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I don’t want to suffer, so excuse me if I excuse myself from situations that suck all of my energy.

The broken will always be able to love harder than most. Once you’ve been in the dark, you learn to appreciate everything that shines.

Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.

When trauma has shaped you, try not to confuse who you had to become with who you can be.

Pick your battles. Nope. That’s too many battles. Put some battles back. Pick fewer battles.

I’ve built more relationships with people by being open about my struggles than I ever could have pretending like I had it all together.

Your greatest test will be how you handle people who mistreated you.

A lot of things broke my heart but fixed my vision.

Sometimes everything hits you all at once. You lose a relationship, change jobs, old friends go and new ones come. It’s up one day and down the next. You have it all together on Monday and by Thursday you don’t have a clue. Life is one big wave and all we can do is flow, grow, and adapt.

The biggest lesson for me this year has been ‘just keep going.’ Lost everything? Just keep going. Don’t know what you’re doing? Just keep going. $0.88 in the bank? Just keep going. People played you? Just keep going. No obstacle has been able to crush me. I keep going.

We can’t always choose the music life plays for us, but we can choose how we dance to it.

Severe early childhood trauma creates a child with equally intense coping mechanisms—these children are often seen as ‘mature for their age’ and ‘old souls.’ While maybe true, it often negates the fact that their innocence was taken away at an early age and they are in survival mode.

Know that this, too, will pass. Tomorrow you will wake up with 232 billion new cells in your body. That alone is reason for hope.

The strongest people are the ones who are still kind after the world tore them apart.

Optimist: Someone who figures that taking a step backward after taking a step forward is not a disaster, it’s a cha-cha.

We all have ‘issues’ because we all have a story. And no matter how much work you’ve done on yourself, we all snap back sometimes. So be easy on you. Growth is a dance. Not a light switch.

If you’re giving your all but it takes all you have just to get through the day, it doesn’t mean your best isn’t good enough. It means life is just that hard right now. Be good to yourself. You need it.

You are not your feelings. You just experience them. Anger, sadness, hate, depression, fear. This is the rain you walk in. But you don’t become the rain. You know the rain will pass. You walk on. And you remember the soft glow of the sun that will come again.

Your mental health is more important than your career, money, other people’s opinions, that event you said you would attend, your partner’s mood and your family’s wishes, combined. If taking care of yourself means letting someone down, then let someone down.

Our brains are wired for connection, but trauma rewires them for protection. That’s why healthy relationships are difficult for wounded people.