Love Is Allowing People to Be What They Choose for Themselves
Why Striving For Perfection Is Actually Holding You Back
“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.” ~Anna Quindlen
I used to strive for perfection in every aspect of my life. I thought perfection would make me “acceptable” to others.
Deep down, I felt inadequate, insecure, and not enough. And subconsciously, I decided that if I could just achieve perfection with myself, my body, and my life, than I would finally feel the deep love and inner acceptance I longed for inside of myself.
As a kid, I demanded a perfect report card: only …
The Benefits of Meditation: 10 Minutes to Peace, Clarity, and Focus
“Meditation teaches us to cure what need not be endured and endure what cannot be cured.” ~Unknown
Do you feel overwhelmed at times? Or slightly lost? Do you struggle with anger, anxiety, or low self-esteem? Are you left with a mind that doesn’t seem to want to slow down?
If the answer is yes, rest assured that you are not the only one. There are many who feel the same way.
This is exactly how I felt five years ago. I was working hard as a musician, and I felt like I’d hit a brick wall. The harder I …
The Importance of Doing Nothing (and No, You’re Not Too Busy)
“Doing nothing is better than being busy doing nothing.” ~Lao Tzu
Whether it’s chores or children, to-do lists or bucket lists—let alone work—modern life moves at a demanding pace. It’s a hamster wheel and, unlike our beloved family pet, we’ve decided it’s not fun.
But as a society we revel in being busy all the time. We consider those who do nothing on the weekend to be dull or lazy. We don’t have time to chew the cud. If William Henry Davies thought his lot “had no time to stop and stare,” he should turn in his grave and see …
How to Forgive When You Don’t Think You Can
“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.” ~Steve Maraboli
Have you ever had a relationship, friendship, or marriage that ended so badly it took years, a decade, or even longer to heal? Have you ever wished you could forgive someone but just didn’t think it was possible?
Fifteen years ago I was twenty-six and in a relationship with a man that was destructive. After an intense romance in his home country, I made the poor decision that he should …
If You Want To Know Love, Stop Lying
“Lies may make people feel better, but they do not help them to know love.” ~Bell Hooks
I was once a liar. I didn’t know I was a liar at the time. I didn’t consciously tell an untruth. Instead, my entire being did.
Lying isn’t just something that is done with words. We can lie with our actions. We can lie with our silence. We can lie with our complicity. We can lie by pretending to be who we aren’t.
I was the lie.
I played dress up for most of my life. It didn’t happen all at once. I …
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