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Standing up for yourself doesn’t make you argumentative. Sharing your feelings doesn’t make you oversensitive. And saying no doesn’t make you uncaring or selfish. If someone won’t respect your feelings, needs, and boundaries, the problem isn’t you; it’s them.

I have fought a thousand battles, but I am still standing. I have cried a thousand tears, but I am still smiling. I have been broken, betrayed, abandoned, rejected, but I am still walking proud. I smile. I laugh. I live life without fear and when I love, I love hard. I am humble. I am beautiful. I am real. I am me.

So what if you’re alone right now. Embrace it. Go get coffee alone. Shop alone. Drive alone. Watch movies alone. Get to know yourself. Nothing bad can come from riding whatever wave to self-improvement you’re blessed with in the moment.

You can’t heal the people you love. You can’t make choices for them. You can’t rescue them. You can promise that they won’t journey alone. You can loan them your map. But this trip is theirs.

Learn to be okay with people not knowing your side of the story. You have nothing to prove to anyone.

Your circle should want to see you win. Your circle should clap the loudest when you have good news. If they don’t, get a new circle.

Love will not save you. But it will hold your hand while you save yourself. And in a world that sometimes seems void of goodness, in a world that sometimes feels too heavy to bear, I think that is all we are really searching for. Someone by our side. Someone who grounds us. Someone who will quietly hug us for twenty minutes straight while we figure it all out. I think that is all anyone really needs. Someone who sees them. Someone who stays.

Stay in the moment. The practice of staying present will heal you. Obsessing about how the future will turn out creates anxiety. Replaying broken scenarios from the past causes anger and sadness. Stay here, in this moment.

It’s important to make friendships that are deeper than gossiping, drinking, and hanging out. Make friends who you can have deep conversations with. Make friends you can cry with. Make friends who support your life goals and believe in you.

Do yourself a favor and take mixed signals as a no.

Let’s heal so we can stop accidentally hurting people we want to love because we are projecting our own wounds on them onto them.

Sometimes deciding who you are is deciding who you’ll never be again.

I’ve built more relationships with people by being open about my struggles than I ever could have pretending like I had it all together.

Heal, so when someone tells you they love you, you allow yourself to believe them.

Be like a pineapple. Stand tall. Wear a crown. Be sweet on the inside.

If you know someone who has lost a child, and you’re afraid to mention them because you think you might make them sad by reminding them that they died—you’re not reminding them. They didn’t forget they died. What you’re reminding them of is that you remembered that they lived, and …that is a great gift.

If you avoid conflict to keep the peace you start a war inside yourself.

Your greatest test will be how you handle people who mistreated you.

I pray you heal from things no one ever apologized for.

Literally every person is messed up, so pick your favorite train wreck and roll with it.