People Who Judge You by Your Past
Source: Project Happiness
What Are You Practicing—Self-Judgment or Self-Compassion?
“You are what you practice most.” ~Richard Carlson
“What are you practicing?” she asked in a gentle, lilting voice.
The entire class was in triangle pose, and at that moment I was comparing my triangle to the young woman’s right next to mine, scolding myself for wobbling out of the pose and simultaneously harassing myself for not being “further along” in my career. (Because if you’re going to hate on yourself, my motto is GO BIG.)
“Are you practicing judgment or comparison?” she tenderly probed.
“WTF!” I thought. “Does this woman have a direct line to my brain?”
“Are you …
What to Do When Your Partner Disappoints or Frustrates You
“Good relationships don’t just happen. They take time, patience, and two people who truly want to be together.” ~Unknown
We are wired to seek “the right one,” the ever-supportive partner, and the loving relationship.
If we get all three, it’s like winning the lottery of life. When we meet someone, we dream of him/her being our soul mate. When we are in a relationship, we hope they’ll love and support us unconditionally, and the relationship will be loving and everlasting.
That would be the ideal world, and, unfortunately, the ideal world isn’t the one we live in.
It took …
Holiday Love Challenge #22: Cut Yourself Some Slack
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7 Ways to Make Your Workday Awesome
“When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change.” ~Wayne Dyer
I wish my first real boss had read the book Fish. It’s the story of Mary Jan Ramirez, a young widow who took a job managing the least productive and most negative department of First Guarantee Financial, in Seattle, Washington. In fact, the department was referred to as the “toxic waste dump” of the company.
One day she had an epiphany as she observed workers in “Pike Place Fish Market,”—people who had smelly, nasty jobs of cleaning, wrapping, cooking, and serving fish …
The Power of Literal Listening: Take the Stress Out of Communication
“When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.” ~Ernest Hemingway
If I’m honest, I don’t think I listened to another person until I was in my thirties. I wasn’t really listening, not completely. It’s not that I’m super selfish or vain; I was just so busy doing the mental gymnastics that I thought I had to do to keep up in conversations that I missed what was actually being said to me.
I grew up in a family where it felt like nearly everything that was said had another, unspoken meaning. I remember feeling really confused as a child, …
Holiday Love Challenge #21: Give the Gift of Forgiveness
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How to Live a Fulfilling Life: 10 Powerful Lessons from Loss
“Make ‘Let go of control’ your mantra today.” ~Tiny Buddha’s 365 Tiny Love Challenges #177
When the phone call came I was thousands of miles from home. My father was suddenly ill, admitted to the hospital. I was a medical doctor by then, and I felt a foreboding.
My mind went back to my childhood.
Imagine being a little child in a dark room. Every small noise evokes images of vicious monsters lurking in the night. They draw nearer.
You cry out, “Daddy!” And cry out once more. Then your hero comes to the rescue.
Your father shuffles in …
Giveaway: Let It Go Coloring Book for Stress Relief
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You can get a copy of Let It Go, Coloring and Activities to Awaken Your Mind and Relieve Stress on Amazon here.
When I was a kid, I could color for hours. I could be a little Type-A about it; if I went outside the lines, I would often rip out the page and throw it away, and I may even have yelled, “I hate coloring!” while cursing my imperfection.
But that was a lie—I loved it. So it was only a matter …
Holiday Love Challenge #20: Give Someone the Benefit of the Doubt
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The Other Christmas Gift
When faced with a tough decision, will these kids pick a Christmas gift for themselves or give it up for a gift for their family? This touching video brought tears to my eyes. What amazing kids!
Holiday Love Challenge #19: Set the Intention for Kindness
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Holiday Love Challenge #18: Only Say “I’m Sorry” When You Mean It
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What the Bathroom Scales Are Not Telling You
“The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I’m not going to let myself pull me down anymore.” ~ C. JoyBell C.
At a recent visit to the doctor’s office I had some routine checks done. Afterward, the doctor flipped through the findings and said, “Blood pressure, good. Pulse, good. Weight, okay.”
He then continued talking about other things, but my mind was still on his previous words. “Weight, okay.”
Why wasn’t my weight “good” like my pulse and blood pressure?
I had managed to completely skim over the fact that my vital signs were …
A Simple Practice to Appreciate Our Bodies, Flaws and All
“Who does not thank for little does not thank for much.” ~Estonian Proverb
I remember the moment so well: I had been seeing a new guy for a few months and I was staying the night for the first time. Up until that point he hadn’t seen me without heavy makeup, as I was careful to always look completely put together while with him.
That night I had to make a decision.
I could fall asleep with my makeup still on, or I could remove it first. Did I feel comfortable enough to let him see me without foundation, eyeliner, …
The Christmas Gift Experiment
While I don’t agree that presents aren’t for receiving (because someone has to receive in order for someone to give!) I love this joyful little experiment. =)
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