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Breathe. You’re going to be okay. Breathe and remember that you’ve been in this place before. You’ve been this uncomfortable and anxious and scared, and you’ve survived. Breathe and know that you can survive this too. These feelings can’t break you. They’re painful and debilitating, but you can sit with them and eventually, they will pass. Maybe not immediately, but sometime soon, they are going to fade and when they do, you’ll look back at this moment and laugh for having doubted your resilience. I know it feels unbearable right now, but keep breathing, again and again. This will pass. I promise it will pass.

What hurts you today makes you stronger tomorrow.

Be kind because you will never know how much the person beside you is suffering.

Remember, the darkest nights produce the brightest stars.

Count your rainbows, not your thunderstorms.

We are all wounded people dealing with messy emotions in a confusing, uncertain, sometimes scary world. That doesn’t give anyone the right to be mean, thoughtless, or disrespectful. But remembering this makes it a little easier to think, ‘I hope you heal from your pain’ instead of ‘I hope you hurt like you hurt me.’

Let the past make you better, not bitter.

It’s okay if you don’t feel grateful in this moment, even if you know you have a lot to be grateful for. Let yourself feel whatever you feel. It will be a lot easier to focus on your blessings after you let the pain run through you.

Thoughts fuel emotions. If you don’t like what you’re feeling, step back and example what you’re thinking. Pain is inevitable, but you’ll suffer a lot less if you disengage from your thoughts.

A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It’s not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering. Attaching to a thought means believing that it’s true, without inquiring. A belief is a thought that we’ve been attaching to, often for years.

Sitting silently beside a friend who is hurting may be the best gift we can give.

We often nitpick and criticize little things when we’re hurting. If you see someone else doing this, try not to take it personally. If that person is you, ask yourself, ‘What am I really upset about? And what can I do to address that pain instead of projecting it onto someone else?’

Kindness begins with the understanding that we all struggle.

Let it hurt. Let it heal. Let it go.

You may never know what someone is going through, but if you notice any signs of pain—hostility, negativity, or oversensitivity—then odds are, you know how they feel. Respond to the pain instead of judging the signs.

Every situation in life is temporary. So, when life is good, make sure you enjoy and receive it fully. And when life is not so good, remember that it will not last forever and better days are on the way.

If you trade your authenticity for safety, you may experience the following: anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, rage, blame, resentment, and inexplicable grief.

P.S. You’re not going to die. Here’s the white-hot truth: if you go bankrupt, you’ll still be okay. If you lose the gig, the lover, the house, you’ll still be okay. If you sing off-key, get beat by the competition, have your heart shattered, get fired…it’s not going to kill you. Ask anyone who’s been through it.

As long as you feel pain, you’re still alive. As long as you make mistakes, you’re still human. And as long as you keep trying, there’s still hope.

I survived because the fire inside me burned brighter than the fire around me.