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You just never know what someone is dealing with behind closed doors. No matter how happy someone looks, how loud their laugh is, how big their smile is, there can still be a level of hurt that is indescribable. So be kind. Even when others are not, choose to be kind.

You’re not supposed to win or lose arguments. You’re supposed to reach a mutual understanding and agreement. Otherwise, you both lose.

Build people up instead of tearing them down, appreciate them instead of taking them for granted, and be kind instead of being insensitive. Let’s focus on compassion and love and let’s make the world a better place.

Talking to someone with an open mind is seriously one of my favorite things because there’s never an end to what you can talk about and learn.

As you get older, you begin to understand more and more that life is not about what you look like or what you own. It’s about the person you’ve become.

You can’t force anyone to value, respect, understand, or support you, but you can choose to spend your time around people who do.

It’s easy to judge. It’s more difficult to understand. Understanding requires compassion, patience, and a willingness to believe that good hearts sometimes choose poor methods. Through judging, we separate. Through understanding, we grow.

Maybe the problem isn’t that you are too sensitive. Maybe the problem is that they lack the emotional intelligence required to process empathy. The problem is that they aren’t sensitive enough.

I love when people that have been through hell walk out of the flames carrying buckets of water for those still consumed by the fire.

There’s no such thing as a ‘bad kid’—just angry, hurt, tired, scared, confused, impulsive ones expressing their feelings and needs the only way they know how. We owe it to every single one of them to always remember that.

We didn’t understand as children that our parents still had work to do on themselves.

When you finally learn that a person’s behavior has more to do with their own internal struggle than you, you learn grace.

When a child can’t calm down they need connection and comfort, not criticism and control.

Sometimes we need someone to simply be there, not to fix anything or do anything in particular, but just to let us feel we are supported and cared about.

So many messages telling those who are struggling to reach out. Fair enough, but part of what depression does is mutes your ability to reach. If you are NOT depressed and you see someone struggling, YOU reach out. If you don’t see someone who used to be around, YOU reach out.

Lack of communication ruins everything, because instead of knowing how the other person is feeling, we just assume.

What does it mean to hold space for another person? It means that we are willing to walk alongside another person in whatever journey they’re on without judging them, making them feel inadequate, trying to fix them, or trying to impact the outcome. When we hold space for other people, we open our hearts, offer unconditional support, and let go of judgment and control.

Beneath every behavior there is a feeling. And beneath each feeling is a need. And when we meet that need, rather than focus on the behavior, we begin to deal with the cause, not the symptom.

Standing up for yourself doesn’t make you argumentative. Sharing your feelings doesn’t make you oversensitive. And saying no doesn’t make you uncaring or selfish. If someone won’t respect your feelings, needs, and boundaries, the problem isn’t you; it’s them.

It’s important to make friendships that are deeper than gossiping, drinking, and hanging out. Make friends who you can have deep conversations with. Make friends you can cry with. Make friends who support your life goals and believe in you.