“We can let circumstances rule us, or we can take charge and rule our lives from within.” ~Earl Nightingale
Last Christmas, I was jobless.
With piling bills and debts, I was trying to switch from a freelancer to a full-time employee. I had been job hunting for weeks, with zero results.… Read More
“It is the way that we react to circumstances that determines our feelings.” ~Dale Carnegie
I can remember the incident so clearly.
A few years ago, my friends and I were all sitting around a table in a restaurant. It was the holiday season, and I was in good spirits. It was nice to see everyone again.… Read More
“Turn your face toward the sun and the shadows will fall behind you.” ~Māori Proverb
Depressing, isn’t it?
Struggling to get out of bed every day—but you can’t.
All you need to do is turn off your alarm, get up, and go on with the day. Instead, you hide under your covers, avoiding life. … Read More
“You just do it. You force yourself to get up. You force yourself to put one foot before the other, and darn it, you refuse to let it get to you. You fight. You cry. You curse. Then you go about the business of living. That’s how I’ve done it. There’s no other way.” ~Elizabeth Taylor
Most of us will experience hard choices, stressful events, and difficult situations that will impact us in one way or another for the rest of our lives.… Read More
“Behind every exquisite thing that existed, there was something tragic.” ~Oscar Wilde
Have you ever had one of those moments when something devastating happens in your world and it feels like the rug has been ripped out from under you? I know I certainly did last year.
I thought my life was moving along wonderfully.… Read More
“I’m stronger because of the hard times, wiser because of my mistakes, and happier because I have known sadness.” ~Unknown
One day at my part-time job, my supervisor told me that my boss wanted to talk to me. This was completely unexpected, so I was a bit concerned. Everything had been going so incredibly smoothly in my life for the past week or two, and all I wanted was to keep that oh-so-wonderful peacefulness going.… Read More
“It ain’t what they call you. It’s what you answer to.” ~W.C. Fields
For much of my life, I have struggled against the after effects of unresolved childhood trauma.
For years, I didn’t even know how much of an issue it was. I thought it was completely normal to expect the worst or avoid intimacy like the plague.… Read More
“When you become comfortable with uncertainty, infinite possibilities open up in your life. ~Eckhart Tolle
A woman in a relationship that is breaking her spirit might remain there for fear of what leaving will bring.
She doesn’t know if she will find another to care for her, and having a warm body is better than having no one.… Read More
“The mind is everything. What you think, you become.” ~Buddha
“I will be okay,” I repeated to myself. “Deep breaths. You’re okay. Focus on the breath. I am going to be okay…”
I was on a small plane flying over the Rocky Mountains of Colorado on a hot summer afternoon—a notoriously turbulent time to fly.… Read More
When I am having a rough day—when I feel tired, sad, doubtful, or stressed—I spend time looking up inspirational quotes.
I’ve memorized several, pulling them out when need be. These quotes are simple but they can help me turn a bad day around.
Short and sweet, here they are…
“When you have a bad day, a really bad day, try and treat the world better than it treated you.” ~Patrick Stump
When I’m traveling around with my own personal dark cloud, I sometimes forget to be kind to others.… Read More
“What if I fall? Oh, my darling, what if you fly?” ~ Unknown
Like most people, my life has had its share of ups and downs.
My household growing up could be best described as a roller coaster. There were times of excitement and happiness, then there was the plummeting into darkness, shame, and self-loathing.… Read More
“Maybe it’s not about the happy ending. Maybe it’s about the story.” ~Unknown
For the longest ever time, I had no idea what my own story was.
Desperately uncomfortable in my skin as a child, I was equal parts pathologically shy with strangers and fearless with my sisters and brother, running wild over the boulder-strewn southern California land during summers.… Read More
Almost everyone knows someone who has struggled or is struggling with addiction, and many of us are personally affected.
One hundred people die every day from overdoses—but it’s not just drugs or alcohol I’m referring to. We struggle with addictions to food, gambling, pornography, and even technology.
As a former bulimic, I know all too well how easy it is to lose yourself in a compulsive, destructive behavior when you’re lost, depressed, or trying to escape from the seemingly irrepressible ghosts of past trauma.… Read More
“People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh
I’ve called it my “Epiphany Bubble,” and it might be hard to believe, but it’s my true experience.
I stood on the lawn of our city’s hospital.… Read More
“Kindness in words creates confidence.” ~Lao Tzu
Does your life feel like an endless experience of struggle and stress? That while you have moments of reprieve, they are transient and short lived?
It may be that the problem lies with your confidence—in your belief in your ability to bring about successful outcomes when you experience challenges.… Read More
“It is better to take many small steps in the right direction than to make a great leap forward only to stumble backward.” ~Proverb
Ever felt down in the dumps, absolutely sure that you wanted to transform your life but no idea where to start?
About three years back I stood at that intersection.… Read More
“Fear: False Evidence Appearing Real.” ~Unknown
It was an ordinary school morning in a busy European city. I seem to recall it was spring, as my memories store the feeling of awakening after a long winter.
I was seventeen and getting ready to go to school. Following my standard morning routine, which included eating my meticulously assembled breakfast, I walked to the tram station.… Read More
“If you find yourself constantly trying to prove your worth to someone, you have already forgotten your value.” ~Unknown
There’s nothing like being one of the few black kids in your school to make you feel like the odd person out.
Well, that was my experience, anyway. I appreciate my parents’ desire to provide my brother and me with a safe neighborhood to live in and a good education, but growing up in a predominantly white area really affected me.… Read More
“When we are mindful, deeply in touch with the present moment, our understanding of what is going on deepens, and we begin to be filled with acceptance, joy, peace, and love.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh
In January, what I desire most is to slow down.
My heart wants to use the New Year as a time to reflect on the year that has passed by—what felt right, what didn’t feel right, and areas of potential growth.… Read More