Stop Doing
“The only Zen you find on tops of mountains is the Zen you bring up there.” ~Robert M. Persig
We live in a fast-paced, achievement-oriented society. At the end of a busy, to-do-list-focused day, we often find ourselves mentally and …
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On Getting Started When You Don’t Feel Ready
“Don’t wait for your feelings to change to take the action. Take the action and your feelings will change.” ~Barbara Baron
A few months ago I challenged myself with Adventure Boot Camp. I thought, “What would be more challenging than …
5 Pieces of Advice That Aren’t Cliches
“It is easy when we are in prosperity to give advice to the afflicted.” ~Aeschylus
Earlier this year I got some feedback from the ‘tween magazine I wrote for: “It sounds like good advice, but kids probably won’t do any …
5 Ways to Let Go of Resistance
“Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
Recently I was on a phone call with Brad Yates. Although I know this to be true, when he said it,
10 Tips to Balance Self-Interest & Sacrifice for a Wonderful Life
“It’s really important to be able to receive love and receive compassion. It is as important as being able to give it.” ~Pema Chodron
Yesterday morning two of the correspondents on the news in Boston (where I’m home for the …
Lessons on the Trapeze: the Art of Making Things Happen
“Never ignore a gut feeling. But never believe it’s enough.” ~Robert Heller
A couple months ago, when I was almost done producing a teleseminar and spending way too much time hunched over at the computer, I decided to do something …
5 Ways to Make a Big Difference in Someone’s Day
“Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.” ~William James
There’s this saying I used to love that doesn’t resonate with me anymore:
“Go big or go home.”
I understand the allure of doing big things.
Life …
50 Ways to Show You Care Without Spending a Dime
“Friendship isn’t a big thing. It’s a million little things.” ~Unknown
This hasn’t been an extravagant holiday season for me. Like everyone and their mother, I lost a lot of income last year and I just don’t have the means …
Blessings in Disguise
“An obstacle may be either a stepping stone or a stumbling block.” ~Unknown
The first twenty some years of my life were rooted in intense emotional pain. My childhood was filled with one painful event after another.
I grew up …
Start Late
“It is never too late. Even if you are going to die tomorrow, keep yourself straight and clear and be a happy human being today.” ~Lama Yeshe
There’s a common misconception that there comes a point when it’s too late …
10 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Giving Up on Your Dream
“Commitment in the face of conflict produces character.” ~Unknown
We all face obstacles in pursuing our goals, whether they’re professional or personal.
We think we’re on the right track but realize we’ve chosen the wrong approach. We’re enthusiastic and hard-working, …
Un-side for a While
“When you live on a round planet, there’s no choosing sides.” ~Wayne Dyer
Research shows that rooting for a team, identifying with a group and enjoying the camaraderie you feel with other fans, can increase your sense of personal happiness.…
50+ Ways to Beat the Holiday Blues
“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” ~Dalai Lama
It’s a well-known fact that the holidays bring on the blues. According to the National Mental Health Association, reasons for feeling blue around the holidays …
Connect Without Complaining
“Instead of complaining the rose bush is full of thorns, be happy the thorn bush has roses.”~Proverb
Complaining can be a bonding experience.
You meet up with your friends after work and immediately start rehashing frustrations with your boss. You …
Connecting with Friends: Faster Isn’t Always Better
“When we get too caught up in the busyness of the world, we lose connection with one another and ourselves.” ~Jack Kornfield
In today’s virtual world, considering regular mail can feel rather absurd. Why would you send a postcard when …
No Price Tag for Happiness
“Give yourself permission to immediately walk away from anything that gives you bad vibes. There is no need to explain or make sense of it. Just trust what you feel.” ~Unknown
Last year I graduated from UC Santa Barbara with …
15 Ways to Change the World
“When I do good, I feel good; when I do bad, I feel bad and that is my religion.” ~Abraham Lincoln
It’s no secret that we live in a world that’s obsessed with wealth, fame, and celebrities. Some call it …
Choose to Lose
“Being right is highly overrated. Even a stopped clock is right twice a day.” ~Unknown
We all know someone who always needs to be right.
She turns everything into an argument worthy of a courtroom, complete with counter arguments and …
5 Rules for Life
When I first sat down to write this piece for 5 Rules for Life, I wrote “Live without rules” five times, each followed by a reason to keep your approach to life flexible.
The way you live is …
Assume the Best
“We must never assume that which is incapable of proof.” ~Unknown
You can never truly know someone else’s intentions.
If a coworker offers to cover your shift, she may be trying to ease your stress—or she could be vying for …
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