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You are not responsible for the programming you received in childhood. But as an adult, you are 100% responsible for fixing it.⠀

Be the person who breaks the cycle. If you were judged, choose understanding. If you were rejected, choose acceptance. If you were shamed, choose compassion. Be the person you needed when you were hurting, not the person who hurt you. Vow to be better than what broke you—to heal instead of becoming bitter so you can act from your heart, not your pain.

Whatever you’re feeling, be good to yourself. If you feel lost, be patient with yourself while you find your way. If you feel scared, be gentle with yourself while you find the strength to face your fear. If you feel hurt, be kind to yourself while you grieve and slowly heal. You can’t bully yourself into clarity, courage, or peace, and you can’t rush self-discovery or transformation. Some things simply take time, so take the pressure off and give yourself space to grow.

Forgive yourself for not knowing better at the time. Forgive yourself for giving away your power. Forgive yourself for past behaviors. Forgive yourself for the survival patterns and traits you picked up while enduring trauma. Forgive yourself for being who you needed to be.

Compassion dissolves anger. Understanding why someone behaves the way they do allows for forgiveness when they have mistreated you. Maybe they are insecure, or in pain, or maybe they even suffered some type of abuse in their lifetime, and you can see why they are the way they are. But when your compassion extends to excusing them for treating you poorly, over and over, it not only damages your self-worth, but prevents them from healing as well. Refuse to allow it to continue, for everyone’s sake.

You could have grown cold, but you grew courageous instead. You could have given up, but you kept on going. You could have seen obstacles, but you called them adventures. You could have called them weeds, but instead you called them wildflower. You could have died a caterpillar, but you fought on to be a butterfly. You could have denied yourself goodness, but instead you chose to show yourself some self-love. You could have defined yourself by the dark days, but instead through them you realized your light.

I smile because I have survived everything the world has thrown at me. I smile because when I was knocked down, I got back up.

What is broken can be mended. What hurts can be healed. And no matter how hard it gets, the sun will rise again.

Never wish them pain. That’s not who you are. If they caused you pain, they must have pain inside. Wish them healing. That’s what they need.

Oversensitivity isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s a sign that you’re hurting, and your insecurities point you toward what needs to be healed.

The six best doctors: sunshine, water, rest, air, exercise, and diet.

Emotional pain cannot kill you, but running from it can. Allow. Embrace. Let yourself feel. Let yourself heal.

The body heals with play, the mind heals with laughter, and the spirit heals with joy.

Sometimes music is the only medicine the heart and soul need.

Never underestimate the healing power of listening to your favorite music on full blast while jumping around the house like an idiot.

Dear music: Thank you for always clearing my head, healing my heart, and lifting my spirits.

The strongest hearts have the most scars.

Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful parts of ourselves.

What’s broken can be mended. What hurts can be healed. And no matter how dark it gets, the sun is going to rise again.

Until you heal the wounds of your past, you are going to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex; but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them.