregnant, a friend told me to prioritize, in this order: self, marriage, kids.
My priorities tend to …
“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.” ~Brené Brown
Now that the fog of what everyone else wanted for me has lifted, it seems so …
“Calmness is the cradle of power.” ~Josiah Gilbert Holland
I was interested, recently, to find that our local supermarket had set up an area with ten self-service checkouts. For years I‘d accepted the normal method of bagging and paying for …
“You cannot live with expectations because life has no obligation to fulfill your desires. You can live with an open heart, but you cannot live with expectations.” ~Osho
Will you marry me?
These four life-changing words have been haunting me …
“There is no exercise better for the heart than reaching down and lifting people up.” ~John Holmes
I moved to Vermont to work at a ski lodge the day after I turned twenty-two.
I had finished college six months earlier; …
“We often say ‘love’ when we really mean, and are acting out, an addiction—a sterile, ingrown dependency relationship, with another person serving as the object of our need for security.” ~Stanton Peele
When I was sixteen, I fell in love. …
“My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me.” ~Henry Ford
A few days ago, a close friend called me and asked for advice on whether he should end a toxic relationship with his ex-girlfriend. He …
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