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In the end, people will judge you anyway. So don’t live your life impressing others. Live your life impressing yourself.

You can’t be everyone’s hero. You can’t take away everyone’s pain, solve all their problems, and make them feel happy with themselves and their lives. All you can do is love them, and that’s all you have to do. Just love them in their messiness, their confusion, their grief. See them, hear them, and accept them without judgment. Then let them know it’s okay to be right where they are, and if and when they need you, you’ll be there.

Be the person who breaks the cycle. If you were judged, choose understanding. If you were rejected, choose acceptance. If you were shamed, choose compassion. Be the person you needed when you were hurting, not the person who hurt you. Vow to be better than what broke you—to heal instead of becoming bitter so you can act from your heart, not your pain.

Don’t judge yourself by your past. You don’t live there anymore.

Those who judge will never understand, and those who understand will never judge.

Please don’t judge people. You don’t know what it took someone to get out of bed, look and feel as presentable as possible and face the day. You never truly know the daily struggles of others.

Don’t judge people for the choices they make when you don’t know the options they had to choose from.

The truth is that the way other people see us isn’t about us—it’s about them and their own struggles, insecurities, and limitations. You don’t have to allow their judgment to become your truth.

Practice the pause. Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you’re about to react harshly, and you’ll avoid doing and saying things you’ll later regret.

Try to hold onto your faith in people. Hope and love accomplish a lot more than cynicism and judgment.

Please try not to judge how someone is dealing with a pain you have never experienced.

A little more kindness. A little less judgment.

You don’t need anyone’s affection or approval in order to be good enough. When someone rejects or abandons or judges you, it isn’t actually about you. It’s about them and their own insecurities, limitations, and needs, and you don’t have to internalize that. Your worth isn’t contingent upon other people’s acceptance of you—it’s something inherent.

Always follow your gut instinct, even if you do it a little late. It’s better to renege and risk being judged than it is to do something you don’t want to do because you’re afraid of how it will look.

You may never know what someone is going through, but if you notice any signs of pain—hostility, negativity, or oversensitivity—then odds are, you know how they feel. Respond to the pain instead of judging the signs.

People tend to dwell more on negative things than on good things. So the mind then becomes obsessed with negative things, with judgments, guilt and anxiety produced by thoughts about the future and so on.

The world would be a happier, more peaceful place if we all tried to understand instead of judging, paused before reacting, and gave each other the benefit of the doubt instead of assuming the worst.

A lot of problems in the world would disappear if we talked to each other instead of about each other.

When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits—anything that kept me small. My judgment called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving.

Be a witness, not a judge. Focus on yourself, not on others. Listen to your heart, not to the crowd.