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A lot of things broke my heart but fixed my vision.

Love yourself a little extra right now. You’re learning, growing, and discovering yourself all at once. It’s about to get magical for you.

Some people aren’t good at asking for help because they’re so used to being ‘the helper.’ Throughout their life they’ve experienced an unbalanced give and take, so their instinct is usually ‘I’ll figure it out on my own.’ The self-reliance is all they’ve ever known.

Sometimes everything hits you all at once. You lose a relationship, change jobs, old friends go and new ones come. It’s up one day and down the next. You have it all together on Monday and by Thursday you don’t have a clue. Life is one big wave and all we can do is flow, grow, and adapt.

The biggest lesson for me this year has been ‘just keep going.’ Lost everything? Just keep going. Don’t know what you’re doing? Just keep going. $0.88 in the bank? Just keep going. People played you? Just keep going. No obstacle has been able to crush me. I keep going.

Empathy has no script. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. It’s simply listening, holding space, withholding judgment, emotionally connecting, and communicating that incredibly healing message of ‘You’re not alone.’

Every time I judge someone else, I reveal an unhealed part of myself.

Sometimes I punish myself for having unproductive days, but then I’m reminded that I’m only human and breaks are necessary. Don’t feel guilty for putting something on pause temporarily while you reconnect with yourself and find a balance. Remember, your mental health comes first.

When other people treat you poorly, keep being you. Don’t ever let someone else’s bitterness change the person you are.

If you understood how frequently people cope by projecting, you’d learn to take absolutely nothing personally.

Look at your daily habits and ask yourself if they are causing you to evolve or revolve. Are you moving forward, or just moving in circles?

Life changes. You lose love. You lose friends. You lose pieces of yourself that you never imagined would be gone. And then, without you even realizing it, these pieces come back. New love enters. Better friends come along. And a stronger, wiser you is staring back in the mirror.

Just because you’re taking longer than others doesn’t mean you’re a failure. Keep going.

You either like me or you don’t. It took me twenty-something years to learn how to love myself. I don’t have that kinda time to convince somebody else.

We can’t always choose the music life plays for us, but we can choose how we dance to it.

People with weird personalities make the best friends. Being able to be openly weird actually relieves stress and anxiety.

Never underestimate the power of a hot shower, clean sheets, and a long nap.

Severe early childhood trauma creates a child with equally intense coping mechanisms—these children are often seen as ‘mature for their age’ and ‘old souls.’ While maybe true, it often negates the fact that their innocence was taken away at an early age and they are in survival mode.

Spend time with people who are good for your mental health.

Understand that healing and growing can distance you from people who you once had a bond with, and it can also bring you closer to those who will heal and grow with you. The time in between can be difficult, but there is so much to learn in solitude.