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Divorce is okay. Breaking up is okay. Starting over is okay. Moving on is okay. Saying no is okay. Being alone is okay. What is not okay is staying somewhere where you aren’t happy, valued, or appreciated, that is not okay.

So many messages telling those who are struggling to reach out. Fair enough, but part of what depression does is mutes your ability to reach. If you are NOT depressed and you see someone struggling, YOU reach out. If you don’t see someone who used to be around, YOU reach out.

So what if you’re alone right now. Embrace it. Go get coffee alone. Shop alone. Drive alone. Watch movies alone. Get to know yourself. Nothing bad can come from riding whatever wave to self-improvement you’re blessed with in the moment.

Sometimes everything hits you all at once. You lose a relationship, change jobs, old friends go and new ones come. It’s up one day and down the next. You have it all together on Monday and by Thursday you don’t have a clue. Life is one big wave and all we can do is flow, grow, and adapt.

Understand that healing and growing can distance you from people who you once had a bond with, and it can also bring you closer to those who will heal and grow with you. The time in between can be difficult, but there is so much to learn in solitude.

The introvert empath: Sometimes they want to be left alone. Sometimes they want to be included. But most of the time they want to be included with the option to be left alone.

You have no idea how many people there are in the world whose day could be made and their life changed for the better if someone would just look them in the eye, smile, and say, ‘Hello.’

Alone doesn’t always mean lonely. Relationship doesn’t always mean happy. Being alone will never cause as much loneliness as being in the wrong relationship.

Always try to leave people better than you found them. Hug the hurt. Kiss the broken. Befriend the lost. Love the lonely.

If you know someone who’s depressed, please resolve never to ask them why. Depression isn’t a straightforward response to a bad situation; depression just is, like the weather. Try to understand the blackness, lethargy, hopelessness, and loneliness they’re going through. Be there for them when they come through the other side. It’s hard to be a friend to someone who’s depressed, but it is one of the kindest, noblest, and best things you will ever do.

Not everyone who is single is lonely; not everyone who is taken is in love.

Love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.

People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges.

I wish I could show you, when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being.

Perfectionism is the enemy of creation, as extreme self-solitude is the enemy of well-being.

It is astonishing how little one feels alone when one loves.

If you make friends with yourself you will never be alone.